male child minder...would you use??

OrkneyStar

ViolaLass wrote: »

Have you read the thread?

Yes thanks.
I thought it was a point worth making again though.

amus

notanewuser wrote: »

I consider myself a feminist - as in there's nothing I can't do just because I'm female. If you're coming at this from a feminist perspective, surely you should be wanting women to have equal opportunities to men in all regards, positive and negative..........??

So you're suggesting despite overwhelming evidence to the contrary, women should be regarded as being equal to men when it comes to commenting on the likelihood of them committing certain crimes?

Same goes the other way. Statistically males are more likely to succeed in committing suicide. This is a plain and simple fact.

Im all for equality, but denial of the facts no.

Feminism isnt about denying that there are differences between males and females, that would be ridiculous. There are things you cannot do because you are female, the same way there are things men cannot do precisely because they are male e.g. pregnancy, breastfeeding.

kettlefish

If qualifications, experience and general "feel" of the childminder and their home were all the same, I'd actively choose a male childminder over a female. My DD has a very active and loving dad (my husband) around, but it'd be me going back to work part-time and so it'd make sense to me for her to have time in the week with a male (childminder) and time with a female (me). Obviously weekends she'd have both (me and DH).

There is a male childminder in our area who comes to the children's centre regularly - he's lovely. A brilliant playmate and friend for the little ones, yet also authoritative and firm when necessary. The only thing that concerns me, OP, is that you're doing this for convenience rather than a real love of working with kids. I imagine it will grind you down (as you will be "on call" a lot of the time, and your home is no longer truly your own) if your heart's not really in it! That could be said about a lot of jobs, though, to be fair ... The bloke I know has wanted to be a childminder for many years and gave up a good career to do so - this passion doesn't really come across in your post (although it may well be there, of course!) Looking after someone else's kids is bloody hard work, is all.

trevorsminted

Julie2710 - That's my thoughts it is all very well pulling the "they have been checked and passed under a disclosure" ??? that means nothing it could mean they just haven't been caught.

And equally what about Vanessa George and the like we wouldn't think twice of a female child-minder yet then set it up and then bring the p____o partner round!?

I think instinct has a lot to play and gut instinct either that or we just watch our own kids if so paranoid

Steveswift

I am a Male college Lecturer who is considering doing this very thing. How did it work out OP ?




Steve

thorsoak

Kayalana99 wrote: »

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

Sadly there have been several cases where FEMALE nursery workers have sexually abused young children (including babies) - some of them have been mothers as well. So if we take your arguments to the extreme, then NO mother should leave ANY child with anyone other than themselves ....and not even with the other parent!

99.9999% of the population - of either sex - abuse children - and we have to remember that.

thorsoak

....just realised that I've responded to a point on an old thread

itsanne

thorsoak wrote: »

....just realised that I've responded to a point on an old thread

And missed out a very important word !

thorsoak

itsanne wrote: »

And missed out a very important word !

Sorry - my bad!:o:o