male child minder...would you use??

supersaver2

All this talk of playing rough being a reason to use a male childminder, would childminders actually be allowed to play rough with children in this day and age!

I'm a bloke and would use a male or female childminder for my daughter, as long as they were trained and me and the wife and our daughter were all happy. I do think a lot depends on the age of the child in question, I do think males would be better suited looking after toddlers and women after very small babies, not sure why, but just using my own personal experience, of course there will be exceptions.

My daughter was born at 24 gestation and after spending 5 months in hospital we saw no male neo natal nurses on our ward, even most of the Consultants were female.

amus

ViolaLass wrote: »

Your child COULD also get hit by an asteroid. Are you going to stop them ever leaving the house?

You seem to be jumping to some pretty outlandish conclusions. You know what they say about assuming....


All my posts have done is point out statistical likelihoods.


Yet you have jumped to the conclusion that a. I wouldn't let my children be cared for by a male childminder and that b. by jumping to conclusion a. I wouldn't/shouldn't let my child out because statistically, he could get hit by an asteroid.


Still, lets not let the facts get in the way of you getting your knickers in a twist....

ViolaLass

amus wrote: »

Yet you have jumped to the conclusion that a. I wouldn't let my children be cared for by a male childminder and that b. by jumping to conclusion a. I wouldn't/shouldn't let my child out because statistically, he could get hit by an asteroid.

The original post that started this discussion was by someone stating that they would not let their female child be cared for by a male childminder. I have always been responding to that post.

And no, I don't think you shouldn't/wouldn't let your child out because of possible danger from asteroids - I was giving an extreme example to point out that some dangers are so small that we ignore them otherwise you can't live.

I do know what they say about assuming. However, I have made no assumptions, merely presented a case. Statistical likelihoods have to be viewed within the greater picture of ALL likelihoods otherwise increases or decreases of probability can be blown out of proportion.

notanewuser

inkie wrote: »

I really can't see why people object to Male midwives. The likelihood is that if you run into problems on labour ward the obstetrician on call is likely to be male, and so you can't say then I want a woman, as there ain't one around at that time.

My mum did almost 36 years ago when she had me. She was very badly damaged (emotionally and physically) during labour and was treated appallingly afterwards. They sent a male midwife to check her stats and stitches etc which she felt was hugely inappropriate at the time as there was no way he could have any sort of sympathy/understanding of how she felt.

When I was in labour I couldn't have cared less if an elephant or ostrich had delivered my baby (it was actually a female consultant), but afterwards, when recouperating in the high dependency ward I was in 2 minds about letting the male midwife remove the wadding they put inside to stem the bleeding. It just seemed rather insensitive to me.

Bangton

To answer OPs question - yes of course I'd use a male childminder and nor would I care if he was single. Go for it !

amus

ViolaLass wrote: »

The original post that started this discussion was by someone stating that they would not let their female child be cared for by a male childminder. I have always been responding to that post.

And no, I don't think you shouldn't/wouldn't let your child out because of possible danger from asteroids - I was giving an extreme example to point out that some dangers are so small that we ignore them otherwise you can't live.

I do know what they say about assuming. However, I have made no assumptions, merely presented a case. Statistical likelihoods have to be viewed within the greater picture of ALL likelihoods otherwise increases or decreases of probability can be blown out of proportion.

Well if you're not making assumptions on my point of view why are you quoting me and saying YOUR child could got hit by an asteroid, does that mean YOU aren't going to let them out?

I agree decisions we make are based on a number of factors not just statistical likelihoods, I have not said otherwise, however my original post was pointing out that IF the poster was basing her decision not to allow her child to go to a male childminder based on statistics, that decision could not be described as irrational.

The extent to which we should rely on statistics to inform our opinion in everyday life is a whole other debate and is not what I was getting at.

masonsmum

Im glad someone else actually started this thread, my H2B is a carpenter/joiner on the building sites and with the downturn in the industry he gets more and more depressed and has also had some time off over the past year with back troubles due to his heavy lifting at work!

He has great patience and ideas when working with children including our own, all the kids in the street love him and he is always out in the garden playing games and having fun with our kids and their friends, it was something we discussed, but we didnt know where to start or whether people would "accept" a male childminder!

I personally would not have the patience to do that kind of role but that would leave me open to work more hours at my work as he would be at home for the kids! Need to think more about this now??

ViolaLass

amus wrote: »

Well if you're not making assumptions on my point of view why are you quoting me and saying YOUR child could got hit by an asteroid, does that mean YOU aren't going to let them out?

I explained why in the post that you quoted.

OrkneyStar

Kayalana99 wrote: »

Got to be honest... wouldn't use a male child minder with a female child.

So wouldn't you use a female child minder with a male child either then?

jammother

I'm with Amus - if you want to know the percentage of female offenders versus male then a quick Google will provide all the answers you need. You may call it donkey work but I'm stating the statistics on a public forum and not trying to defend an academic argument in a viva!

But demanding our evidence is beside the point of the OP's question which asks would people feel about a male child minder - no need to take it off track.

And notanewuser, if you think having a male midwife come and check your stitches after birth is insensitive - then imagine how I feel, who was raped as a child, to have you demanding I back up evidence on !!!!!philia.