male child minder...would you use??

ViolaLass

OrkneyStar wrote: »

So wouldn't you use a female child minder with a male child either then?

Have you read the thread?

neverdespairgirl

Vicky123 wrote: »

My ex would have had a hissy fit though, but then he had a hissy fit if a woman held a "man's job" totally sexist and it worked both ways.

Sounds like a good reason for him to be an "ex"!

inkie wrote: »

I really can't see why people object to Male midwives. The likelihood is that if you run into problems on labour ward the obstetrician on call is likely to be male, and so you can't say then I want a woman, as there ain't one around at that time.

I had a male midwife for part of the time I was in labour, and it didn't bother me at all. Actually, by that point, anyone who was being helpful and nice to me was perfectly welcome to come on in (-:

jakes-mum

I have no problem with a male child carer, when DD was at nursery they had one male nursery nurse and he was very popular with the children. I was a bit surprised when I first met him as tbh it had never occurred to me one of the nurses would be male but DD was happy around him so I was happy. He had exactly the same checks as all the female staff, all the same qualifications so I didnt see a problem

EDIT: I also dont have a problem with male midwives, DS was delivered by a man (I actually think he was a doctor as DS was in distress) and he was a darn sight nicer to me than the female midwife who told me to stop complaining as she had had 3 children and delivered countless babies, I wasnt special

notanewuser

jammother wrote: »

I'm with Amus - if you want to know the percentage of female offenders versus male then a quick Google will provide all the answers you need. You may call it donkey work but I'm stating the statistics on a public forum and not trying to defend an academic argument in a viva!

But demanding our evidence is beside the point of the OP's question which asks would people feel about a male child minder - no need to take it off track.

And notanewuser, if you think having a male midwife come and check your stitches after birth is insensitive - then imagine how I feel, who was raped as a child, to have you demanding I back up evidence on !!!!!philia.

You obviously have a different bias to me - I'm not sure how I was supposed to know of your background, not being clairvoyant, but there we go. I'm sorry that you went through what you did.

The male midwife didn't come to check my stitches - that was my mum. In my case the male midwife had to put his fingers into me to remove wadding. I couldn't have cared less about him being at the birth - he might have been for all I know - but in the hours afterwards it somehow seemed odd to have a bloke doing something so intimate.

themull1

i would hire a male childminder, definitely.

ilovelondontown

I'm sorry I know it's childish (excuse the pun) but this whole thread I've been thinking in my head the line from F.r.i.e.n.d.s "You've got a man who's a nanny? You've got a manny?!"

But to answer the question I think men make great caregivers and role models. All my favourate people in my life are men- father, husband, brother... Go for it OP, and best of luck!

notanewuser

Have done 3 quick google searches and can't find any bonafide statistics easily............

maginot

ViolaLass wrote: »

Your child COULD also get hit by an asteroid. Are you going to stop them ever leaving the house?

It would be more irrational to ever have them in the house. As statistically more injuries, accidents and abuse happen in the home!
How could you live with the responsibility!

I'm amazed such sexism exists still today! Who cares the sex of anyone who may be good at a job!

amus

https://www.gov.uk/government/uploads/system/uploads/attachment_data/file/214970/sexual-offending-overview-jan-2013.pdf

Here you go, you may find pages 32 and 50 of particular interest.

amus

maginot wrote: »

It would be more irrational to ever have them in the house. As statically more injuries, accidents and abuse happen in the home!
How could you live with the responsibility!

I'm amazed such sexism exists still today! Who cares the sex of anyone who may be good at a job!

Really, you were under the impression sexism didn't exist? Or does it only count when it's directed towards males