male child minder...would you use??

cannyscot_2

I would definately have used one for my youngest a boy and but probs not for my little girl as she would have been reluctant with a man. There is definately a market but as all childminders you will suit soem folk but not others. The fact you are a dad will be in your favour with most.

notanewuser

jammother wrote: »

This is one thing that is a bugbear of mine: people commenting aggressively that women can be child abusers too. Indeed women can be !!!!!philes but the figures state that this is only the case in 5 to 10% of cases. In half of those cases there is a male perpetrator alongside the female abuser (the two cases mentioned Rose West and Myra Hindley are perfect examples). Men are statistically more likely to commit child abuse and so it is natural that someone would be more wary of leaving their child with a man than a woman. I'm not saying it is right, just that given the facts, parents are more suspicious of men than women.

Can you share the source of your statistics, please?

What proportion of the UK population is (likely to be a) pedophile?

Troutwrestler

My first though was no, I wouldn't use a male childminder. But having read through the posts I'm questioning myself as to why? It shouldn't matter really

Erinnire

I would,I think my youngest DD would get on better with more male influences in her life as she is a rough and tumble kind of girl, my eldest also has some behaviour issues and I fell these can be pandered too abit by women.

However, their Dad veto'd having a male au pair and would cause me more stress than its worth getting a male childminder that I probably wouldn't bother.

I've told him it is ridiculous but I think his problem is more someone becoming close to the children in a 'fatherly' role and liking the CM more than him... Which is also completley silly.

stiltwalker

My DH works short hours and is very much an important presence in our kids lives but I would still be very interested in a male childminder (should we ever need one), partly because of that - the kids are used to and like having a man about! For a secondary reason, both our kids have physical disabilities and so have lift/handling requirements which a man would be particularly well suited to. This may be another avenue to look at - we get direct payments for DD to employ carers to help and give us some respite at the moment we use them mostly for evenings out however other friends use them to help with their kids on days out/stay and play, school holidays etc - for some of them as their kids (mostly boys) get older and stronger actively seek to employ male carers. If this is something you feel you could do then I'm sure there are many parents out there who would welcome you.

notanewuser

There is one male member of staff at DD's playgroup (there are 6 females). He is totally capable and the children love him.

I'm not sure whether he's ever changed DD's nappy, but if he hasn't then the girls aren't that great at it. She's come home 3 times with her nappy on backwards! I don't understand how anybody could even do that!

marisco_2

I don't think someone's relationship status should come into it, when considering whether or not they are suitable for employment and carrying out a role. It is important that you are fully qualified and have a clear background so as any checks on you come back fine.

I work in a school where there is a mix of male and female teachers. Some of us are married, others single. Some have kids of our own, some have grandkids, others are childless. We all have our own unique teaching styles and approaches to the children in our classes. What counts is that regardless of our statuses we are all good at and dedicated to what we do.

I'd like to wish you the best of luck with looking into this opportunity and hope that it works out for you.

Spendless

I think you would be very much in demand with families who have boys and of course you'd have to have the required training etc, that is a given regardless of who is registering to be a childminder, surprised there's so many posts saying 'providing you are.......'

sooty&sweep

Hi

I think it's a great idea ! Go for it !

Jen

Vicky123

My boys are too old for childminders now but I would have loved one when they were little, so I would have to say, like it or not there is a gender thing, all the female nursery staff over mummied them, they wanted to get into more boy stuff, youngest is special needs and does so well around males, but probably experience trumps gender.
My ex would have had a hissy fit though, but then he had a hissy fit if a woman held a "man's job" totally sexist and it worked both ways.