male child minder...would you use??

Georgiegirl256

Kayalana99 wrote: »

No, but on that 0.00001% chance that he was, I would have to live with the fact that I put my child with this person + she would have to live with what happened ofc.

I could just never take that risk how ever small.

And as much as I have to admit to the bolded text, you have to draw the line with who you trust, but a family members friend is going though the process of JUST this because someone close in her family has abused her 4 year old.... it makes me sick to my stomach what is going on but the fact is because of the chance that it COULD happen I just couldn't bare to be the person responsible for leaving my child with this person.

So you would never leave your child alone with their Dad or Grandad? That is actually really sad....:( I was so close to my Granda, and I am a real Daddy's girl, tbh, I'm probably closer to the male members of my family than the female (not including my Mam in that of course, as I am really close with her too), so I just can't get my head around it, your daughter is missing out on some quality Daddy & Daughter time.

Georgiegirl256

Forgot to say, OP, I think it's a great idea, and wish you lots of luck in your venture should you decide to do it!

scousedave

Thank you all so much for all your brilliant posts.
I would I would like to add that I am not in a relationship at present.
There have been many positive posts...just wondering if peoples attitude would change if it were a single male childminder they were considering.
Please keep your posts comming as I need as much info as possible.
Thank you

pigpen

scousedave wrote: »

Thank you all so much for all your brilliant posts.
I would I would like to add that I am not in a relationship at present.
There have been many positive posts...just wondering if peoples attitude would change if it were a single male childminder they were considering.
Please keep your posts comming as I need as much info as possible.
Thank you

Not to me.. I don't think a relationship status is relevant.. same as I wouldn't care what religion or sexual orientation a male CM was either.. what would be important is that my child was happy and its needs met and that the 3 of us had a good working relationship.

fashionlover10

I don't have children yet but I can't see any reason why I wouldn't use a male child minder and I'm pretty sure OH would be in favour too. I definitely would encourage my child to socialise with a mix of adults as I wouldn't want one particular group of people e.g men to be seen as people to fear etc.

As a child I attended a nursery run by a male teacher who I have fond memories of. My mum and the parents of other children all seemed happy with him. I recall a lot of people, children and parents, feeling sad when they heard he was retiring so I guess he must have done a good job.

The only male teacher I remember not liking was simply because of his personality and nothing to do with his gender. I'm not sure he was cut out for teaching 7 year olds really.

Gillyx

Most definitely yes, providing he had the required qualifications and we were on the same page in regards to my LO.

My LO is very boisterous and loves rough and tumble and from my experience men seem to be better at meeting this need with him, but that's not to say our ideal childminder wouldn't be a woman

RichardD1970

pigpen wrote: »

Not to me.. I don't think a relationship status is relevant.. same as I wouldn't care what religion or sexual orientation a male CM was either.. what would be important is that my child was happy and its needs met and that the 3 of us had a good working relationship.

This ^^^^^

pinkladyof66

My son who has special needs favours men over women, if i could have found a male childminder I would have hired him... My son is so much better behaved and more himself in male company... even though he has dad at home I would have loved the male influence on him.. Op I say great idea go ahead and train and do it I am sure that once you have done the training and got the checks done, parents will be queuing at your door.

notanewuser

Takeaway_Addict wrote: »

I don't know is the honest answer but what happens if the Black consultant takes it further because his employer didn't step in to prevent the blatent discrimination?

I don't know of any cases where that has happened.


ETA - have searched all of the professional HR resources available to me and can't find a single complaint being brought.

NiallB

susan1 wrote: »

There are loads of male Paediatric Nurses around and no one bats an eyelid, what's the difference?

Bloody Paediatrics get everywhere! There could be one living IN YOUR STREET!!

(can't find a 'depressingly ironic' smiley, use your imaginations)