Birthday/Christmas presents for married children and partners

AlwaysAllie

Is it only me who never actually considers the monetary value of anything I'm given or is given to anyone else??

I was also brought up to be grateful for a present!!

AA

CH27

Mojisola wrote: »

I agree with this. My parents always treated my OH the same as me and his parents spend about the same on us both.

If they didn't, it would say to me that I wasn't as important as my OH. None of us expect presents but loud messages can be given out by the choice of present.

But I would never expect to be as important to my inlaws as their own son is.

thorsoak

Surely it doesn't matter how much you spend, it's how carefully you choose a present for the recipient!

Torry_Quine

AlwaysAllie wrote: »

Is it only me who never actually considers the monetary value of anything I'm given or is given to anyone else??

I was also brought up to be grateful for a present!!

AA

When you're given cash or vouchers then it's obvious what the value is.

CH27 wrote: »

But I would never expect to be as important to my inlaws as their own son is.

My MIL (now deceased) said I was the daughter she never had.

angeltreats

My lovely in laws spend the same on their kids in law as they do on their biological kids. We either get a cheque each, or if they've found presents they know we'd like it's always to the same value or we will get a cheque for the difference. Plus we all get a stocking each which I love. Saying that, my in laws are a bit special. I wouldn't care if I got nothing but am grateful to be treated as if I was one of their own, if you see what I mean.

My parents spend a bit more on me than they do on DH, I think. But they don't have a lot of money and they do their best, it's certainly not to make a point or anything like that.

Personally I think she's overreacting a bit, and should be grateful to get anything.

themull1

My mam keeps me and oh the same, we get the same money for birthdays and the same amount of stuff at christmas.

CH27

Torry_Quine wrote: »

When you're given cash or vouchers then it's obvious what the value is.



My MIL (now deceased) said I was the daughter she never had.

That's lovely.

LEJC

Even my husband started to become embarrased when his parents gave him a gift and nothing other than a card for me....so on his suggestion to them cards is the only thing exchanged between us all now.

MIL was miffed a little at first because it meant no lovely present for her but after 15 years of nothing for me and presents to them that probably hubby has no input to other than to deliver,even he could see it was a little onesided.

ognum

Mojisola wrote: »

I agree with this. My parents always treated my OH the same as me and his parents spend about the same on us both.

If they didn't, it would say to me that I wasn't as important as my OH. None of us expect presents but loud messages can be given out by the choice of present.

I think that this is my friends point, she wouldn't care if her MIL bought her a carefully thought out gift, the monetary value wouldn't count, but, it's always money and she gets £10 and her hubby gets £100.

her MIL could just give them a joint pressy but she insists on separate pressy for them.

globetraveller

we don't give each adult in the family a present at xmas. what we do is each buy one of the adults a present. For birthdays, his family have never as adults done more than send a card- which they are all happy with. My immediate family do buy each other presents. I do actually buy for his mum and dad though as I feel guilty just buying for my own.
I would say my parents spend the same of birthday presents for me and for OH. But then its not exact as they do go for what they think we will like rather than making sure they spend the same. But TBH we don't go overboard anyway.