Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

zagubov

lemonjelly wrote: »

A lazy stereotype, based on a female being grumpy simply because she wants to, even though the reason for grumpiness has been addressed, & the 3rd party has even gone to lengths to make sure grumpiness does not happen, yet this makes the female grumpier because she wants to be!

I had similar problems - hence the strange font.

So that's why. I got no reply off webmaster. Has it been sorted?

I think some browsers don't have problems e.g. chrome.
You can also go to User CP, click on edit options, miscellaneous options and switch to standard editor; then you can post with smileys.

zagubov

lemonjelly wrote: »

Rant alert - friends who don't behave like friends.



Another friend from the same circle has become very aloof recently. For a while, we both maintained regular contact. However this has tailed off significantly in the past 6 months or so. Granted now he has a baby time is a factor, but how long does it take to send a text or similar. Anyhows, I feel that it is predominantly me making the first move (hi mate, when you free etc etc). Getting very very fed up with responses along the lines of "dunno, will let you know" followed by a series of excuses as to why they're not free at all for 4 weeks, even for 20 minutes to drop off a present or similar.

I'm getting very very fed up with this now, & am sorely tempted to send a snotty email or text, but know the likely consequence of such an action.

Having read this back, I'm not sure why I posted this. I'll leave it as a cathartic exercise I suppose, but I'm getting very annoyed with people who are supposed to be friends not behaving like friends should.

I doubt he's being aloof. Having a kid puts your schedules, priorities and plans into a blender and sets it to full blast. He'll be staggering about not noticing he's neglecting all his mates.

Spirit_2

lemonjelly wrote: »

Having read this back, I'm not sure why I posted this. I'll leave it as a cathartic exercise I suppose, but I'm getting very annoyed with people who are supposed to be friends not behaving like friends should.

There have been times when life has been harder where I have found even small communications about staying in touch 'too much trouble'. I have sort of gone even quieter and regrouped. Or just vegged. To the outside world it could look like cba but without attitude.

When I have resurfaced though, friends were just where we left off.

neverdespairgirl

lemonjelly wrote: »

A lazy stereotype, based on a female being grumpy simply because she wants to, even though the reason for grumpiness has been addressed, & the 3rd party has even gone to lengths to make sure grumpiness does not happen, yet this makes the female grumpier because she wants to be!

fair enough. At least I did tell OH I loved him at the same time as grumping, though!

lemonjelly wrote: »

However this has tailed off significantly in the past 6 months or so. Granted now he has a baby time is a factor, but how long does it take to send a text or similar. Anyhows, I feel that it is predominantly me making the first move (hi mate, when you free etc etc). Getting very very fed up with responses along the lines of "dunno, will let you know" followed by a series of excuses as to why they're not free at all for 4 weeks, even for 20 minutes to drop off a present or similar.

I do understand your rant - but to be fair to your mate, having a newborn baby is incredibly, unbelievably overwhelming, so it's probably not personal.

bugslet

Sorry NDG, only just caught up with the fact you were burgled over the weekend.

Were you at home whilst the toerags broke in?

As I understand it, they can be remarkably inventive when accessing property unfortunately and seize an opportunity that you and I just would not see.

neverdespairgirl

bugslet wrote: »

Sorry NDG, only just caught up with the fact you were burgled over the weekend.

Were you at home whilst the toerags broke in?

As I understand it, they can be remarkably inventive when accessing property unfortunately and seize an opportunity that you and I just would not see.

yes, we were all innocently tucked up in our own beds downstairs, while Scroat A was breaking into the alleyway, climbing over the fire escape railings, dancing along a window ledge 16 feet above the ground, entering our kitchen window upstairs, and leaving again the same way, burdened with my laptop, phone, oyster card and ipod.

bugslet

If only they would put so much effort into a legal way of 'earning' money. I think by the sound of it he could audition for Cirque du Soleil.

Good luck with him ( or her) being caught, of my three burglaries and one attempted this year ( between work and home) none of them have been.

lemonjelly

zagubov wrote: »

I doubt he's being aloof. Having a kid puts your schedules, priorities and plans into a blender and sets it to full blast. He'll be staggering about not noticing he's neglecting all his mates.

Spirit wrote: »

There have been times when life has been harder where I have found even small communications about staying in touch 'too much trouble'. I have sort of gone even quieter and regrouped. Or just vegged. To the outside world it could look like cba but without attitude.

When I have resurfaced though, friends were just where we left off.

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

I do understand your rant - but to be fair to your mate, having a newborn baby is incredibly, unbelievably overwhelming, so it's probably not personal.

I appreciate all your points, & there is likely some/a lot of truth in them. I guess I'm frustrated that the comms that do happen are very half baked, if that.

It is probably tied in to the fact that a couple of other so called friends are doing similar (some without the newborn excuse!) & it all seems to be happening at once.

Plus me being a miserable so and so...

lostinrates

lemonjelly wrote: »

I appreciate all your points, & there is likely some/a lot of truth in them. I guess I'm frustrated that the comms that do happen are very half baked, if that.

It is probably tied in to the fact that a couple of other so called friends are doing similar (some without the newborn excuse!) & it all seems to be happening at once.

Lemon jelly, are the other friends having similar life changes? Marriage/ babies etc? Whilst we cover both groups still...and me mainly via email....there does seem to be a growing gulf between some our more 'grown up' friends and our ' still young' friends...who know each other.

I think sometimes its a mutual sort of envy, and sometimes its a lack of understanding of what each others life entails ( and I pointed out to a married with kid who visited last week that the singles who have grown up don't all have the same lifestyle as 'we' used to and they aren't necessarily as free as we used to be as he was suggesting in a bit of a rant'. Fwiw he also couldn't understand why we weren't going to stay with them and DH said he kept asking how I was every time I left the room, like 'she seems ok' or 'is she ok' or 'should you check on her, she was blue':rotfl:

PasturesNew

neverdespairgirl wrote: »

...within a foot of ...

SUPER LUCKY there! I'm so glad the irreplaceable didn't vanish.

It does seem odd though, to be overlooked. Obviously one person, probably first timer. Maybe heard a noise and got scared so scarpered quick.

Leaving laptop leads was odd.

Didn't think to look round for a bag.

Amateur, opportunist, first timer, alone.... is my amateur guess.