Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

Spirit_2

Nikkster wrote: »

I've never managed to get rid of the spots; that the hormones are still active is pleasant news.

Oh to be young or a lady

And yet again, I should stress, there is zero danger of anything more exciting .....
I am planning on sourcing a new outfiit - as mentioned, already seen my full repertoire of work outfits

Unless you are a working girl, I could not imagine that he had seen your full repertoire of work outfits that included underwear.

You have previously described your frugal habits and I was thinking you may well bowl him over, passion overtakes you, and should be prepared with new, matching, pretty undies.

(Nikkster I am sorry ,and a I hope michaels doesn't read this) .

chewmylegoff

Spirit wrote: »

It is a road to Damascus experience.

Having told my team, and told NP..I am committed. I have dithered for months. OH has wanted this for a few years.

Not mentioned it to my daughter yet as I want to have works agreement before I tell more folk in RL.

There are a few people who work part time at work - they all take either Monday or Friday off, rather than splitting the week in the middle. I think it seems to work better for them and their colleagues that way. I know from my own experience that if I take tues, weds or Thurs off as holiday I spend the whole day on the blackberry and people also seem more inclined to try to rope you into work calls. Mondays and Fridays are much better for me as psychologically the week is either over or hasn't started yet.

But would have thought that you could just trial it to see what works best for you, a couple of weeks of different working patterns as a trial run and then go with what works the best?

Nikkster

lostinrates wrote: »

No sympathy from me.....you were offered first refusal on my 'if she is still available call xxx list' .....:rotfl:

Please be careful of your feelings. I'm being sensible for once and keeping my opinions to myself, but take care sweets.

Pills definitely taken a meant to be today, but I have reached tha state if nervous energy that makes sleep hard. Just had nice stroll with dogs ( beautiful outside tonight) and winding down towards mediating myself into sleep.

Tomorrow maybe I'll be less grumpy. :D

Thanks for the concern. With my history of poor choices it is genuinely well appreciated. Fir is a complete love - but long may he be your love. I could never in a million years match up to you. Or even try to.

'This' (note use of apostrophes, I know this is imaginary) truly is just a crush (from me, I don't think for a second there is anything other than a very genuine friendship at most from the other side). I'm travelling up with others, and there are quite a lot of other people I know who will also be attending the same event (including email man, but I now know other people are dealing with more intense situations - a glass of wine at the intro session of the conference and I'll happily look email main in the eye and ask him how he is with a smile ). Lovely man I am sure is much too lovely to even think of doing anything behind anyone's back (part of the attraction, I think). I suggested meeting up with another colleague invited in - the reply included everyone (just that the other colleagues hasn't said anything about meeting up).

This genuinely is just me having a crush and somehow not managing to let on so I don't seem to have scared the crushee off. We'll go for a drink (probably with a couple of my colleagues in tow, and possibly one of his), I'll be doe-y eyed and happy that I've rediscovered I have a pulse and that will be that. If I'm very lucky, we will be in any kind of contact after the end of the year, Still feels like a massive jump start to my consciousness, and perhaps suggests I need to make sure I try to get out and about next year with an open mind (rather than closed heart) to meeting people.

chewmylegoff

Decided this evening over dinner that we would put in an offer in the morning. Going to open up £90k under the asking price so I don't think I'll be reporting an accepted offer this time tomorrow but it will be interesting to see whether the agent vomits down the phone at me or not.

Nikkster

Spirit wrote: »

Unless you are a working girl, I could not imagine that he had seen your full repertoire of work outfits that included underwear.

You have previously described your frugal habits and I was thinking you may well bowl him over, passion overtakes you, and should be prepared with new, matching, pretty undies.

(Nikkster I am sorry ,and a I hope michaels doesn't read this) .

I work, and have done for a few years, but don't think I've ever done anything to be described as a 'working girl'.

He hasn't seen any of my underwear as far as I know. My work underwear is 'functional' at best and weekends is worse (sports bras rather than normal ones). I don't anticipate for a moment that he is likely to see any of them (even the thought would scare the life out of me- has been a while!) at any point in the future. As per previous interview/ viva conversations, I would go for something comfortable/ familiar and effective. Under some hopefully new (and therefore different, not that I think he would notice) clothes. I'm not aiming for him to see any underwear or even remotely expecting him to. It is just not going to happen. This is truly a teenage crush (mine) on someone who is genuinely a very sweet (albeit hot) person.
It is just such a (pleasant) surprise to feel anything like this about anyone ever again. Makes me realise (in addition to buying a house) that I need to get out and about and at least try to meet people who I might like to share experiences with. It is much less fun doing everything on your own.

Edit - and just to underline: he is in a relationship. Therefore a no-go - at least on my part and I am pretty much certain on his part (nice man, as I said).

Edit 2 - and even if he wasn't spoken for it is a hell of a leap to think (dream) that he would be interested. I think thinner and blonder is more his type...

zagubov

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Decided this evening over dinner that we would put in an offer in the morning. Going to open up £90k under the asking price so I don't think I'll be reporting an accepted offer this time tomorrow but it will be interesting to see whether the agent vomits down the phone at me or not.

Am I remembering wrong or did you use to own a house some time ago? You sound very philosophical and level-headed dealing with the hassle of it, which is the best way to be, really.

Nikkster

chewmylegoff wrote: »

Decided this evening over dinner that we would put in an offer in the morning. Going to open up £90k under the asking price so I don't think I'll be reporting an accepted offer this time tomorrow but it will be interesting to see whether the agent vomits down the phone at me or not.

So I'm guessing that you would actually pay a little more?

Good luck. It's terrifying.

Though I found an offer being accepted was even more terrifying, then contracts exchanging was a notch up. Actually completing and getting the keys was off the scale (though I was buying on a single salary much less than yours).

If it doesn't work out, keep faith that something better is round the corner. I think it increases the chance of finding it (then cancel your rightmove alerts, which I have yet to do).

chewmylegoff

I inherited half of a 1930s semi next to a vet's surgery in kent in 2003. It was a bit of a wreck with minor subsidence issues.

We are about to try to buy a 1930s semi in Surrey next to a vet's surgery which is a bit of a wreck with minor subsidence issues.

If I'm honest I'm not that happy about the prospect of another renovation project as I got very bored of the last one but if we want a house soon then we need to make sacrifices and get on with it.

LydiaJ

Spirit wrote: »

Unless you are a working girl, I could not imagine that he had seen your full repertoire of work outfits that included underwear.

You have previously described your frugal habits and I was thinking you may well bowl him over, passion overtakes you, and should be prepared with new, matching, pretty undies.

(Nikkster I am sorry ,and a I hope michaels doesn't read this) .

Nikkster has been recovering from a diastrous relationship. The last thing she needs right now is to get actually involved with somebody who already has a gf, and I shouldn't imagine that a steamy one night stand with somebody who then goes back to his gf would do much for her emotional health at this stage either. If she thinks she might succumb, she'd be better off wearing OLD underwear to make sure she doesn't let him have a chance to see it.

Nikkster you sound to have your eyes open about this. One sided crushes on safely inaccessible people are a recognisable stage that adolescents go through when they need to explore those kinds of feelings without risking anything actually happening before they are ready for a real relationship. They may also be a natural stage in the journey from "can't imagine ever loving a man again" back to normal feelings. But lir is right to say beware. Remember that adolescent crushes on inaccessible people usually end up in agonisingly painful adolescent heartbreak. Unless you genuinely feel that that would be worth it, then steer clear of him. It might be worth it, though - in the way that it's worth going through the pain of thawing out your toes if you have frostbite rather than keeping them frozen forever to keep them anaesthetised.

Edit - Oh, and remember that when you have a crush on somebody you fill in all the gaps you don't know about them by assuming everything's perfect. The fact that you feel sure he wouldn't cheat on his gf doesn't actually mean that he wouldn't. It would be best to go prepared with a phrase or two you plan to use to turn him down if he tries anything on. Because after your previous bloke, you seriously do not need to get involved with the kind of guy who cheats.

LydiaJ

chewmylegoff wrote: »

I inherited half of a 1930s semi next to a vet's surgery in kent in 2003. It was a bit of a wreck with minor subsidence issues.

We are about to try to buy a 1930s semi in Surrey next to a vet's surgery which is a bit of a wreck with minor subsidence issues.

If I'm honest I'm not that happy about the prospect of another renovation project as I got very bored of the last one but if we want a house soon then we need to make sacrifices and get on with it.

Good luck.