Nice People Thread Part 9 - and so it continues

CKhalvashi

Met OH at some point in the mid 80s at Artek (one of the Ukrainian childrens summer camp things, and we were both diplomatic children), and we were probably about 5-7 at the time.

First date: October 1999, in Moscow.

Second date. A few nights after :eek:.

DD1 born 2000, DD2 born 2001

Proposed August 2004, when OH's visa was sorted (I'd been to/from Sochi, via Tbilisi for school holidays, and no less than once a month for the year before)

Will marry next year, as we've put it off for 9 years now, and we were looking into adoption of DD3/DS1, until my health problems last year. We probably will (we're looking at Georgia, and we need to be married for that anyway), when I'm a little better (although much better than I was)

lostinrates

LydiaJ wrote: »

Nor me. I watched a documentary a while ago about polygamy in Utah and Arizona - fascinating to learn about, but not something that appealed to me. :eek:

Jelly - is your heart set on a harem? It may make it more difficult for us to find people to put in your queue.

It's not hard to find men who love the idea of sharing, who'll smile wistfully and say what it might mean to them and what it wouldn't damage and so on and so forth. Until one suggests the share goes the other way. That separates those who really believe the stuff they were saying from the rest!

DH isn't a sharer.

lostinrates

Good luck misskool.

Just enjoy showing them what you know .

vivatifosi

lostinrates wrote: »

It's not hard to find men who love the idea of sharing, who'll smile wistfully and say what it might mean to them and what it wouldn't damage and so on and so forth. Until one suggests the share goes the other way. That separates those who really believe the stuff they were saying from the rest!

DH isn't a sharer.

I wonder if this is a man thing? NP men, what do you think? AIUI polygyny has been practiced in far more societies historically than polyandry.

michaels

Why would anyone want a second wife?

lostinrates

vivatifosi wrote: »

I wonder if this is a man thing? NP men, what do you think? AIUI polygyny has been practiced in far more societies historically than polyandry.

well, dh isn't sharer.

There is a different though between polyamory in marriage type setting , open relationships and multiples in bed. All have different issues, and I haven't tried them all, and never will now!

PasturesNew

Spirit wrote: »

It would not get through the filter.


At a team building event a couple of months ago, amongst the many challenges we had to complete, was one where two of us were picked to tell a joke that made th invigilator laugh.

I was picked and told mine. As one observer said of me afterwards ,"classy lady";)

Not sure what joke I'd tell.... I've never been a teller of jokes as a rule. I can often remember a punch line, but not the joke.

Sitting here, my mind's completely blank of any jokes.

PasturesNew

CKhalvashi wrote: »

... (one of the Ukrainian childrens summer camp things, and we were both diplomatic children)...

Posh alert!

silvercar

CKhalvashi wrote: »

Will marry next year, as we've put it off for 9 years now, and we were looking into adoption of DD3/DS1, until my health problems last year. We probably will (we're looking at Georgia, and we need to be married for that anyway), when I'm a little better (although much better than I was)

I know people who adopted and then had their own children; two couples I know adopted because they thought they couldn't have naturally but a few years down the line it all happened and one couple who adopted and then IVF techniques improved somewhat and were able to overcome their particular issue.

I don't know anyone who has adopted after having their own.

silvercar

Spirit wrote: »

Fast work NDG.

I mIn the olden days courtship was slower.

Met OH at work, we were both graduate trainees in the same blue chip. July 1980.

First date gin and tonic in a pub near work. Told him my only joke. It is absolutely awful and still the only joke I can remember. April 1981.

Second date. April 1981.

Proposed May 1982.

Married September 1983.

DD January 1988.

Met OH late 1982 first term at uni

1st date late 1983

Married late 1986

DS1 mid 1990

DS2 early 1994