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Ever acceptable to not pay for kids?
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Person_one wrote: »Seems strange though, I've never seen a thread like this where the ex is described as a normal, decent person who doesn't deserve to be screwed over, they alway deserves it, somehow...
If the ex is a normal, decent person there's no need to seek advise on an internet forum as the problem wouldn't arise.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
Social Services here have admitted unless they are being dangerously neglected (not fed etc) that they aren't interested. They don't care if they arent being washed or clothed properly, if they are witnessing violence, if their stepdads getting stoned in front of them and they have all kinds of violent criminals in and out their house!
I find this very hard to imagine that social services would turn a blind eye to this as my son was placed on at risk register at birth (and removed 18 months old) as was his older 5 year old brother. as this was the exact living conditions of my son. I think either you are elaborating your own thoughts or social services are doing a !!!! job
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peachyprice wrote: »If the ex is a normal, decent person there's no need to seek advise on an internet forum as the problem wouldn't arise.
But...the original problem, before we got into the [STRIKE]justification [/STRIKE]backstory, was that the OP had lost her job and money was short. That could happen however nice a person the ex is...0 -
Social services seem to be a waste of time, how many more children have to slip throught the net before something is done about everything that is going wrong????Treat other's how you like to be treated.
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pinkladyof66 wrote: »I find this very hard to imagine that social services would turn a blind eye to this as my son was placed on at risk register at birth (and removed 18 months old) as was his older 5 year old brother. as this was the exact living conditions of my son. I think either you are elaborating your own thoughts or social services are doing a !!!! job
Are you in England or Scotland?
Only asking, because I've noticed other posters on here from Scotland who seem to have had the same response from SS up there, they seem to be stuck in the dark ages in that they feel that a child is better off with their mother, regardless.
First time I came across it I was quite shocked, but then after reading other similar accounts it seems it's the norm.Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence and face your future without fear0 -
Ever acceptable to not pay for your kids?
No.
Said from the perspective of having been a PWC, an NRP and from the perspective of dating someone who finds it hard to make ends meet but always, ALWAYS, makes sure that the money for his children is paid every month without fail.
Oh. And from the perspective of someone who, shock, horror - has piercings and tattoos and knows what a spliff is.I could dream to wide extremes, I could do or die: I could yawn and be withdrawn and watch the world go by.Yup you are officially Rock n Roll
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Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »Ever acceptable to not pay for your kids?
No.
Said from the perspective of having been a PWC, an NRP and from the perspective of dating someone who finds it hard to make ends meet but always, ALWAYS, makes sure that the money for his children is paid every month without fail.
Oh. And from the perspective of someone who, shock, horror - has piercings and tattoos and knows what a spliff is.
Jojo, even when the care is shared 50/50?
From the point of view of a child whose dad never paid maintenance, I have a low opinion of men who don't give a monkeys whether their kids have a winter coat that fits.
But with shared care it's a bit different. He's providing a roof for half of the time, and food, and perhaps clothes and toys, etc?
I think it would be fair enough to pay whatever the government says he should, but I can see why he's afraid to upset the ex.52% tight0 -
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