Relationship getting unbearable-need advice

Dimey

HE'S HOW OLD !!!

I can't believe it. I'd pictured an immature 20yr old.
It gets worse. Late 30's !!!! Has he ever had a proper job?

First I was stunned. Now I'm rolling about laughing. :rotfl::rotfl:

He's seriously doing this on purpose. He has no plans to get his perfect job. Not by that age. In his teens/twenties, he's using you.... In his 30's he's artfully conning you. And I bet his parents know what he's doing. I bet they're embarrassed.

OMG. Forget my suggestion about the parent meeting. I thought helping the child that way would appeal to your wish to be kind. Now its totally inappropriate. He's 30s!!!!. It would be embarrassing. The parents saw him off long ago. They won't want him back. Just throw him out. You owe him nothing.

On the job front. Hang on in there. It sounds like they definitely plan for you to move into a new role. So wait to see what its like. Give it a chance for a few months.

When your stress at home is removed, you'll have more energy to focus on the new role and start thinking/ researching what you'd like to do in the longer term.

If you can't think of anything then do the best with the job you have and build a fun social life for a while. Have a holiday or two. Re-decorate your bedroom or lounge so home looks new. Join an evening or exercise class. There's lots you can do. When you're relaxed and happy again a job opportunity might crop up unexpectedly. As might a genuine new boyfriend who is a real gentleman.

TammBikky

Tight comment there. Didn't read past the first page on this thread, but I'll reaffirm what has been said there. Not your responsiblity. Tough love will perhaps cure him, and if it doesn't then what is lost? He has tough times and then will continue life at his parents - that much is obvious. Let him grind his own axe for a while, he might find that the role of a barman or mortgage vendor can get him the legs he needs to follow his as yet unaccomplished dreams. love and support to you!