Am i getting enough?????

paulineb_2

Every couple is different. And some people might have higher or lower sex drives than the other. One couples normal might be every day, one might be twice a week, one once a fortnight. The problems arise when one wants to be having sex more or less often.

And also, I think how the relationship is overall matters much more than how often you are sleeping together. There may be times where people go through stress, of course life is stressful, people deal with work issues, money worries, illness, having kids, bereavement. Even the happiest couple will go through testing times at some point in their relationship.

I dont think its as simple as to say a certain amount of sex is necessary for a relationship to survive. If people have sex twice a month and other people do it twice a day thats fair enough, its their relationships.

Of course people have affairs as well, but there are a lot of excuses that get wheeled out when someone is straying, if you and your partner arent having enough sex and one of you is looking elsewhere for it, what about communication. Its lack of communication that causes a lot of relationships to falter, when people live in sexless marriages or relationships and instead of talking about things and trying to resolve them, they look elsewhere.

I wouldnt look at an average to decide whether I was or wasnt having enough sex if I were in a relationship, Id hopefully know whether the sex life was good and if it was enough, or not enough. And if it wasnt enough then Id hopefully do something about it, like talk to the other person.

ilovelondontown

justme111 wrote: »

Haha how many times one thinks on is happy with it but then later on realises one was not ...I seen cases when people are adamant they are happy just because they can not face the truth and a few years down the line in a divorce procedures they bring up something they said they were "happy " about at the time.or their partner does it. Some people are happy living in a completely sexless marriage having affairs on.a side , does not mean it is the optimal thing to do.

I'm saddened by the pessimism that gets thrown up time and again on the boards that gives a blanket response that all relationships are heading to the toilet after x amount of time.

Giving such sweeping statements that if you're not having sex enough by *your* standards then you'll end up unhappy or in an affair is presumptuous completely subjective.

justme111

Pauline , I notice you did not say twice a year was normal .

justme111

ilovelondontown wrote: »

I'm saddened by the pessimism that gets thrown up time and again on the boards that gives a blanket response that all relationships are heading to the toilet after x amount of time.

Giving such sweeping statements that if you're not having sex enough by *your* standards then you'll end up unhappy or in an affair is presumptuous completely subjective.

Yes. Saying if one does stick metal rods in the electric socket One is likely to get electrocuted is presumptuous as well.

ilovelondontown

justme111 wrote: »

Yes. Saying if one does stick metal rods in the electric socket One is likely to get electrocuted is presumptuous as well.

If one thinks sex will solve all problems then one is sadly mistaken.

paulineb_2

justme111 wrote: »

Pauline , I notice you did not say twice a year was normal .

Well, it works quite well for me these days:rotfl:

Pechow

justme111 wrote: »

I believe it is all politcorrect rubbish about "whatever suits you is fine ". I never seen and can not imagine a happy couple who would have.it twice a year. Something is wrong if it is less than once a week. Because if it is it means either one of them.or both don't fancy each other any more. We have.only one life and.living it with person who dies not fancy you/ you don't fancy is a waste.

What do you think of asexuals in relationships then?

geoffky

We seem to go in peaks and troughs..At the moment we are on a peak and have been for a couple of years and i have found the older we have got the more mindful we have been with each others needs ... Our daughter thinks it is sick that we still have sex at our age(48 and 45)
But twice a month is fine for some but not for us...

westy23

Morning
Have been married 35yrs and we manage it once a week now.
I can remember many years ago I was feeling a bit fruity and was waiting for my son to go out to the pub with his mates,when he said he had no money so I offered him £5 to go out with.
When his mum found out she gave him £10 to stay in,
Went without that day.

Pennysmakepounds

westy23 wrote: »

Morning
Have been married 35yrs and we manage it once a week now.
I can remember many years ago I was feeling a bit fruity and was waiting for my son to go out to the pub with his mates,when he said he had no money so I offered him £5 to go out with.
When his mum found out she gave him £10 to stay in,
Went without that day.

:rotfl::rotfl: Back to what i said before....Women want less....lol....or maybe it was just you....lol:rotfl::rotfl:

You should have just gone to the pub instead.....Problem solved....