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cakeforbrains wrote: »While we're on Interesting Facts about Sex and Marriage, did you know that until as recently as 1991 "she's my wife" was a legitimate and legal defence against a charge of rape in the UK, effectively making it legal for a husband to rape his wife. This applied even if the couple were separated. Just a little fun fact there.
Not very much fun if your the woman who has just been raped. But I see your point, and I was aware of this appalling fact."There may be a legal obligation to obey, but there will be no moral obligation to obey. When it comes to history, it will be the people who broke the law for freedom that will be remembered and honoured." --Rt. Hon. Tony Benn0 -
bitemebankers wrote: »Well, you're entitled to your opinion, of course. Suffice to say, it's vital for me to have a fulfilled life and I think lack of sex is reasonable grounds for divorce/annulment.
And, to re-iterate, I'm not talking about a temporary "drought", due to one partner being incapacitated etc. But if one partner simply loses interest, I don't think there can be any moral compulsion on the other party to stay in the relationship.
No, I am thinking long term too. For example, were my husband to develop an illness or sustain an accident made sex an impossibility then I would not want to leave him.
If one person simply 'loses interest' I would want to know why.0 -
I personally have not come across such.people. i doubt they exist given that human specie specimens have some similarity amongst them , ie red blood , being hurt when burnt , needing to eat regularly etc. It would be unfathomable for me if someone stated "we all different , I for example can live without breating"bylromarha wrote: »
I don't agree with you at all; sex twice a year for a couple fully in love who fancy each other a lot means that the couple have a low sex drive. That's all. Nothing wrong with the relationship.
Both are happy and fulfilled in this. Adds up perfectly to me. And them.
So although theoretically people mot keen to engage in sexual activities however kuch they fancy each.other may exist I , as someone who seen various cases of low next.to nothing sex life being a sign of unhappy marriage and have not ever come across wonderous asexual but fancying each other that you mention will rest my case.
Ps. I accepted once fortnightly on reflection in one of my earlier posts
The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
I personally have not come across such.people. i doubt they exist given that human specie specimens have some similarity amongst them , ie red blood , being hurt when burnt , needing to eat regularly etc. It would be unfathomable for me if someone stated "we all different , I for example can live without breating"
So although theoretically people mot keen to engage in sexual activities however kuch they fancy each.other may exist I , as someone who seen various cases of low next.to nothing sex life being a sign of unhappy marriage and have not ever come across wonderous asexual but fancying each other that you mention will rest my case.
Ps. I accepted once fortnightly on reflection in one of my earlier posts
People who identify as asexual certainly do exist.
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https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=asexual+people&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en&client=safari0 -
lostinrates wrote: »People who identify as asexual certainly do exist..
https://www.google.co.uk/search?q=asexual+people&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en&client=safari
Unconvinced . Self classifying is not a particularly reliable thing . If they do then explanation is "I have.sex once a year because of dome random thing hitting me , I am asexual and would rather go with none " rather than "people are all different , it is normal for me".The word "dilemma" comes from Greek where "di" means two and "lemma" means premise. Refers usually to difficult choice between two undesirable options.
Often people seem to use this word mistakenly where "quandary" would fit better.0 -
I personally have not come across such.people. i doubt they exist given that human specie specimens have some similarity amongst them , ie red blood , being hurt when burnt , needing to eat regularly etc. It would be unfathomable for me if someone stated "we all different , I for example can live without breating"
So although theoretically people mot keen to engage in sexual activities however kuch they fancy each.other may exist I , as someone who seen various cases of low next.to nothing sex life being a sign of unhappy marriage and have not ever come across wonderous asexual but fancying each other that you mention will rest my case.
Ps. I accepted once fortnightly on reflection in one of my earlier posts
You may have done - I don't talk about my sex life in detail except with the closest of friends and only on occasion.
The happily married couples around you may have sex twice a year, or 5 times a day, but don't share that with you as it's none of your business. It works for them. Can you honestly say you have a full and intimate picture of the happy marriages around you?
Of course an unhappy marriage will have a lack of sex, but less sex (what you deem lack of sex) does not mean an unhappy marriage.
Not sure why you equate not breathing and physical reactions to burns as the same as not having sex? Makes no sense.Who made hogs and dogs and frogs?
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I would say some people are asexual, in the same way that many people are celibate, but that doesnt mean they might never want sex, but some people have a very very low sex drive. Its not as natural as breathing to some people, some people will honestly not enjoy sex.0
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bitemebankers wrote: »It's true, a relationship is about more than sex. However, without sex, it isn't a relationship at all, it's merely a friendship. Sex is pretty damn important.
I agree. My relationship is not based on sex, it's based on mutual admiration, adoration and respect. But sex, apart from a way of scratching the libidinous itch, is a way of expressing love for your partner, in the same way as kissing and hugging is.
Unless we are apart for some reason, I could no more go 24 hours without sex as I could go 24 hours without hugging/kissing/telling OH I love them.
So we average once a day, sometimes more, sometimes MUCH more
We've been together 10 years, no kids and we are 40ish/50ish.You had me at your proper use of "you're".0 -
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