Am i getting enough?????

justme111

Bylromarhs , I do not equate those. It was a comparation , a grotesque comparation . I know sex is not that vitaly necessary as air , it is one of the body characteristics though as breathing is. I did not say I know everybody's love.life either , I said out of those that I came actoss meaning by.it out of those that.I knoe. Listen , I do accept people may.chose to stay in a sexless marriage for all toes of reasons , what I disagree is with them classing it as a variatiin of norm arguing that "we are all dufferent". Another comparation - if one lived without daylight for some reason one would have survived . I would not class it as optimal and desirable though.

lostinrates

Lovelyjoolz wrote: »

I agree. My relationship is not based on sex, it's based on mutual admiration, adoration and respect. But sex, apart from a way of scratching the libidinous itch, is a way of expressing love for your partner, in the same way as kissing and hugging is.

Unless we are apart for some reason, I could no more go 24 hours without sex as I could go 24 hours without hugging/kissing/telling OH I love them.

So we average once a day, sometimes more, sometimes MUCH more

We've been together 10 years, no kids and we are 40ish/50ish.

Your marriage sounds delightfully happy!

anniemf2508

Me and hubby have been together 8 years (married almost 6) are in our mid thirties and have 2 kids. We have gone through highs and lows, the low lasted about 3 years where we were only intimate probably once a month. This year tho we seem to have got to a point where we are both in sync, so on average it's about 5 times a week.

Pechow

Asexuality is not a new thing, and there's no question that it's real and that asexuals are real. Most of the debate is whether there are potential causes or if it's natural in the same way as hetro/homo/bi/etc sexuality, and whether it should be classed as an orientation or lack of one. It is not the same as celibacy, and there are asexuals who have (and even enjoy!) sexual activities.

Feel free to go over to communities such as AVEN and tell them that they don't exist, though

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

lostinrates

justme111 wrote: »

Bylromarhs , I do not equate those. It was a comparation , a grotesque comparation . I know sex is not that vitaly necessary as air , it is one of the body characteristics though as breathing is. I did not say I know everybody's love.life either , I said out of those that I came actoss meaning by.it out of those that.I knoe. Listen , I do accept people may.chose to stay in a sexless marriage for all toes of reasons , what I disagree is with them classing it as a variatiin of norm arguing that "we are all dufferent". Another comparation - if one lived without daylight for some reason one would have survived . I would not class it as optimal and desirable though.

Unless one suffered albinism? The thing is..there is often an'unless' or a 'difference'. We ARE all pretty much the same, but the variations at the outside extremes still have valid life experiences and expectations for THEM.

Those getting it many times a day, or never wanting it at all, we are at either end of the extreme. The average family with average demands of life, average stresses and no big upheavals to work around will probably have a more 'average' routine....a few times a week, several times a month, whatever average is!

Lovelyjoolz

lostinrates wrote: »

Your marriage sounds delightfully happy!

Thank you, we are very happy. But we're not married - maybe that's the secret!?

lostinrates

Lovelyjoolz wrote: »

Thank you, we are very happy. But we're not married - maybe that's the secret!?

Oops, sorry! We're happy and are married. We just don't live together full time! That's not our secret, we wouldn't choose it, but it has certain silver linings.

paulineb_2

herand wrote: »

You can't really compare asexuality to celibacy. Asexuality is a sexual orientation just as heterosexuality is. One can regard themselves as being asexual but romantically bisexual etc.

I wasnt comparing it. I was saying some people can be asexual and some people can be celibate.

But I would hazard a guess that some celibate people can also be heterosexual, bisexual or homosexual as well, they just choose not to have sex.

justme111

Lifelong learning for me , eh
Well , I doubt those who say twice a year is great for them and they live in a happy marriage would class themselves as asexuals. They imply they have the same orientation.

Pechow

That would just be having low sex drives-sex drive and orientation aren't the same thing. You can be hetro, gay, etc and have a low drive, or a high drive. Similarly, asexuals have different sex drives. It's just much harder to have a high drive when you're not interested in sharing it with anyone.