How often to see partner

fluffnutter

vodkachick68 wrote: »

Hiya I've been with my boyfriend for 16 months and we see each other 3 nights a week. We do chat on the phone in between. Thing is I'm beginning to feel that this isn't enough. He has his own business and works long hours and I work in the day and 2 evenings a week and he sees his son on a Sunday so that's another day gone. I can't see how we can physically manage to see each other any more. My friend sees her boyfriend 5 Eve's a week plus all day on a Sunday. I have spoken to my b/f about this and he can't understand what the problem is. How often is normal to see your partner?


Thanks

There's no set period for how much time couples should spend together, it's not a competition and it doesn't matter what other people do.

What is worrying is that you want *this* and your OH wants *that*. Conflict and differing opinions are inevitable in every relationship but when you can't agree on something as basic as when to see each other... hmm, things don't look great.

duchy

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm old-fashioned here in that it seems strange to me that someone is a partner but you don't even live together.

Personally it wouldn't have suited me but if it works for you then that's fine.

I think it's more how you interpret the word partner.
To me a partner is someone you share your life with .......the OP to me has a boyfriend not a partner as she's not even met his kids yet-but obviously her interpretation is different - not right or wrong just different.

Sometimes it seems the word has replaced any relationship that is more than a one night stand and less than marriage <shrug>.

My fiance refers to me as his partner - I use boyfriend more - simply because we don't officially live together (but we live so close that we see each other more than some married couples on the thread). Be so much easier when we get married next year and can just be husband and wife LOL

katie1812

Before I moved in with my then boyfriend, now husband, we saw each most evenings a week and usually over the weekend.
Everyone is different and we have a friend who sees his girlfriend once or twice a week and they've been together about six years. I could never do that.

Perhaps ask him about the long term future of your relationship? If you have plans to move in together in the next year or something at least you know it is going to improve for you and you can see the next step... If however you don't get the answers and outcomes that you want then you have some thinking to do.

Hope it turns out how you want