How often to see partner

Torry_Quine

I'm old-fashioned here in that it seems strange to me that someone is a partner but you don't even live together.

Personally it wouldn't have suited me but if it works for you then that's fine.

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm old-fashioned here in that it seems strange to me that someone is a partner but you don't even live together.

Personally it wouldn't have suited me but if it works for you then that's fine.

I'm not sure this is 'old fashioned'. People have been in marriages and lived apart throughout history.

Torry_Quine

lostinrates wrote: »

I'm not sure this is 'old fashioned'. People have been in marriages and lived apart throughout history.

Rarely I would say and certainly I've never known a married couple who live apart. :eek:

paulineb_2

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I'm old-fashioned here in that it seems strange to me that someone is a partner but you don't even live together.

Personally it wouldn't have suited me but if it works for you then that's fine.

Lots of couples dont live together and for various reasons, nothing to do with being old fashioned or not as the case may be

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Rarely I would say and certainly I've never known a married couple who live apart. :eek:

Not rarely at all. Military situations, many work ones. (Both traveling and situations where there was a county home and a London one). People who travelled to work building railroads etc. seasonal labouring Its not a historical anomaly.

Torry_Quine

paulineb wrote: »

Lots of couples dont live together and for various reasons, nothing to do with being old fashioned or not as the case may be

As I said it's personal choice but not something I've ever come across. I definitely see it as a modern thing.

Torry_Quine

lostinrates wrote: »

Not rarely at all. Military situations, many work ones. (Both traveling and situations where there was a county home and a London one). People who travelled to work building railroads etc. seasonal labouring Its not a historical anomaly.

The military is a very specific case and on leave they would return home. Also going away for a period to work and then coming back. I don't really think though that is what the thread is about.

notanewuser

Torry_Quine wrote: »

Rarely I would say and certainly I've never known a married couple who live apart. :eek:

My mother got a job abroad (middle east) while my dad was still working over here. She was away for around 48 weeks of the year.

My husband often works away when required. He's away from Sunday night to Friday night. If working in Europe he's usually away for 3-4 weeks at a time. He did 4 months in the States within our first year of marriage.

Women are much more independent nowadays - we don't need a fella around 24/7.

Torry_Quine

notanewuser wrote: »

My mother got a job abroad (middle east) while my dad was still working over here. She was away for around 48 weeks of the year.

My husband often works away when required. He's away from Sunday night to Friday night. If working in Europe he's usually away for 3-4 weeks at a time.

Women are much more independent nowadays - we don't need a fella around 24/7.

If that suits then fine. It wouldn't be for me and my husband at all.

I do know a couple where he had to work abroad and only got home at the weekends and they hated it and he considered moving the family so as to be together. In the end he resigned and got a job which meant no working away and is much happier. It was a difficult time for everyone concerned.

lostinrates

Torry_Quine wrote: »

The military is a very specific case and on leave they would return home. Also going away for a period to work and then coming back. I don't really think though that is what the thread is about.

Working for a period and coming back? But a fair few of us here are describing our routine weekly/ monthly pattern not of away and coming back for a while but regularly seeing each other three nights a week OR less. This does not make our relationships less about partnership.