I have a question

iammumtoone

The father should pay 15% of his earnings, if he pays this direct or through the CSA is his choice but he should be paying this amount every month. I suggest he sets up a system to start paying this (if he is not going to go through CSA then do it via standing order so he has a record of payment).

What the mother decides to spend this on is her choice, if it is enough to cover childcare expenses then she can use it for that, if its not enough then she needs to cover the rest herself.

I do suggest the father sets up regular payment so all is clear and stop this system of him paying for bits here and there as there is no record of what is being paid and it makes things very messy.

Mrs_pbradley936

Torry_Quine wrote: »

The fact that she's working isn't going to mean though that he shouldn't be paying child support though.

If it's not right then you either do something or let it go as none of your business.



Good point.

I have no idea if it is right. That is why I am asking. The father pays shopping bills on his card, buys clothing, toys, shoes and so on.

jacques_chirac

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

Not my place to question what she has been awarded. The child is disabled and has been under Great Ormand Street since birth.

You're not willing to report benefit fraud (if indeed, she is claiming something she is not entitled to), but you're happy to moan about the mother behind her back, and question whether a father should support a disabled child?

Your sense of morals is extremely skewed.

jacques_chirac

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

I have no idea if it is right. That is why I am asking. The father pays shopping bills on his card, buys clothing, toys, shoes and so on.

Then rather than doing this they should agree a set amount each week. It is far simpler than paying random amounts all over the place.

Torry_Quine

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

I have no idea if it is right. That is why I am asking. The father pays shopping bills on his card, buys clothing, toys, shoes and so on.

No-one on here can tell you though. It does at least sound that he's supporting the child, whether that's enough I have no idea.

Mrs_pbradley936

Torry_Quine wrote: »

How do you know what she's telling to the benefit agencies though?

It could well be the best option if her mother has extra expenses through looking after the child.

She told me! She asked if I would be able to watch the child from time to time and I said yes but not all day every day. She said her own mother would but wanted to be paid since was working and claiming and could afford it.

iammumtoone

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

the mother was fine with clothing, shoes, Tesco shopping bill paid on father's card and so on.

Does this amount come to 15% of his wages? if it does then he is paying enough (as the law states but it is still his child so he could pay more if he wanted to, for the benefit of his child). As I said above he really needs to start paying a set amount each month to make things easier and clearer.

Mrs_pbradley936

jacques_chirac wrote: »

You're not willing to report benefit fraud (if indeed, she is claiming something she is not entitled to), but you're happy to moan about the mother behind her back, and question whether a father should support a disabled child?

Your sense of morals is extremely skewed.

I am not moaning or moralising I am asking for information on a topic I know little about. You can see from my post count and thanks count that I have given help and info on topics I do know about.

Torry_Quine

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

She told me! She asked if I would be able to watch the child from time to time and I said yes but not all day every day. She said her own mother would but wanted to be paid since was working and claiming and could afford it.

then you know what to do.

Mrs_pbradley936

Torry_Quine wrote: »

then you know what to do.

No I have nothing to do. I want to know if it is reasonable to pay the granny in addition to buying whatever the father currently buys.

If people say "oh yes, that sounds about right" or "No he does one thing or another" then great. If nobody know for sure don't say anything but I can do without being accused of goodness knows what when all I want is information.