I have a question

jacques_chirac

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

I am not sure what "improper actions means" but this particular child was found to be badly disabled on the first scan. The couple had professional counselling with the hospital and offered a termination numerous times. One of them wanted a termination the other (woman) said "if the child dies she dies but I cannot kill her" and that he could walk away if he wanted. The child was not expected to survive but did and the mother gets a huge amount from the welfare people including a car. She wants the money paid "under the table" in case it jeopardises what she claims for a disabled child.

He does not want to support his severely disabled child? Sounds like a right catch!

Child maintenance does not affect benefit entitlement, however it is paid.

mikey_bach

There is no need for any money to paid under the table
Maintenance will not effect DLA, CHB I.S CTC and HB
So if the father did feel like paying something then its ok
Sad situation for all especially the child
wish the little one well

Mrs_pbradley936

Torry_Quine wrote: »

I wouldn't call that an unplanned/unwanted child!

She's wrong though in wanting the money paid in this way. Presuming we are talking DLA then that is not means tested in any way and wouldn't be affected by child support.

She is also working but claiming to be at home with the child.

The child goes to school and has a helper to herself and now that the holidays are here she wants the father to pay her mother (the granny) to watch her.

Mrs_pbradley936

Until the children finished school yesterday the mother was fine with clothing, shoes, Tesco shopping bill paid on father's card and so on.

jacques_chirac

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

She is also working but claiming to be at home with the child.

The child goes to school and has a helper to herself and now that the holidays are here she wants the father to pay her mother (the granny) to watch her.

If she is claiming benefits she is not entitled to, you should report her for benefit fraud. However, many people are entitled to benefits whilst working, so you should be certain of your facts before making allegations.

They should come to an agreement for a regular child maintenance payment. For one child, the CSA amount would be 15% of income, so this would be a good starting point.

Mrs_pbradley936

jacques_chirac wrote: »

If she is claiming benefits she is not entitled to, you should report her for benefit fraud. However, many people are entitled to benefits whilst working, so you should be certain of your facts before making allegations.

They should come to an agreement for a regular child maintenance payment. For one child, the CSA amount would be 15% of income, so this would be a good starting point.

Not my place to question what she has been awarded. The child is disabled and has been under Great Ormand Street since birth.

GwylimT

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

Not my place to question what she has been awarded. The child is disabled and has been under Great Ormand Street since birth.

If it isn't your place to question why did you choose to enter your previous comment suggesting she was committing benefit fraud?

Mrs_pbradley936

GwylimT wrote: »

If it isn't your place to question why did you choose to enter your previous comment suggesting she was committing benefit fraud?

I never said anything of the sort! I said she was working and wants her child care paid to her mother. This has only been an issue since yesterday when the schools packed up. She does say that she will be at home with the child to the people that ask!

Torry_Quine

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

She is also working but claiming to be at home with the child.

The child goes to school and has a helper to herself and now that the holidays are here she wants the father to pay her mother (the granny) to watch her.

The fact that she's working isn't going to mean though that he shouldn't be paying child support though.

If it's not right then you either do something or let it go as none of your business.

GwylimT wrote: »

If it isn't your place to question why did you choose to enter your previous comment suggesting she was committing benefit fraud?

Good point.

Torry_Quine

Mrs_pbradley936 wrote: »

I never said anything of the sort! I said she was working and wants her child care paid to her mother. This has only been an issue since yesterday when the schools packed up. She does say that she will be at home with the child to the people that ask!

How do you know what she's telling to the benefit agencies though?

It could well be the best option if her mother has extra expenses through looking after the child.