Problem Neighbour. Thoughts?

MentalMinnie

Oh right, when I said doing something to the car, I ment he was putting a seat cover over the front seat. I didn't mean he was doing mechanic type work!

MentalMinnie

What's your take on the date provided in the letter when the nuisance started though? It's taken us til today to realise we weren't even here at that point.

"The complainant alleges that there have been several instances of noise originating from a vehicle registered to you address, starting on 11th May, 2013 at 2.30pm."

coolcait

MentalMinnie wrote: »

What's your take on the date provided in the letter when the nuisance started though? It's taken us til today to realise we were even here at that point.

"The complainant alleges that there have been several instances of noise originating from a vehicle registered to you address, starting on 11th May, 2013 at 2.30pm."

It might be a typo by the Council

It might be an error on your neighbour's part, about the date

It might be an error on your neighbour's part, about the car involved

Your neighbour might have made the date up

It might be that there's a mistake in that date, but a long list of other occasions where someone in your car was blasting out music, and commentary, at full volume.

And so on.

How loud do you and your OH play your music? Or sports programmes? Did your OH have the car radio on while he was 'doing something' with the car this morning?

Your neighbour might be a pain. You and your OH might not have a clue how noisy you actually are. It's impossible for any of us to tell.

MentalMinnie

coolcait wrote: »

Maybe there are other people who come down the street with the music very loud. Maybe your OH is one of them. And he seems to be the one who has the car most of the time. Maybe he doesn't realise how loud the radio is. Did you?

Your neighbour may well be the problem. If you think that's the case, then keep your own diary of events .

That said, if your diary of events resembled this thread, I couldn't say where the problem actually lies.

I wouldn't have thought my husband would be playing loud music, he's a talksport man anyway, and he's out at 6am usually and back after 9pm. No one in there right mind pays loud music before or after that time. The letter seems to say that the incidents are occurring during the day, which be impossible for it to be us, as my husband takes the car to work. At least we have recorded proof that the car has been 30 odd miles away.

MentalMinnie

Well, fortunately 3 of our close neighbours have said we can pass on their details to the council to vouch for us, plus the letting agents, who will verify that they've had problems with her for several years. I'll ask for dates from them and see where the car was on those occasions as well. I think the council will see what's going on and close the complaint.

mazza111

Call the council and put your side of the story. From one who has noisy neighbours, chances are they won't do anything. 2.5 years on, they are still there, still noisy and still a PITA!

seashore22

OP, I just wanted to say how much I sympathise with your situation.

Those who are saying it's just a little old lady with dementia have obviously not had to deal with this sort of thing. I have an elderly relative with severe mental health problems and she has had them for at least 50 years. Even for relatives it can be scary. She can be scary, very scary. We would have hated to be a neighbour of hers when she was at her worst.

It is horrible to feel under attack in your own home and I can imagine that this is how the Op feels at the moment.

I would agree with those posters who said that a calm response is probably the best one. I would possibly have a word with the police or social services. The chances are that they won't be able to do much, but I think it helps if there is some record of these incidents. In my relatives case they only acted when members of the public were being hounded. The family had to suffer with no support at all.

As you can see this is a bit of a sensitive subject.

Hope it gets sorted soon.

happy_to_be_here

I've only read the first page but she reminds me of my sil's former neighbour. She had dementia and it gradually worsened until the point she was accusing people on the street of alsorts as well as wandering into their houses to see her 'daughter' and grandchildren. Eventually someone got her the help she needed and she went into a home.

**professor~yaffle**

Make-it-3 wrote: »

Why can't you just laugh off that she thinks your husband is a terrorist - you and the rest of us know its just silly??

If someone gets called a terrorist because of their nationality it's surely a form of racism. Why should it be laughed off?

Thumper7 wrote: »

MentalMinnie
The woman is over 80 years old, how much of a threat is she actually.

Psychological. You don't know what she's going to do next. She's already been in OP's garden, and her behaviour is bordering on stalker level!

Whether or not the old lady has dementia is not the point, the OP is being harrassed in her own home, and something needs to be done about it.

Brewstersmum

Mental Minnie I really do sympathise

I had a problem with a old female neighbour. I moved into my house (rented from local housing) I was warned the neighbour was an old bag. My daughter was 1 month old when we moved in and the house was a right mess. I tried to be nice to the neighbour and she was friendly back. I fetched her shopping, she was medically trained so used to chat with me about my daughter and how she was growing until about a year in when the council installed a new kitchen in the property.

I told her, apologised for the noise everyday then one day she turned on me saying that 'its alright for some getting a kitchen for free.....' At this point I had returned to work as a teacher as actually paid more in rent in the tenancy than she bought her bloody house for!!! after that she reported me for everything. parking, noise, baby crying, she used to talk about me in the village, you name it she tried it.

anyway in the end I turned to my health visitor who knew her. She advised me to call the police and ask them to go and call on her advising that I would be reporting her for harassment. They did, then they called round to see me and that was the end of that. from that day we never spoke and the allegations stopped.

Its so difficult when the other person is old and therefore often perceived as 'a lovely old granny', she was a bitter and twisted old cow.