Problem Neighbour. Thoughts?

paulineb_2

aileth wrote: »

You could always offer for the council to install noise monitoring equipment just to prove you're squeaky clean. My parents have a psycho next door who refers them for stupid things like washing machine noise (which no one else can hear). They offered to the council to install the equipment and the complaint went quiet.

The anti social task force can give people noise monitoring equipment. They could also call environmental services re the noise levels.
And install CCTV if there isnt any in the street.

MentalMinnie

marisco wrote: »

I don't buy the poor little old lady with possible dementia take on this at all. To be well known to the police and to have caused upset to several neighbours over a long time period, suggests to me that she is far from being a cuddly, friendly granny type who isn't responsible for her own actions. It is plain odd for someone to stand outside in their nightie and watch someone go about their every day business.

She's started to make it obvious that she's watching us, presumably she's keeping a 14 day diary to accompany her noise complaint to the council. She was standing in her window with the curtains pulled back last night watching us.

Mojisola

MentalMinnie wrote: »

She's started to make it obvious that she's watching us, presumably she's keeping a 14 day diary to accompany her noise complaint to the council. She was standing in her window with the curtains pulled back last night watching us.

I wouldn't worry too much - try to switch off and ignore her.

When the council get her missive showing that you have "walked in the garden", "closed your curtains during the day" and pages of other ridiculous comments, they will know what they're dealing with. People like this usually give themselves away by the kinds of things they report.

pigpen

Contact environmental health.. they have a dept for pesky neighbours. I live across the road from a pub which suddenly after 8 years of living here got VERY noisy.. that was soon sorted.

Does she actually have mental health issues?

My cousin has schitzophrenia and often behaves like this with her neighbours.. and worse.. though I don't think they know what her issues are so retaliate like idiots breaking her windows and screaming at her in the street.. not helpful for anyone!!

Contact EH and the council (ours are one in the same) and keep a log of ALL incidents and request your neighbours do the same. The chances are they won't evict her, even if it is a council property but her care staff will be made aware of the situation and she may get more support. Obviously if she comes on your property or damages your property you can call the police.

Don't get involved in tit for tat silliness that helps no one.

gingin_2

You have to change your mindset and tell yourself that this a problem that will be solved and/or you can rise above. You've got your neighbour's support, you've heard that she's a nuisance to the police and a nightmare to the letting agents.

I completely get that this is distressing, so I'm in no way unsympathetic but I think you are looking at this with a very dark cloud over your head and need shaking out of it. I think if you start being proactive you will feel better. All of the advice I agree with and I would just start your own diary, start taking video and photographic evidence if you can and get as pally with the neighbours as possible. Most importantly hold your head up high. Tell yourself that this will get sorted and battle on.

Good luck

pigpen

MentalMinnie wrote: »

She's started to make it obvious that she's watching us, presumably she's keeping a 14 day diary to accompany her noise complaint to the council. She was standing in her window with the curtains pulled back last night watching us.

I'd have waved to her as I shut the curtains!!

MentalMinnie

pigpen wrote: »

Contact environmental health.. they have a dept for pesky neighbours. I live across the road from a pub which suddenly after 8 years of living here got VERY noisy.. that was soon sorted.

Does she actually have mental health issues?

My cousin has schitzophrenia and often behaves like this with her neighbours.. and worse.. though I don't think they know what her issues are so retaliate like idiots breaking her windows and screaming at her in the street.. not helpful for anyone!!

Contact EH and the council (ours are one in the same) and keep a log of ALL incidents and request your neighbours do the same. The chances are they won't evict her, even if it is a council property but her care staff will be made aware of the situation and she may get more support. Obviously if she comes on your property or damages your property you can call the police.

Don't get involved in tit for tat silliness that helps no one.

Not sure what these mental problems are, the lady next door to me that used to to be friends with her said that there's nothing wrong with her other than just being nasty and interfering.

MentalMinnie

pigpen wrote: »

I'd have waved to her as I shut the curtains!!

I did, but I think that's made it worse. She started shouting at me from inside and gesticulating.

marisco_2

MentalMinnie wrote: »

She's started to make it obvious that she's watching us, presumably she's keeping a 14 day diary to accompany her noise complaint to the council. She was standing in her window with the curtains pulled back last night watching us.

If all this wasn't causing you so much distress it would be laughable. What a silly woman she is. I think the council are applying some reverse psychology here, by advising her to keep this 14 day diary. A bit like giving her enough rope with which to hang herself. Imagine the stuff and nonsense she is going to jot down, all of which can be proven not to have taken place by yourselves and the nice neighbours around you. All she will achieve is to confirm what the council most likely already suspect, that she is a total fruitloop.

If you were so outrageous and causing such a disturbance to the happy ambience of the road she would not be the only one complaining would she. If her diary keeping gets out of hand and she comes onto your property or becomes abusive, don't say a word to her or get embroiled in any argument, just immediately phone the police and let them deal with her.

pigpen

MentalMinnie wrote: »

I did, but I think that's made it worse. She started shouting at me from inside and gesticulating.

yeah, but if your curtains are shut you can't see her.

It may well be she is just a nasty old bat.. in which case winding her up might not be beneficial (though if she has no mental health issue I'd be amused by it.. but I am 3 really lol).. someone else might move down the street soon and she can focus on them instead..