Sorting food budget- seperate for you/OH? how?

Lagoon

msb5262 wrote: »

Do you mean you actually do a separate shop for evening meals? I'm gobsmacked, frankly - not least because your OH is getting better food than he's paying for, and because you appear to do both the shopping and the cooking! Obviously that's entirely up to you but it wouldn't make me feel very happy in your position. However, each to his/her own...

We share the cooking. I hate it, he enjoys it. I end up doing it a majority of the time purely because I'm at home earlier. If I want him to cook, I offer to pick him up from the station which makes him very happy.

And no, sorry for the confusion. We don't do a separate shop for evening meals, but the money he gives me for his breakfasts and lunches and the money I budget for MY breakfasts and lunches are exact figures that cover what's on our list. So, the only place we can possibly go over budget is on evening meals. If I go into a shop with a shopping list that should come to £50 and it actually comes to £65, I know it's the evening meals that have pushed it up.

geoffky

The world has gone mad....We have our money....

Turtle

We don't pool all our money, we each pay an amount into the joint account and the mortgage, bills, food shopping come out of it. We pay for our own cars and car related expenses. We pay half each for holidays and spending money. When we go out husband usually pays as he earns more.

We have a meal plan for the week which I put together but I always ask hubby if there's anything in particular he wants. We buy what we need at the supermarket and the money comes from the joint account, it doesn't matter if I want something extra or he does.

meritaten

I had to read that twice! you and OH each pay for your own food? what are you? house-sharers? sorry OP I know its the modern way to split expenses when both work..........but I find this so strange to each buy your own food, I cant get my head round it!

geoffky

Turtle wrote: »

We don't pool all our money, we each pay an amount into the joint account and the mortgage, bills, food shopping come out of it. We pay for our own cars and car related expenses. We pay half each for holidays and spending money. When we go out husband usually pays as he earns more.

We have a meal plan for the week which I put together but I always ask hubby if there's anything in particular he wants. We buy what we need at the supermarket and the money comes from the joint account, it doesn't matter if I want something extra or he does.

What would you do if one of you won the lottery?

dandelionclock30

paulineb wrote: »

Tbh, if your husband is on some kind of special diet linked to his training and you dont eat as much expensive foods, I see nothing wrong with you paying for yours and he for his. Some couples dont have joint bank accounts, each to their own.

Or the husband could be a diabetic or a celiac etc and wants to sort out his own meals or for religious reasons.

fashionlover10

dandelionclock30 wrote: »

Or the husband could be a diabetic or a celiac etc and wants to sort out his own meals or for religious reasons.

My OH is diabetic but it really doesn't affect our budget much. We just buy sugar free versions of things instead of diabetic foods as he's been told they're no good.

an9i77

Me and my OH don't pay for our own food exactly but what we do is, once a month we go on a big shop and buy all the essentials and split the bill down the middle. Then during the month we each take it in turns to go and do a top up shop when things are running low, buying things predominantly that we choose (as we will go separately) but the other can eat if they fancy. If I know my OH is going to the shops I may ask him to get the odd thing for me but if I want a lot of very specific things I will probably go myself. We have a child together and take it in turns to buy things for him alongside our own shops although big things like nappies and milk powder will go on the big shop. This works for us - we usually eat together but not always as I have special dietary requirements. The food once in the house is shared food though one of us may spend more than the other depending on how many times they go food shopping.

paulineb_2

I think its to do with fitness, she mentioned that he trained.

Everyone has their own ways of managing the money they have. And if he wants to buy expensive items linked to his diet and she doesnt want to go 50/50 on these as shes not using the items, I dont see a problem at all

There have been many threads on this board where someone has had a clear inequality money wise with their partner and people gave advice on how to deal with it.

Either, you buy your own or he pays for more of a share of the food given that hes buying expensive items.

Btw, speaking as someone who teaches fitness for a living, I dont do supplements and my meals are cheap, but I know some people, particularly bodybuilers, spend a lot on powders and shakes and they arent cheap.

74jax

Do you each have 'basics' like oil, maybe sauces etc?

My hubby does a weekly shop and we just make whatever we can with the mysteries he brings back..........