Birthday gift ideas for an 11 year old ?! Help!

tattycath

Troutwrestler wrote: »

She does have an iPod dock

The bank account idea is fab actually..I'm sure with my bank she can get a debit card at 11... So I could top up her account and she could spend it herself... Really liking that idea and I'm sure she will too.

Re the spoilt comments... I know how awful it sounds that she has all these things but tbh...all her friends are the same so it's not unusual. Se has her stroppy ungrateful moments but she's a good girl.

I have been told for years to reign her in...but I just find it impossible to say no. I really must try harder though.

How about getting her a savings account instead of a card account-then she can save up for the expensive things she wants and if she has to really save for something she might actually appreciate the value of things, instead of having it all handed to her on a plate; then when she has to go out into the real world she won't get a big sharp shock as she will already have some idea that you don't get everything for nothing.

Troutwrestler

lika_86 wrote: »

How about a book? Something that won't rot her brain. It won't flash or light up or allow her to communicate with the world about all the fab things her mummy is buying her but it sounds like she's a bit of a vapid and spoilt child and so could do with broadening her horizons. She's 10! Just because it's not unusual amongst her friends doesn't mean it's ok.

Stop this princess syndrome now.

She reads a great deal actually. Her kindle is never put down.

Thanks for your input though

Troutwrestler

tattycath wrote: »

How about getting her a savings account instead of a card account-then she can save up for the expensive things she wants and if she has to really save for something she might actually appreciate the value of things, instead of having it all handed to her on a plate; then when she has to go out into the real world she won't get a big sharp shock as she will already have some idea that you don't get everything for nothing.

She has a savings account, the money she gets from relatives at Xmas and birthdays is put straight in there so she doesn't waste it. She has a few thousand in there now,

elsien

She's got more gadgets than I have! I have an iPhone handed down from my brother, an aging laptop and a nook off the grabbit board deal.
Please will you adopt me, my birthdays in a fortnight.:D

Troutwrestler

elsien wrote: »

She's got more gadgets than I have! I have an iPhone handed down from my brother, an aging laptop and a nook off the grabbit board deal.
Please will you adopt me, my birthdays in a fortnight.:D

:rotfl:

If I were to mention her led tv and full sky package..Xbox... ps3 I might get crucified.....or get more adoption requests..:p


Thank you to all for opinions and suggestions. I don't like some of the comments but that's probably because they are true. I must try harder to say no.

*mudangel*

This suggestion may go down like a cup of cold sick with your DD and I'm not sure of how it works, but could you perhaps sponsor a child together? Tbh, it sounds like your girl has plenty and this might be a way to open her eyes to how lucky she is and to help another child into the bargain.

That or perhaps some kind of skill for life which would benefit her without spoiling her - piano lessons or somesuch?

tattycath

Just to add-I'm not suggesting you get her a savings account and then give her money every time she wants something-make her work for her savings-or encourage her to save from money she already receives as opposed to giving her extra for her account. HTH

balletshoes

I just read your OP again ~ you have a younger child too? so all of this will happen again with the youngers birthday etc.

i think its definitely time to start saying no and scaling down.

elsien

I get that she wants something to open - a birthdays not the same without lots of wrapping to rip off. But as she's probably going to get prezzies off relatives, does it have to be something expensive, given what you've already spent? Can't you tell her the trip out and the riding stuff are the main part of the present, and get a few quirky stocking fillers for her to open on the day?
(And I'd like to see her trying to gift wrap a horse.)

tattycath

Troutwrestler wrote: »

She has a savings account, the money she gets from relatives at Xmas and birthdays is put straight in there so she doesn't waste it. She has a few thousand in there now,

Sorry-trying to multitask. I didn't see this before I typed my last post.
Why not suggest if she really wants an iPhone she can buy it herself?
It doesn't solve the problem of what to get her for her birthday but it might give her some insight in the value of things.