Birthday gift ideas for an 11 year old ?! Help!

Troutwrestler

victory wrote: »

You are going to loose droves of us now, I for one am off to post in a thread that is not taking the mickey out of the lot of us who are struggling to make ends meet:eek:

Yawn.

Do I decide what money the government deems its ok for my to have? Did I ask for a disability? Did my daughter?
No.

stir_crazy

balletshoes wrote: »

the OPs girl isn't a teenager - she's 10.

I am sorry, its not unusual for 9-10 year olds either in some of the more affluent parts of the city. IMO, its too young, even for 14-15 but I'm not the parent so its not up to me.

cte1111

Troutwrestler wrote: »

And?! I am disabled and can't work. My daughter has a severe disability. Trust me...I would give back the money for both of our health.

But I don't that will stop u having a pop.

I wasn't having a 'pop', I was just pointing out that your income comes from benefits when you were being holier than though about paying for all your daughter's expensive consumable yourself. I can see that being disabled might mean you need to buy more expensive ready meals or eat out regularly, fair enough. Lots of things are more expensive if you can't look after yourself.

However if your disposable income is so high that you can spend £1000s on Christmas, designer clothes, regular hair extensions and manicures then perhaps your DLA is being used for expenses other than that which it was intended for, e.g. to pay for help to allow you and your daughter to live your day to day lives.

tea_lover

Troutwrestler wrote: »

Well looking around, I have a very nice roof over my head....plenty of food in my cupboards, no debt and can still"create a spoilt brat" so it stretches to both it would seem

Like others, I'm off now. You sound smug and strangely proud of the fact that you've used other people's money to create an ungrateful, materialistic brat.

Congratulations, what an achievement.

Troutwrestler

cte1111 wrote: »

I wasn't having a 'pop', I was just pointing out that your income comes from benefits when you were being holier than though about paying for all your daughter's expensive consumable yourself. I can see that being disabled might mean you need to buy more expensive ready meals or eat out regularly, fair enough. Lots of things are more expensive if you can't look after yourself.

However if your disposable income is so high that you can spend £1000s on Christmas, designer clothes, regular hair extensions and manicures then perhaps your DLA is being used for expenses other than that which it was intended for, e.g. to pay for help to allow you and your daughter to live your day to day lives.

Not just dla..tax credits too...which are the biggest chunk of my income. But perhaps I should give them back...just so those of you without disabilities don't feel hard done by.

Jeez maybe I should cancel Xmas and birthdays in case we offend

shop-to-drop

So your daughter has severe disabilities and you seem intent on ruining her personality. I envisage her leading a very sad and lonely adulthood if you carry on giving her everything she demands. Can you see it's not making her happy as when she gets something she just looks for what she can have next. Do something lovely for her and see if you can make amends while she is still young enough.

cte1111

I'm glad that people like yourself, who can't work for whatever reason are able to live comfortably. I wouldn't want to be part of a society where disabled people are forced to suffer financially as well as their physical / mental problems.

I do find it offensive that you would post this in another thread though:

""Entitled" to anything?

No one is entitled to free money"

You like to have a 'pop' as you put it at other people who are looking to find out whether they are able to claim benefits, but seem to be proud of your own maximising of the same.

Anyhow, I'm glad you were able to take on other poster's POV about it being better for your children not to have everything they want as opposed to need. I hope your daughter enjoys her birthday, with or without the latest iPhone.

vroombroom

urgh, this thread just gets better. We both work and cannot afford an Iphone or Blackberry. Pathetic.

System

just when I thought the thread was bad enough, the op gets benefits, what a mess of a country

dandelionclock30

Troutwrestler wrote: »

Well so far I have booked a hotel stay for her and I. A nice meal in a restaurant she has always wanted to go to. Hopefully the zoo keeper experience, I have bought her a watch, new bag and new ugg boots. And I'm paying for her room to be redecorated and re carpeted( although I don't class that as birthday really..but it's eating into the budget). I will buy a few guides bits as fillers and open her a new bank account too.

Perhaps I will leave it at that and see how she reacts.

Thanks for all the suggestions

My goodness, one of these thing alone would be enough. Or the meal and 1 item. Material gifts are not the most important thing, its quality time and love/ support with your child.
When I was young I used to get things like a pair of jeans, or a chain, or some records and a few pounds or a pair of trainers. I was perfectly happy with these things and I've not been mentally scarred.
You could stop it all off now and explain that the household is cutting down and its one main gift from now on of a reasonable nature, not for 100s of pounds.
By the time shes 12 at this rate shes going to want a house bought for her or her own jet.
Your the adult and your in control, its upto you. If she wants more you can explain that she can have exactly what she wants when she starts working herself.
Shes going to end up selfish and greedy at this rate, surely you want a nice kind child, not one thats me me me, can I have all the time.