Birthday gift ideas for an 11 year old ?! Help!

Troutwrestler

vroombroom wrote: »

so why start the thread asking for advice/ideas if you don't care?
I don't see any nasty remarks on this thread - any opinions that have been given have been posted AFTER you described your daughter's attitude towards things and YOU are the one who uses your daughter's disability as an excuse to overindulge her.

Ok. And you are still whinging on because???????


:T

pigpen

Troutwrestler wrote: »

I will leave this thread for the benefit bashes who would rather have a few extra quid than a healthy child.

Spending shed loads of cash doesn't make anything 'better' for them. I have 1 with cerebral palsy.. for her 11th birthday in November she is getting a few books and a few bits of Hello Kitty paraphernalia and a cake.. I got an alarm clock for my 11th birthday!

You can't play the 'my poor disabled child' card, you aren't alone or special in that you have a child with additional needs there are loads of us here whose children have disabilities.. exploiting their additional needs to justify whatever it is you are doing is way out of order.

I'd give a limb for each of mine with disabilities to be healthy and live a full life, have children and hopefully not die in their 40's.. (I'll keep my right arm please so I can feed myself).. but it doesn't work like that. You make the best of what you have been given and what matters most is that they are well adjusted happy young people.. that comes from respect and gratitude and a bit of humility not by material crap that will be discarded at the next 'upgrade'

I seriously think some counselling might benefit you to get this over compensating and guilt or whatever it is into perspective.

Troutwrestler

Your opinion. Your entitled to it.

I have agreed in this thread she gets too much.

I won't however be made to feel bad for being disabled or having a disabled child. Because some on here don't earn enough and feel inadequate.

I dare say if I were to spend my time trawling through posts I could find things to pull some of the posters on here up on.

But I'm too busy getting ready to go out to have dinner...before anyone says it..yes I'm most grateful to the tax payer for feeding us all a lovely steak dinner tonight

neverdespairgirl

Troutwrestler wrote: »

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I won't however be made to feel bad for being disabled or having a disabled child. Because some on here don't earn enough and feel inadequate.


But I'm too busy getting ready to go out to have dinner...before anyone says it..yes I'm most grateful to the tax payer for feeding us all a lovely steak dinner tonight

What I find odd is how you characterise the situation. No-one's criticised you, or your daughter, for being disabled. Several posters have commented that they themselves have a child or children with disabilities. So is it just a psychological defence mechanism you have, in that you assign anything negative said to you, or anything you want to hear, as being some sort of attack in relation to disability.

Or, possibly, you are just trying to wind people up - hence the references to "not earning enough" when you don't earn anything, and the "steak dinners". That just seems designed to put backs up.

Toto

I am absolutely sure that this thread is a complete wind up.

balletshoes

Troutwrestler wrote: »

I own my house outright. I have enough money to ensure without benefits I am fine ( all declared to dwp before anyone's knickers get in a knot) the money I receive from tax credits/dla/child maintenance is used purely as I see fit.

I care not one jot what anyone on here thinks.

I do however think that some of the nastier remarks aimed at a disabled child are a bit ott.
But I can only be glad I'm not as desperate for a few quid to be that bitter.


:rotfl:

Trout I don't care where your money comes from, or what you do with it.

And to be honest, I don't think any of the remarks on this thread are aimed at your disabled child - I think the remarks are aimed at you, and not because of your disability, but because of your attitudes.

vroombroom

pigpen wrote: »

Spending shed loads of cash doesn't make anything 'better' for them. I have 1 with cerebral palsy.. for her 11th birthday in November she is getting a few books and a few bits of Hello Kitty paraphernalia and a cake.. I got an alarm clock for my 11th birthday!

You can't play the 'my poor disabled child' card, you aren't alone or special in that you have a child with additional needs there are loads of us here whose children have disabilities.. exploiting their additional needs to justify whatever it is you are doing is way out of order.

I'd give a limb for each of mine with disabilities to be healthy and live a full life, have children and hopefully not die in their 40's.. (I'll keep my right arm please so I can feed myself).. but it doesn't work like that. You make the best of what you have been given and what matters most is that they are well adjusted happy young people.. that comes from respect and gratitude and a bit of humility not by material crap that will be discarded at the next 'upgrade'

I seriously think some counselling might benefit you to get this over compensating and guilt or whatever it is into perspective.

good gosh, I am agreeing and liking one of PP's posts:rotfl::rotfl:

cutestkids

Troutwrestler wrote: »

I own my house outright. I have enough money to ensure without benefits I am fine ( all declared to dwp before anyone's knickers get in a knot) the money I receive from tax credits/dla/child maintenance is used purely as I see fit.

I care not one jot what anyone on here thinks.

I do however think that some of the nastier remarks aimed at a disabled child are a bit ott. But I can only be glad I'm not as desperate for a few quid to be that bitter.


:rotfl:

I take it that owning your house outright is a relatively new development in your life as a month ago you posted this on another thread.

Troutwrestler wrote: »

Your rent isn't going up, the payment you have to make towards it is.You either pay it or find somewhere cheaper. I rent privately and have to put £40 a week towards my rent as HB doesn't cover it

I think that you are just trying to wind people up to be honest, I hope that is the case because the picture that you yourself have painted of your daughter is not a very nice one so I really hope that you are a troll just trying to get a reaction.

victory

Troutwrestler wrote: »

Apparently all I'm going to get now is posts from people who think they can tell me how to spend the money I get.
Can't ford an iPhone? Get a better job (not nice being judged is it)

Thread has run it's course for me. I have bought her an iPhone and might I add I'm most grateful for the money..thanks.

I will leave this thread for the benefit bashes who would rather have a few extra quid than a healthy child.

You bought the iPhone today? You have spent most of your time being absolutely horrible, insensitive , self righteous and rude to everyone, wanting to wind everyone one up, I'll tell you this disabled or not disabled does not ever give you the right to post to anyone what you have been posting, you should not be allowed to post that way

vroombroom

cutestkids wrote: »

I take it that owning your house outright is a relatively new development in your life as a month ago you posted this on another thread.


I think that you are just trying to wind people up to be honest, I hope that is the case because the picture that you yourself have painted of your daughter is not a very nice one so I really hope that you are a troll just trying to get a reaction.

can't wait for the answerto this x