i found hidden drugs

fluffnutter

mrs_angry wrote: »

last time I found the drugs was when I found out he was having an affair with a woman who he worked with!!!!

He sounds a real catch.

Dimey

I'm so relieved to hear you say that mrs angry.

You are stronger than I thought. Good.

Good luck.

mrs_angry

pigpen wrote: »

Well pass him and it on to the police I'm sure he will eventually tell them where it is from..

I'd be concerned about all those things.. the lying, the deceit, mixing in 'those' circles of people and who doesn't have any respect at all for you!

Of course there is no trust he thinks you are an idiot!

A rethink on your marriage? Seriously?? You LIKE living like this?

I cant pass anything on I gave it to my local chemist and told them I found it.

I know im an idiot but its not all black and white I wish it was, and no I don't like living like this and do hope that one day I will get the strength and courage to say goodbye, but im not quite at that point, nearing it but not there yet.

BitterAndTwisted

People don't just pick up drugs for someone else without there being something in it for themselves. The risks are just far too great to be doing those sorts of "favours". So he's a drug-taker (and he's got previous form for that), he's a dealer, or he's both. My money's on both. And he's probably buying it from someone he works with. Very, VERY risky indeed.

After what happened to your son I'd be absolutely horrified and disgusted at his foolish recklessness. He'll go down eventually one way or the other and I sincerely hope he doesn't take you and your children down with him.

mrs_angry

Dimey wrote: »

I'm so relieved to hear you say that mrs angry.

You are stronger than I thought. Good.

Good luck.

thank you I didn't think I was this strong either but there is always a straw to break a camels back, and this camel has had enough.

thank you everyone for all your comments I knew what I had to do just needed some advice and different perspective's to see what was staring me right in the face.

my children are safe and I have turned a corner thanks to some good people here, thanks again.

julie2710

Good luck with your talk. You can be strong. Focus on the things that matter, you and your children.

Dimey

Something has just occurred to me. I hope your husband wasn't supplying your son with drugs. So much seems to have gone on behind your back.

Anyway. Good luck and let us know how you get on. I'll keep my fingers crossed for a happy ending.

kwmlondon

mrs_angry wrote: »

you really hit the nail on the head MASSIVE trust issues since his affair, although I would never condone using nor selling drugs etc.... the trust is the issue.

when your with a man for 20 years you just take it for granted that you tell each other everything, (except the little white lies which we all know could hurt, not deceive but hurt and that's the difference)

like I said to him if you are not telling me something that's not a little white lie, its either wrong or illegal, or else you would share with me, if you don't share with me and I find out that then adds to the trust issue.

yes im hurt he would even go anywhere near a drug considering what happened to our son, but im also hurt because he knew it was wrong hence the fact he kept quiet, and for me that's a huge issue because I don't want to be with someone who has those morals

so where does that leave me and my marriage, well ive been out for a drive and a think and have decided that later we will have a big talk, the talk that says I have now had enough, I am a stronger person than I was 15 months ago and if you don't change then you will have to leave as this is not good for me or our children.

Honestly, do you want to share this online? If it helps getting the opinions of people who don't know you, strangers, then that's great, but I feel you ought to be confiding in someone close right now. I really hope there's someone you have to turn to.

bitemebankers

Dunroamin wrote: »

Considering the number of parents who bring alcohol and tobacco into the family home, I think that your reaction is rather OTT. That's not to condone drug use but to encourage a degree of perspective.

Well, quite. Alcohol in particular is far more dangerous than most illegal drugs - it can and does cause accidental deaths in children every year.

But this isn't really about the actual risk these drugs present is it? It's about one woman's trust being breached (which I sympathise with) and a whole load of moral panic about drugs. Honestly, to read some of the comments on this thread, you'd think the OP's husband had been supplying bombs to al quaeda. What a sheltered life you lot must lead...

neverdespairgirl

mrs_angry wrote: »

he said he got it from a friend for a friend, said it wasn't used by him, and he is on the large side so that bit I believe as with speed you lose weight and cant eat, both of which he cant not do

That's worse.

That's "possession with intent to supply". Doesn't matter if he's making a profit or not, he's still dealing, not just possessing.