Feeling lonely

treeze

nice post,lovely site and lovely posters!:)Sending you loads of positive vibes and can really understand what you mean. I've been single four years after a 26 year marriage that sounds simislar to yours and get the lonely feelings now and then..usually if out with friends,weddings,pubs etc where it seems everyone's coupled up and lovey-dovey...but I make sure I ask myself if I want a "proper" relationship like that now.No,I want to take someone out of a box,dust them down and have them around for occasions like that...then put them back in their box so I can enjoy being by myself again!:rotfl:Hardly fair on them! Pennypenny,if it happens you WILL cope...sending you hugs.Marisco...you are a legend:T

mintymoneysaver

Yes, treeze, I often joke with my friend that I just want a man who 'does' Useful for DIY, meals out and whatever else I may require:rotfl: but then he could go back home!

Pennypenny, the last 15 months have been mostly wonderful, and I wouldn't have changed a day of them. Sure I'm feeling lonely now, but I still wouldn't go back...

pennypenny123

mintymoneysaver Thanks. But it's not what i want, i still love him.
Omg, i am trying to hold it together as my daughter is home and trying not to let her say how upset i am. He is in another country and everything was fine until 5 days ago.
Now I feel I am on a roller coaster and just want it to stop.

mintymoneysaver

I'm sorry to hear that, pennypenny. Believe me, I did have times like that too. It just so happens that by the end of it I came to realise that I was incredibly unhappy being unhappy, and I didn't deserve it.

I'm in a much more positive frame of mind so far this weekend. I've been determined to make sure I have things to fill the time when work isn't there to take my mind off things. So this after noon ( I only work part time, though it was 4.5 days this week!) I went out for lunch with my mum and daughter, and this evening I've been for a swim. It was lovely, I should do it more often. Tomorrow I have a list of jobs as long as my arm, and I'm taking my two girls out for tea, as it's ages since we've done that. Sunday, I need to do some marking and assessment ( favourite job, hey, Marisco?) and I'm going to visit my ex mother in law in hospital. Then before I know it, it'll be the week and work again, won't it? I'm still missing the skyping with my friend, but it's getting a little better. He isn't the right person, for so many reasons, and although he always will be a friend I can't message him in the way we were, otherwise we'd never move on!
I even have had a quick look at a dating website this week! I don't plan on doing anything about it, at all, but there's no harm in a bit of window shopping is there?:rotfl:

marisco_2

Good to hear you are feeling positive and upbeat minty. It sounds like you have enjoyed a nice day and have a lovely weekend planned. Should make the joy that is marking and assessment easier to bare. Good on you

mintymoneysaver

Had a bit of a blip at one point during the day, it just seems to engulf me at times, so off I headed to the bathroom. A 5 minute sob and I was okay again. The stupid thing is that it's all linked to this flirting, and yet he's not someone I have ever fancied in all the time I've known him, and I know we wouldn't be suited at all!

And I'm no lonelier than I have been in the past 15 months, it's not like I'm doing anything less, or got any less company than I've ever had in that time. I almost wish I'd never started it, saved myself all these feelings, but then it's also made me feel so much better about myself too, knowing that I'm still fanciable! Swings and roundabouts, hey?

[Deleted User]

Hi, just wanted to say that I totally understand where you are coming from and from all the replies you aren't alone.

I hope this blip passes quickly for you, its nice to know you still have romantic feelings and that side of life isn't completely dead. I agree with Marisco, its good to spend time on your own rather than jumping straight into another relationship. My husband left me a year ago now and i'm still not ready for anything. I do miss it though, having someone to share things with, I get incrediably lonely and envious of friends who's lives seem so much better and exciting than mine. I am seriously restricted by being the the resident parent (wouldnt have it any other way), so I hardly go out and my life is really work, kids and a weekly trip to the swimming pool, oh and tesco.

I want to make my life better, but have no idea how to start, i've looked into meet up but unless i want to spend the evening in a pub, there is little else in my area. I do keep an eye on it though.

I do have a few close friends, but not someone I can just pop round for a cuppa or have a gang of friends who live locally that actually give two hoots about me. Maybe I am dreaming in lala land, does this exist?

geoffky

Minty..My best mate..48 Single never married,
Drinks too much,
smokes far too much weed..
Loves the coke,
Still lives with his mum and dad,
Does not have a car because of being banned for drink driving x2..
Talks bollox after a few.
.Apart from that he is a great guy...
Do you fancy a date?:eek::rotfl:

[Deleted User]

You've made that sound a very attractive proposition!!!

geoffky

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You've made that sound a very attractive proposition!!!

I think i have done him justice...I really have...:)