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lostinrates

paulineb wrote: »

Again, thats positive and personal to you. But there are Im sure tales of people who have moved away from home and ended up in the flatshare from hell.

So many people have different experiences, some people who study dont go to uni until they are in their 30s or 40s and arent interested in the social aspect too much.

Some will have kids and wont be able to commit too much time to socialising. And all power to people who had great times and made lifelong friends. So did I, I just didnt share their living space.

The people who went away can only speak from their own experience and that of their friends and the people who stayed at home, same.

Thats why try it and see and if it all goes pear shaped life still goes on is fair enough.

Theres no way of knowing how the OPs daughter will like staying away from home until she gets there. But as I said earlier, if shes moving away from home, I think shed be as well moving some distance away and not 20 minutes down the road.

I agree with a lot of this, but I think much of what you are saying confirms the point that its a particular experience that is hard to replicate. It's harder to replicate for a thirty or forty year old doing the same thing, its hard for a person of 18/19 not living in the same sort of environment.

I get that you didn't like it. I didn't like all of my experience, in fact I can remember a couple of horrid times. But they were necessary as part of my transition to adulthood. (And I was already pretty independent and used to not living at home).

mumps

stebiz wrote: »

I was going to let this lie but things have developed a little.

My daughter has come back from work experience in a placement with a Psychology unit and was shocked by what she came across. I won't go into detail but it involved human excrement being spread on all the walls of the room she was based in. She isn't even sure if she wants to follow that career path now, although she may well do and just shows how quickly they can change their minds.

This is exactly what I mean about her not being ready. The last thing I want is for her to start a course and then have to leave it half way through. Like most will know there is no finance for a second degree so she needs to get on the right course first time round.

She hasn't been offered a place as it is next year but we have spoke to the University and they say that all students with ABB will be offered a place and she is on target to achieve this.

I can't tell you how often this happens. The number of people who have come to me for work/work experience who have always wanted to work with mental health in one way or another and find they hate it. But and it is a big but do encourage her to wait before making a decision too quickly, it does take a while to adjust to serious mental health settings but it is an incredibly worthwhile and satisfying thing to do.

Arthien

Following the update, I think my suggestion of getting her offers from the unis and then maybe deferring for a year while she does a year's placement in her area of interest might be worth looking into. This is assuming she can get relevant work experience in her chosen field though, not just a year's shop work or bottle washing.

It might help her to decide whether she then definitely wants to follow that path, with the reassurance of knowing she's got an unconditional offer for the year after if she wants it. She can then choose to take up her place or not, or reapply for a different course elsewhere if she changes her mind, and of course relevant work experience will always be looked upon favourably by a future employer.

flea72

paulineb wrote: »

So many people have different experiences, some people who study dont go to uni until they are in their 30s or 40s and arent interested in the social aspect too much..

Im in my 40s and feel im missing out on the whole uni experience by not living in halls lol

As for social aspect, it seems since fees have increased, the social side has really died down. Im surprised at how unparty my cohort are and the freshers week pubcrawl was more like afternoon tea with the inlaws

But yes eveyone is different. In the OPs case i would prob stay at home and see how it goes. At my uni its fairly easy to get accommodation in halls throughout the year as people drop out and are looking for someone to take over their room, so if they feel they want to be more in the thick of it they can move out of home whenever

mountainofdebt

Of course not every hall is a cesspit of alcohol and sex.

when Junior was making his choices he could opt for a single sex flat a quiet one or one where alcohol was banned

(he didn't opt for any of those options - as he said he was going to uni not a monastery lol!)

securityguy

mumps wrote: »

I can't tell you how often this happens. The number of people who have come to me for work/work experience who have always wanted to work with mental health in one way or another

And medicine more generally. Anecdotally (but I have had this from four GPs of my acquaintance) there are a lot of people who end up in medicine because they're clever and can pass exams. They aren't happy when they find out that there's an awful lot more dealing with vaguely broken people who need social workers, and people with chronic, debilitating but incurable conditions, than there is miraculously diagnosing obscure conditions which can be fixed with one magic drug.

Dunroamin

securityguy wrote: »

And medicine more generally. Anecdotally (but I have had this from four GPs of my acquaintance) there are a lot of people who end up in medicine because they're clever and can pass exams. They aren't happy when they find out that there's an awful lot more dealing with vaguely broken people who need social workers, and people with chronic, debilitating but incurable conditions, than there is miraculously diagnosing obscure conditions which can be fixed with one magic drug.

When i was training, we were asked to discuss the fall back career choice for those who didn't make it into medical school. We decided that it was probably physiotherapy, nursing or pharmacy but were surprised to find that it was actually accountancy.

mumps

securityguy wrote: »

And medicine more generally. Anecdotally (but I have had this from four GPs of my acquaintance) there are a lot of people who end up in medicine because they're clever and can pass exams. They aren't happy when they find out that there's an awful lot more dealing with vaguely broken people who need social workers, and people with chronic, debilitating but incurable conditions, than there is miraculously diagnosing obscure conditions which can be fixed with one magic drug.

House has got a lot to answer for (although I do like Hugh Laurie)

Person_one

Dunroamin wrote: »

When i was training, we were asked to discuss the fall back career choice for those who didn't make it into medical school. We decided that it was probably physiotherapy, nursing or pharmacy but were surprised to find that it was actually accountancy.

I think a fair number do go into pharmacy, but I agree, not the more 'vocational' lower paid lower status health professions as a rule.

mumps

Dunroamin wrote: »

When i was training, we were asked to discuss the fall back career choice for those who didn't make it into medical school. We decided that it was probably physiotherapy, nursing or pharmacy but were surprised to find that it was actually accountancy.

A real calling then. :rotfl::rotfl: