MSE Pregnancy Club 26

Toothfairy4

I ordered one to, thanks yumyums!

justonemorepairofshoes

Aww lovely bags girls.

I treated myself to a storksak Elizabeth - not very mse but got it from a little shop so managed to negotiate a fair bit of discount. I reasoned that I won't really need to use another handbag for a while!!


I am desperate for some sleep at the moment - I am up and down to the bathroom at least 10 times every night.


Someone mentioned LO's playing up with imminent arrivals of siblings - my 7 year old seems to be realising he may not be my only focus now and is becoming more demanding (plus I caught him watching peppa pig yesterday!)


I was at the hospital on Thursday and the woman on reception tried to make me take an appointment on the 10th Sept when I knew the consultant had written 39 weeks. She rolled her eyes and tutted at me when I suggested that was slightly far past my due date to be useful!!


36+6

gizmodo_2

Poppy27 wrote: »

Can I ask a potentially stupid question? What's the insulated pocket for bottles actually for? Is it to keep bottles warm or to keep them cold???

I thought it was to keep my can of coke cold

bride2be2012 wrote: »

Is anyone planning on using real nappies? A local project is offering a free newborn starter kit that I've signed up for, then they hire larger sizes for £5 a month, that I'm quite tempted by. But I don't know anyone who uses real nappies, I know my mum used them for us but I'm almost 29 so know that things will have changed a bit since then!

I used them for DD and now going to use them on number two. I have birth to potty nappies so I used disposables for about 6 weeks before they fit DD. But to be honest, using disposables in those first few weeks isn't a bad idea while you settle into a routine.

The Nappy Lady website isn't a bad place to start to learn about the different types of nappies. She has some youtube videos too.

MV - I see what you mean about the stairs! Sounds like your son just won't do one thing for long enough Must be frustrating. I feel quite lucky now that DD can entertain herself for reasonable amounts of time! Maybe boys are just different? I know my friends little boy the same age is very clingy with his mum and always wants her attention.

dizziblonde

I'll be honest - 99% of the time I use the bottle insulated pocket for my own bottles of water or to put my carkeys in. Normally we make bottles up from scratch out and about with flasks of water, however if I'm going somewhere and I know the youngest is going to need a feed shortly after we get there (like the baby group we go to that starts at 10am and it's usually between 10 and half past she wants a feed) then I'll make it slightly on the warm side and let it cool down while we travel (it's always drunk within 1 hour when I do it this way) - so I use the bottle pocket then - mainly so if it leaks it doesn't go all over the blooming bag.

My beloved Boots freebie finally gave up the ghost a few weeks ago - I had a bababing bag which was a triumph of being huge with not actually much storage in it at all so when I sold one of my pushchairs (the b-dual was too heavy and wasn't getting used) I treated myself and bought a babymel one which I'm liking - has enough room for two kids worth of stuff (with an 11 month age gap I still have to cart around "baby" stuff for both of 'em) and still spare room to chuck abandoned cardies etc in the top... plus finding bags that will hang on double buggies is a pain in the neck (a thing that had never occurred to me when buggy and bag shopping to be honest - but with tandems it's hard since the bag hits the lower seat, and with side-by-sides it needs to go round a longer handlebar) and it's got little stroller straps on it which means it hangs really really close to the handlebars. I was tempted by the pink lining ones designed for twins though (double bottle pockets etc).

Anyone dealing with a toddler while heavily pregnant has it rough - I'm kind of glad my age gap was narrower and my eldest wasn't really mobile for most of it (she only properly learnt to crawl when I was in labour - boy did granny get a shock there).

katielouisej

Bit of a moan, feel awful, as i'm the only one who drives out of me and father of child (can't bring myself to call him much more at the moment), i have to ferry him around. Since going on mat leave i've said no, get a bus, i'm not a taxi. Saves me from getting up at 7am to get him to work on my time off where i'm supposed to be relaxing.
So last night he didn't want to wait for a bus, so arranged to go for a drink with his friend. Which ended up being an even where he's out until nearly 6am. And who got the call to pick him up exactly?? If not it would have cost us £10 in taxi, or a drunken walk where anything could have happened.
The worst bit being he didn't answer the 30 phone calls inbetwen 1 and 5 worrying about him (well, it was a quick drink at 8.30pm...). I got less than 2 hours sleep. Originally I was told 'i didn't look at my phone', then when I said 'good job I wasn't going into labour' I got, 'Well obviously I would have answered that call'. Eventually leading to the revelation he'd been ignoring me so 'i didn't moan at him'

I checked round the hospitals, this is how upset I was. And it's not the first time either! I believe he was just with his friends, but cannot believe how inconsiderate, unthinking and uncaring he acts when he does this.

So got him home at 6am, went straight out to MCD's as i was so hungry and didn't want to be in the same house, then slept on a chair awkwardly, as i didn't want to go up to bed and we STILL don't have a proper sofa!! So somehow i've lost out on sleep, my own bed and my stress-free self i'd been working on the last few days, all because i didn't give him a lift home from work. So my own fault????

Unhappy me = unhappy little one. Not happy at all.
sorry for the rant ):

Lola888

katielouisej wrote: »

Bit of a moan, feel awful, as i'm the only one who drives out of me and father of child (can't bring myself to call him much more at the moment), i have to ferry him around. Since going on mat leave i've said no, get a bus, i'm not a taxi. Saves me from getting up at 7am to get him to work on my time off where i'm supposed to be relaxing.
So last night he didn't want to wait for a bus, so arranged to go for a drink with his friend. Which ended up being an even where he's out until nearly 6am. And who got the call to pick him up exactly?? If not it would have cost us £10 in taxi, or a drunken walk where anything could have happened.
The worst bit being he didn't answer the 30 phone calls inbetwen 1 and 5 worrying about him (well, it was a quick drink at 8.30pm...). I got less than 2 hours sleep. Originally I was told 'i didn't look at my phone', then when I said 'good job I wasn't going into labour' I got, 'Well obviously I would have answered that call'. Eventually leading to the revelation he'd been ignoring me so 'i didn't moan at him'

I checked round the hospitals, this is how upset I was. And it's not the first time either! I believe he was just with his friends, but cannot believe how inconsiderate, unthinking and uncaring he acts when he does this.

So got him home at 6am, went straight out to MCD's as i was so hungry and didn't want to be in the same house, then slept on a chair awkwardly, as i didn't want to go up to bed and we STILL don't have a proper sofa!! So somehow i've lost out on sleep, my own bed and my stress-free self i'd been working on the last few days, all because i didn't give him a lift home from work. So my own fault????

Unhappy me = unhappy little one. Not happy at all.
sorry for the rant ):

I'd have locked him out! What a [EMAIL="b@$tard"]b@$tard[/EMAIL]!! He should get off his !!!! and and learn to drive. My DH used to work about 15 miles away and he used to get up at 6.30 to be in work for 9 as he needed to get 2 buses. He soon got his bum in gear and learnt!

I'd sit him down and give him a good talking to, this is now fair on you especially with LO.

Metranil_Vavin

He sounds like he needs a good kick up the ar5e. How old is he?

Sounds like he is doing that classic 'denial' thing that some men do before they become dad's.

Not good enough though as if you had needed to get hold of him, what would you have done??

Hugs..I'd be utterly pi55ed off too.

katielouisej

Lola888 wrote: »

I'd have locked him out! What a b@$tard!! He should get off his !!!! and and learn to drive. My DH used to work about 15 miles away and he used to get up at 6.30 to be in work for 9 as he needed to get 2 buses. He soon got his bum in gear and learnt!

I'd sit him down and give him a good talking to, this is now fair on you especially with LO.

Worse thing is, i went and picked him up! I worry too much, it annoys me. We met at work so he's always had a lfit to work, now doesn't like it i'm on mat leave and refuse to, double petrol, and he needs to get used to it for when babs here! Can't be bundling him into a car at all times of the day to get him... he's learning now but not even pushing his instructor for at least a mock test!!
Tried to talk to him earlier but he was still drunk so got no sense, kept saying 'love you' to try ward me off... didn't work. Made me angrier. I've left him to sleep, think i'll rudely wake him up soon.

Metranil_Vavin wrote: »

He sounds like he needs a good kick up the ar5e. How old is he?

Sounds like he is doing that classic 'denial' thing that some men do before they become dad's.

Not good enough though as if you had needed to get hold of him, what would you have done??

Hugs..I'd be utterly pi55ed off too.

He's 25! So not a child, not an older dad no, but still old enough for responsibility, esp since he's wanted a child since he was 15!

Honestly thought about texting 'in labour, gone hospital' to get his attention but I read 'the boy who cried wolf' as a child so i didn't...


Grrrrr 34+5, no longer at work and STILL stressing.
I'm expecting at the very least dinner cooked for me. And a lot of rooms cleaned.

Lola888

katielouisej wrote: »

Worse thing is, i went and picked him up! I worry too much, it annoys me. We met at work so he's always had a lfit to work, now doesn't like it i'm on mat leave and refuse to, double petrol, and he needs to get used to it for when babs here! Can't be bundling him into a car at all times of the day to get him... he's learning now but not even pushing his instructor for at least a mock test!!
Tried to talk to him earlier but he was still drunk so got no sense, kept saying 'love you' to try ward me off... didn't work. Made me angrier. I've left him to sleep, think i'll rudely wake him up soon.



He's 25! So not a child, not an older dad no, but still old enough for responsibility, esp since he's wanted a child since he was 15!

Honestly thought about texting 'in labour, gone hospital' to get his attention but I read 'the boy who cried wolf' as a child so i didn't...


Grrrrr 34+5, no longer at work and STILL stressing.
I'm expecting at the very least dinner cooked for me. And a lot of rooms cleaned.

Is there anyone he could get a lift from- a colleague who drives nearby or if your OH walked a certain way they could pick him up part way? Seriously he needs to grow up, your LO is onroute and there's no way you can bundle a baby into the car to be driving here there and everywhere!

Does he not realise how much life would be easier if he could drive himself?

NoAngel

Big hugs Katie, this isn't the stress you need at this point. Hope you get an apology.