no wedding invite

Janepig

Violet_Isle wrote: »

Do you think you OH could be having an affair with one of the guests and thats why you have not been invited?

Its very strange that it has happened twice and he's accepting the situation (and going).

Even if they didnt particularly like you that much if they thought anything of you OH they would have automatically included you

I've never heard anything so flaming ridiculous in all my life! I'd hate to be your partner - you'd probably have a private detective on them as soon as they leave the house!

Jxx

Smashing

Violet_Isle wrote: »

Do you think you OH could be having an affair with one of the guests and thats why you have not been invited?

Hurrah for fueling paranoia.
Anyone else want to raise the stakes and invent a lovechild?

funky-footprints

Violet_Isle wrote: »

Do you think you OH could be having an affair with one of the guests and thats why you have not been invited?

Its very strange that it has happened twice and he's accepting the situation (and going).

Even if they didnt particularly like you that much if they thought anything of you OH they would have automatically included you

Goodness me ..what a thing to post !!

Im glad to op has moved on from this. I have only just read this post, but to me it came across, that your boyfriend works with these people and it may just be down to numbers.
Maybe others that have been invited to the wedding havnt had thier partners invited and so they didnt want to extend the partners rule to some and not to others.
If perhaps you were living together, or were married then i would throw a wobbly with my dh for going without me, but as a couple as you are then i think unfortunately it is understandable.

Hope you have a fun day what ever you deiced to get up to without your man !

Scarlett1

Smashing wrote: »

Hurrah for fueling paranoia.
Anyone else want to raise the stakes and invent a lovechild?

I will raise the stakes and say the OH is having an affair with both the bride and groom, any other takers ?

Scarlett1

RatherGutted wrote: »

Hi all,

Thanks for the replies. They're all much appreciated. I accepted not being invited to the first wedding because it was a very small wedding and my OH thinks he was on the reserve list anyway so that wasn't such a big deal but it's the other one that i'm annoyed about. Ok, the couple are closer friends with my OH but they still know we're together. As suggested, I sounded out someone else in the friendship group and as far as she's aware, I've done nothing to offend anyone. And as she pointed out, they were all happy to come to my leaving do.

I'd never phone the bride or gategrash the wedding, I just don't have the confidence to do that! But I will be having words with the OH.

Then i'll just stop thinking about it and plan a treat for myself for the day

Thanks again.

good for you, hope you enjoy your treat, and whats the bet your OH comes home early cause he's bored cause everyone else is all luvy duvy with their other halves and he feels left out

seashore321

Just one question do they definitely know that you are a couple? If so they are either very insensitive or not friends! I agree with SSB make your own entertainment and also my OH would not go without me cos we are a couple.

victory

I think it may just be due to finances, space, you having left work and having so many other people to consider/pay for/organize.
Does seem strange that it has happened twice though... when was the last time you saw the friends? Did you talk about the wedding? You don't have to be blunt but if you did see and talk to them just a very little gentle hint might clear it all up...

ooobedoo

OK, I am thinking a long lay in, a indulgent bath, taking time to pamper yourself, shopping...not mse but I am sure you need new shoes, a long lunch in somewhere fab, after shoppng you might be tired so maybe a trip to the beauty parlour required....manicure, pedicure, waxing, facial and a full body massage.........all this without a man moaning at you!!!

notakid

I think its like someone said above, they have invited workmates (as you do) but not partners because otherwise the cost would be too much. If they invite you (who no longer works with them) they might feel it would "open the floodgates" for others.

It is strange you have not recieved an invite for the evening do but maybe they think that looks even cheekier. And they can't just invite your O/H to the evening if the rest of the workmates are going in the day.

bigup

Violet_Isle wrote: »

Do you think you OH could be having an affair with one of the guests and thats why you have not been invited?

Its very strange that it has happened twice and he's accepting the situation (and going).

Even if they didnt particularly like you that much if they thought anything of you OH they would have automatically included you

lol i like the way your mind works!