The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kezlou

hugs nutty

hope your mums okay chick let us all know how she is xxxxxx

grandma247

FairyPrincessk don't forget to have a look at youtube for how to vids. I have learned some new crochet stitches by watching someone do it when written instructions were not enough. There are loads of sewing tutorials.

Possession

Nutty, thinking of you and your mum and DD. I hope they can find what's wrong with your mum today so they can start to treat it effectively. I had a bad wisdom tooth out a couple of years ago and it was painful and uncomfortable for about a week or so. It also felt horribly odd to have such a big gap too but it healed over amazingly well.
Kez the older I get the more I think the world is filled with idiots. I'm sorry they treated you that way. As you already know you're definitely better off without them and karma will catch up with them.

PRINCESSX87

Morning everyone.

Very chilly but bright here this morning. I nearly fell taking the rubbish out! That would have been a rather loud thud!

Managed to do most of the housework already just finishing off some of the bigger bits like hovering throughout ect.

Then I can spend the rest of the day working out a budget for our wedding. So far, Looking at this forum, I’ve read that weddings can happen on as low as £1k. Not sure whether that’s something we can do. But, We’re both hell bent on making sure we shop around & not getting lost in the world of marriage bargains as such.

Another thing we are at logger heads about is the ceremony. I have always wanted a church wedding. But its whether budget allows, OH keeps taking the attitude just go with whatever is cheapest. Men Aye!

I’m sure it will sort itself out. But I’m stressed already & it is months & months away yet with nothing even booked!

Kez, Don’t worry about these people in your life. Its their loss, Not yours. Children are amazing and will shortly forget about the other children there & make new friends.

Nutty, My wishes are with you. I hope its nothing serious with your poor mum. Keep us updated x

FairyPrincessk

Will do Grandma! Particularly as I start trying new things.

Princess, weddings can be very stressful, but I tend to think budget weddings are probably less stressful in the long run. Perhaps you and your OH should make a dream list--each of you says the top things that are most important to you. For you it might be having it in a church while for him it might be keeping the cost as low as possible. Obviously you'll have to meet in the middle where things clash, but if you can each narrow down what is most important to you then it should be much easier to see where costs can be cut on other things, i.e. perhaps you're prepared to keep your dress cost very low by buying second hand or just a normal white dress. Your OH may be more willing to work with you if he knows church wedding doesn't mean the whole shebang!

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PX87 when we got married many moons ago we opted for a registry office ceremony and had the reception in our own home which was a tiny one down two up house and we did the catering ourselves except the cake which was a present from He Who Knows mum who managed a bakery. We made the buttonholes ourselves and I didn't have a bouquet or a wedding dress, we just kept everything as simple as we possibly could and the costs down as low as we could. We had the best fun too, we had an afternoon reception for close family with sandwiches, vol au vents, sausage rolls, and the wedding cake followed by a party for all our friends in the evening still in our little house and including all the neighbours and folks who would likely be disturbed by the noise and what a party that was too!!! they cleaned me out of food (and I'd made enough to feed 2 armies not just 1!) and at 4 in the morning I was cooking frozen bread rolls and emptied the freezer because they were still hungry too!!! We didn't have a honeymoon either, went to the allottment the next day and back to work on the Monday and we're still here 35 and 11/12ths years later. It's not about the show, or the way it all looks love it's about how you feel together and having a day YOU enjoy and remember with pleasure for the rest of your days so don't stress, just say to yourselves this is OUR DAY and we can do it the way WE WANT and go for it, Lyn xxx.

candlelight_2013

PX87 I had a Register Office marriage which was lovely, and we are 47 years this year, and then later I had a career change and I became a Deputy Superintendent Registrar and I can't tell you how many couples I married, including our own Daughter and Son in law. Although I say it myself I always tried to make the ceremony very personal to the couple, and if your dream is of wearing a wedding dress, well you can do that as well.

By all means consider all your options, but when DD asked me to marry them I was chuffed. Son in law, although not religious himself, came from a religious family, and I assumed they would be married in church. We had such fun that day, and the ceremony was really lovely because they were both at ease and not nervous at all.

I am sure whatever you decide it will be the best day of your life, as has been with MLW and He Who Knows and myself and Himself

Much love
Candlelight x

gailey_2

Afternon hugs to everyone having tough time.

Im wondering today how can it be 14th jan.

current state chaos in the gailey household.

landlord selling as served notice.

we have until 7th march find somewhere to live.

was hoping pickup after xmas

but not many 3beds around in right area im feeling bit stressed.

have houseinspection tommorow

got companies ringing up hubby to ask if tehy can come do qaotes measure up for new carpet.

on right move /zoopla least 3times a day.

hubbys busy in work.

kids are hectic everynight between now and sat is something on and a party on sunday attend.

Least we have lots food in house.

dd1 was ill last week so went back school end last week.

done 2tip runs.

have so much to do sort of overwhelms me right now need find a house.

its £900-950month 3bed house round here.

finding area close to school becoming hard.

going to have to borrow money for 1months rent upfront, agents fees and deposit.

i need start decluttering next few weeks and doind some painting and packing.

its dd1s birthday next month.

schol application deadline this week got form in but not hopeful.

feels like just when things stable something happens again.

we did wish to move but own steam.

I hate estate agents smary gits but hate our current letting agents so much be glad rid of them.

looking for 3bed 2 rception rooms so an one day have semi tody house with no kids toys in lounge and kicthen where we can eat as family be nice.

im comprimising on areas garden and parking seem to be hubbys sticking point looking at older terraces that offer more space for money but things go so quick.

any advice? estate agent keeps saying chill but moving horrifies me at best times with 3kids will be hell.

mardatha

Re weddings, we eloped when I was 16 and had our celebration meal - a plate of chips and a coke - in a biker cafe. Total cost of the wedding was £1.50 for the certificate We're 48 years at end of this month!

kidcat

Nutty hugs will keep you all in my prayers.

Gailey your notice is only a request that you leave. If you haven't got anywhere to move to you do not have to go then. Please contact shelter and get proper advice on your rights. It's possibly an idea to agree with current landlord (on paper) a deal which allows you to stay while he sells at least until you find somewhere else.