The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

monnagran

Shegar: You poor thing! What a horrible thing to happen. I agree with kidcat, if you make a decision about your DH's future now you can do it calmly and have time to look around to find just the right place. If it all comes on you suddenly he will be whisked off to wherever there is a vacancy whether it is suitable or not, and there won't be time to prepare him for it. Lots of hugs for you both, this is not a nice time for you.

Molly: Thank you for your suggestions re diabetic puddings. I have also read that there is new thinking about diet. Try telling our Lunch Club members though. You'd think I was trying to kill them off! The cheesecake one sounds good. I'll also look on the Health & Beauty thread - I can't remember who suggested that, but thank you.

x

Molly41

fuddle wrote: »

How are you doing Molly? Are you feeling better after your transfusion?

Hello - thank you for asking after me. I do feel better this morning - I always have a funny day the day after x

Byatt

http://www.viralnova.com/snowflakes/

Somehow, this puts everything in perspective, stunning.

lobbyludd

I love these, and i have a wilson bentley one as my screensaver, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilson_Bentley.

I once heard snowflakes as a metaphor for human individuality and variety, wish I could remember it properly as it was beautiful.
thanks Byatt

shergar - hope you are feeling ok after your horrible experience,

mcculloch29

Byatt, thank you so much. I just put that as my status on FB, with this comment

"Apologies if you have seen this before but with snow forecast for some parts of the country, I thought I would share.
If you ever read or hear about mathematics being beautiful, and your reaction is like mine used to be, 'Whatttt...?!!' (Symmetry being a branch of mathematics), this is something to bear in mind."

Strange how we can come to love things we once disliked, once our minds start to open.
If you had told me when I was a very pro-Welsh person that I would not only live in the North East of England but come to love it dearly, I would have laughed at you. Wales is still 'home', though, that can never change. This corner of England is my very acceptable 'second home'.

Shegar, thinking of you. Some excellent advice on here. TG you have some support.

Monnagran, Wonderful news. I was thinking of you and a homeless guy I saw on holiday in the I.o.W in August - he was being moved on in Shanklin after spending the night sleeping outside the public loos. Then I saw him trudging up a steep hill out of the town, with a huge sports bag, and he was slightly built. I hope he is OK for the winter.
I used to live in Wiltshire with my Forces husband - my niece is there now, same circumstances, life repeating its patterns. Except her husband is currently a Captain, mine was a Lance Corporal at the time!
I worked in Trowbridge and lived in a town beginning with W...!
We had Bath as our special place for treat days out and shopping. I absolutely loved it. That was the first English city I fell in love with.

Love and hugs to all who feel they can accept them.

mcculloch29

lobbyludd wrote: »

I love these, and i have a wilson bentley one as my screensaver, http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Wilson_Bentley.

I once heard snowflakes as a metaphor for human individuality and variety, wish I could remember it properly as it was beautiful.
thanks Byatt

shergar - hope you are feeling ok after your horrible experience,

Lobbyludd, was this the piece you read? (Below)
Even if it isn't, it is very beautiful, I agree:

Humans are comparable to snowflakes. Of course, we aren't actually ice - that's not how metaphors work! What I mean, more specifically than the proverb that no two are exactly alike, is as follows.
From our creation, we aren't complete six-sided snowflakes. We start as a grain of dust, without any burden or knowledge, or existance as a snowflake. Someday, forces beyond our control introduce us to our new world: you're alive! You're one of us! Look! You can fly! You can fall if you want - just live first - and grow, mature, and ripen into a snowflake to make us proud when it hits the ground.

We have to grow, and we have to grow up. Just as we started as dust (biblically and metaphorically), every crystal that we gain, condenses on a particle. A full and ideal snowflake without dirt or bacteria for the ice to grow on simply does not exist. Nor does a human have a growing and maturing life without experiences. Some of this maturity will have things at their core that we would rather not have at all - but without them you will either remain a speck without the ability to stand up a snowflake or ice will condense on shapeless ice, becoming something else entirely.

Someday we will fall out of the cloud of our childhood, where our cherished and shaming experiences helped us grow, and fly down to Earth. Some of us will be mature already, and some of us will not. Either way, starting to fall will happen even if we would rather frolick in the sky, as we age into young adults gazing back at better times, or it will begin with a joyful glee looking forward towards the journey of life and the place we could find on the ground.

The fall itself is a time of transition. Some start it as adults; others younger. It is a time where we will eventually find a place in the world. A few falls will take longer than others. For many, their fall will be the final catalyst, as they rapidly collide with many more experiences and particles tumbling through the air. There is no turning back time and age, and there is no escape from gravity, up-drafts or not. Once started, each fall shares two things - turbulent conditions forcing adaption and change, and a peaceful end on ground prepared and chilled by forebears, while passing the wait for a thaw's death by enjoying the company of fellows from far-flung backgrounds and clouds.

My own fall has likely begun already. Whether I am a six-sided adult or not, I do not know. I cannot see my own structure or judge my own readiness for anything. Nor can I demand a particular place in the world or on the ground.
I can, however, guide my fall as best I can, maybe add to myself along the way. I can apply to universities that would teach me things beyond what I know now, I can study the same things on my own. I can discuss with peers or with experienced adults. I can learn to dance or sing or draw or paint. I can try my best to express my entire being in short essays, or I come up with what I think are interesting metaphors for life. And I can, I want, to grow well, to fall well, and to finish life six-sided.

This is the source .

kidcat

Evening toughies - you have all been so quiet today, hope everyone is ok.

Its been a busy day here and I am drained, slept for a few hours this afternoon and will be heading to bed soon.

cornishchick

Waves to Kidcat
I'm here,

Not been on due to being sucked into a time continum, where time passes at a different rate to everywhere else... aka pinterest ! Planning hubby's 42nd birthday, he wants a party styled on a child's party so trying to find adult versions of children's party games lol.lol . so any ideas please share.
Going to find an entertainer as well,

Sheger, i hope your feeling better now, like others have said, better a planned need for care out of the home where you both still have control of where and how.

fiddle It can't be long now till your move. How exciting.:)

Mon so glad to hear you have a new home to move too. Good luck with the declutter.

Anyone else, please feel free to come over, I have a cake tin filled with lemon drizzle cake, the kettle is on, or the is wine and spirits if you would rather, well it is Saturday :T

kidcat

Cornish - I am fairly sure Pooky did something similar recently and had loads of things she did for an adult version of kids party

elona

How about "pin the tail on the donkey" and the figure is a bunny girl?

Musical chairs but two people have to fit on one chair - on a lap?

Pass the parcel with the tune being "the stripper" and presents being chocolate body parts or items along those lines.