The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

VJsmum

Thanks again. We are all a little calmer now.

OH was still furious this morning but I had a word with DS and said "dad thinks you aren't really showing remorse, but I think you are / were trying not to cry - which is it?" And he said what I thought was "closer to it" for which I read "it". He and OH spent some time together this morning and OH is OK now - feels more sorry for him than anything.

WE have chosen not to tell MiL - but I keep nearly doing so by accident things like "oh I've made J another hair appointment as he missed it yesterday"

Beautiful day here - MiL and I are off to see DD's production in a hot stuffy theatre later. Deep joy!

shegar

Well as you know ive been up since 2.45 this morning to go to the Next sale, well im still going and havent had a kip today at all......Ive done 3 loads of washing , got it dried, ironed it too, plus done the duvets , sheets and pillow cases......:D
Made beds up, hoovered , dusted, etc, then done hens, then I actually did sit in the garden a little this arvo, but wasnt tired at all, and didnt fall asleep in the summerhouse like I normally do........:D

I still feel as bright as a button...:D Oh how im loving this...:D....

Hubby told me to slow down today because he say im
" like a rat up a drainpipe", I cant help it im just full of go........

Right on to the Sea Kelp....I bought mine on ebay, 90 tabs, 600 mg....On the bottle its got Biomayde Sea Kelp, it comes from fresh waters, I take one tab once aday, they cost me , £5.79 with postage......Beings im on here writing this thread I cant go onto ebay and look to see who I bought them from, so when ive done this post I will check "my ebay" out and then get back on here and let you know where I got them from.........

I did start to feel more energy and woke up less tired than I had been this past week, but I was scared to get my hopes up that it is the tablets, but nothing else as changed in my life for the past 3 weeks only taking the sea kelp.....Im eating the same , same prescribed meds, still doing 24/7caring , so it as to be the kelp.........I feel like a new woman half my age , thats got to be a bonus when im 55.................

Even this morning when I normally hoover the door rugs , there them 4 foot x 5 foot rubber backed, well I got hold of them took them outside and shook and beat the f**k out of them:eek:, I aint done that in years........I couldnt believe I wernt even tired or out of breath when I done that.......

Look at Mar , shes out on the bike with hubby , how good is that for her, shes hardly on here now she as found some energy.....:D.....
Right I be back very soon with the name where I got my tabs from........Sheila......

shegar

Here goes......sellers name is BIOMAYDE 5472..........
POOKY....


I did actually pay £6.74, with postage , sea kelp bladderwrack.......Mine were delivered in 2 days..........

Everyone is different , where it works on some people it may not work on others , but its worth a try.........I hope im allowed to do what ive just done in naming a supplier, I just found this supplier on ebay and do not know them or related to them in anyway........Sheila.....

Molly41

http://www.zest.co.uk/healthy-body/sea-kelp--super-supplement-or-health-risk/3505.html

Rosanna79

EEE By gum it's hot!! It was something like 94 F on the garden thermometer this afternoon. As we've a trip coming up to MIL I stayed back home whilst OH headed off to help at the Parish Garden party. I wasn't getting out on my bike or going anywhere until after 5 pm- a useful rule I learned when living in the Middle East 35 years ago- Never go in the sun between 11 & 3 if you can help it. Just as I headed off on the bike we had a quick rain shower. It was wonderful! The pollens are certainly flying about as I was obliged to get out the reliever inhaler during the ride around the shops.

My MIL who will be 85 shortly has spent decades being the most awkward , difficult individual it is possible to imagine. She apparently likes me because I have a degree!!!- ridiculous reason for liking someone- and my very talented, practical OH has been treated in the most dismissive offhand way imaginable all his life. He has, thankfully, given up trying to get her approval.

Whatever talents / aptitude he has shown for anything has been sneered at , poked fun at or she has simply refused to believe that he has done or made whatever it is she's observed. Overall he has been made to feel like an outsider in his own family. Suffice to say that members of my family have made him feel much more as though he belongs.

Whatever gifts are given to MIL she's rude/ ungracious and gives everything away. So we just don't bother that much anymore other than some fresh produce from the garden which she does appreciate.

Oh is a superb calligrapher / sign writer so when I say that this year he asked me to write her birthday card you can imagine how he's feeling. I'm a retired health professional with the handwriting that tends to go with that unless I really take my time.

As a young man he was given an outlet for these skills by a church minister who used to get him making notice boards and posters. This pastor gave him a very old leather bound, hand illuminated book given to a man in Wisbech 115 years ago with a 'purse of 100 sovereigns'. For 40 years the book lay on our bookshelves and only recently OH decided to research the origins of this book.

Upshot of all this is that after what looks like being a really miserable day with MIL- despite my making a cake etc OH is to have the pleasure of an official reception with various civic dignitaries as he returns the book to the town. I'm so glad for him. It's something pleasant to look forward to.

Every time we head to see MIL our hearts sink. We do not look forward to the experience. Some 12 years ago when I was in a London hospital after major surgery she was my first visitor and absolutely fine with me. A couple of our friends from Essex arrived. After the relevant introductions were made she literally turned her chair 180 degrees so all we could see was her back!! To say I was embarrassed was an understatement. I find such snobbery & antisocial behaviour really hard to grasp?

My own parents were difficult but had nothing on this lady! Extreme snobbishness, an insistence on living in a time warp and a refusal to mix make for a very miserable & isolated life. The toxicity of such contact permeates every contact which is kept as short as is decently possible.

Does anyone else have experience of this kind of behaviour? If we subscribed to the Hindu belief of reincarnation we would have to assume that we'd done something truly dreadful in an earlier life to deserve this level of difficult parents!

Either way I consider we've got a PHD apiece in dealing with awkward s**ds!!

meg72

shegar wrote: »

Here goes......sellers name is BIOMAYDE 5472..........
POOKY....


I did actually pay £6.74, with postage , sea kelp bladderwrack.......Mine were delivered in 2 days..........

Everyone is different , where it works on some people it may not work on others , but its worth a try.........I hope im allowed to do what ive just done in naming a supplier, I just found this supplier on ebay and do not know them or related to them in anyway........Sheila.....

Many thanks for this have just ordered, its got to be worth a try, I seem to have no energy lately and tire so easily.

savingqueen

Hugs to all of you vjsmum. From what I can gather, your son was feeling emotionally hurt and reacting in the only way he could at that time, yes it was wrong to hit the other boy but then he had a good reason. Boys tend to feel and act- not feel, think and act, it's how they are naturally and takes a while to learn how to manage that. When your son was thinking overnight, he wasn't thinking logically, he was still feeling. I hope that makes sense.

Things always seem worse at the time but you will look back and see it for what it is, just a blip.

gotta go as DH turfing me off PC, back later...

sq:)

Mrs_Chip

Evening All!

Well I'm pooped, it was hot, hot, hot! on the van this evening. We were quite busy too so now feeling like a wet rag.

I'm not sure I have given the kelp a proper go, I do keep forgetting to take them, so probably taking them every other day! Anyone got any suggestions for a table I can take for that?:rotfl:.

So glad for you Mar and Sheila, it must be wonderful to feel so much better, and all down to seaweed!

Edit : Table? :rotfl: I think I would have trouble getting that down!

Valli

fuddle wrote: »

I heard this morning that government want to lobby headteachers to get them to ban packed lunches. Nobody will ban me from sending my children to school with a packed lunch, no one. Seriously, if it came down to it I would Home School I feel that strongly about it. It is possible to send nutritious food to school in lunches, I know I do it daily. I cannot afford the luxury of £80 per month extra on school meals and manage quite nicely using the ingredients I already buy for the household.

I understand that stats about the healthy lunch box but I am not a parent who sends chocolate, sweet and crisps. Too many solutions in society are about blanket bans. Where's the education, the schemes, the expert view, the pamphlets through schools to give tips and ideas, the seminars, the campaigns? That would be too difficult, enable choice, cost money etc non of which we can afford in society these days eh? Rule with the iron rod is far cheaper eh?

See 'em try

Not all schools have kitchens on site so have to ship in from other schools anyway.
And for reasons I am not able to air nothing on earth would have tempted me to eat anything served by a certain dinner lady of my aquaintance. She's been sacked now.

Anyway, sorry not to have been around much - my feet have barely touched the ground.

Am lurking though.

cyclingyorkie

Valli wrote: »

Not all schools have kitchens on site so have to ship in from other schools anyway.
And for reasons I am not able to air nothing on earth would have tempted me to eat anything served by a certain dinner lady of my aquaintance. She's been sacked now.

Anyway, sorry not to have been around much - my feet have barely touched the ground.

Am lurking though.

Our school has a kitchen on site, but we struggle to serve the 50% of kids who stay for dinners - we already operate 2 sittings. We wouldn't cope with any more. The school is a listed building, so no hope of an extension!

I work exclusively with the kids who bring packed lunches. I would concur with the research that they are less healthy - some of them are horrific! Most could be substantially improved! But our head won't ban stuff from lunch boxes.....