The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

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PIC it's that old addage about taking horses to water but not being able to make them drink. Try as you may, when they are grown up you can't apply the same pressure to make them act as you can when they're still living under your roof love. She knows you love her and worry for her but this might be just too big an issue for HER to get her head around. Have you offered to go to the GP with her and be part of the sorting out process in general, if she knows you're there and on side (and I'm sure she does know that) she might just be able to summon up the courage to go and get things sorted out. If she still can't make herself act for her own good, do you know anyone who is in the medical profession, maybe a nurse who could take her through what action and treatment would be most likely to be needed to manage her illness? that might help as the chat could be an informal one maybe in her home or yours rather than in a surgery. Might help, good luck, Lyn xxx.

silvasava

Many Happies Fuddle:bdaycake::bdaycake::bdaycake:

Nargleblast

Happy birthday, fuddle - what a difference to your life since your last birthday, new home, new part of the country, new job, new friends....and all for the good. Have a brilliant day!

the_cake

The happiest of birthdays to Fuddle! How far you've come on your journey - love to you and your family, may you share this and many more very happy days. xxxx

Knit_Witch

Many happy returns Fuddle!

savingqueen

What would you guys do? I respect your opinions. I have been invited to a Pampered Chef party, 2nd time by the same person. The first time I just said sorry I can't make it (I was free.) On the day we have at least one school open day which is a drive away earlier in the day and then a kid's party til 6.30pm. Then home to cook dinner so I don't fancy adding an evening event anyway.

I haven't been to a party plan thing for years. The odd invite I get which is never from a close friend I always politely make my excuses. If it was a close friend I would probably go just the once and buy something small.

I want to text back (which is easier as she has texted me) thanks for the invite, sorry I can't come as I can't afford to buy anything, hope it goes well type of thing - as I have a feeling she will just keep inviting me. She has never invited me to anything social before although our boys have been to each other's houses. She is a TA at the school so I don't want to be rude either. So just say I can't come or add the reason why? I would rather be honest but I often feel like a bit of a plonker for doing so as most people seem to just go with a polite white lie. I know it's only a tiny thing but...

I am getting ready for the party in between doing other things as I also seem to run out of time to get ready properly. I never paint my finger nails and I have just painted them a trendy green colour which I picked up for about 50p in a sale. I don't think I like them though so back to square one!

ivyleaf

SQ It's a bit of a dilemma, isn't it? If it were me I think I'd explain that I wouldn't be able to buy anything, and also explain about the other things you need to do that evening in any case. I hate that kind of thing. Nothing worse than feeling you ought to go and ought to spend money you haven't got!

(((PIC)))

Goodness LilySue, no wonder you haven't had time to post

the cake - Sorry, I meant to send you my best wishes earlier. What a horrid situation for OH and for you xx

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SQ decline it gracefully, express regret that you have already got a commitment that day but don't specify what that commitment is and wish her a very good turn out for her party. I hate that type of thing and have sliding out from invites down to a fine art. Don't get into a conversation and you'll not end up saying yes due to guilt and applied pressure.

meanmarie

Happy birthday fuddle, have a great day!

PIC.....you have my sympathy, going throughmuch the same at present, try to "shelve" things, I find it helps.

Had my hair restyled this morning, will know if I like it when I have washed it myself.

SQ.....as Lyn says, decline gracefully due to other commitments, dont elaborate, no need


Hugs to all

Marie

Jazee

SQ, I agree with the others that you should just politely decline, you don't have to give a reason.

Wouldn't life be easier if we all just learnt to say no a bit more often and did things to suit ourselves rather than everyone else. I'm not saying to never be helpful or kind or whatever, but just sometimes to put ourselves first.