The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

savingqueen

Hello popping in to offer hugs all round especially to cornishchick. Better to let emotions out if they are ready than hold them in - all part of the healing process. good luck wishes re the potential job too.
glad you are up and about PIC - easy does it though girl!
A massive well done to stiltwalker completing the "Surviving the MIL on Holiday" Challenge - certificate is in the post Bet you are glad to be back at home now!
not feeling great in more ways than one but ok with it, just bumbling along. Ventured out with kids yesterday, aim to get few bits of shopping, treat in the caf! and little trip to local park. Got some stuff in the trolley then felt so ill had leave it and come home. DH offered to get some bits in last night and took DS10 - they came back with hardly any real food ie for meals but happy bunnies, at least a couple of the bits were reduced. Finally persuaded DH to shop in a different (and cheaper for small shops anyway) supermarket.
DH has taken boys to the coast, they were champing at the bit to get a good run out somewhere. I am mean to be "resting" which I am sort of doing other than washing, sweeping, washing up etc. Will have a nice soak though soon and then sit down to some more sewing jobs, need some bits for our holidays so best get cracking. Feel very unorganised re the holiday - probably because I am unorganised as yet! I have started several Lists though ha ha

Margaret54

ah well done to your son with the phone call kidcat. vey clever young man cornishchick hope you get the job you sound as if you would be very good at it. Long hours are so tiring.
The weather today here is lovely and sunny so I managed to hang out a lot of washing including towels.I don't use a tumble dryer but did use one a very long time ago. I am only washing for the two of us now and use a clothes horse indoors when it doesn't dry outside. I love the smell of the washing hanging out on the line and to watch it blowing too while on the line. A simple joy of mine

kidcat

Stiltwalker - well done, I imagine you now need a holiday to recover

CC - ((hugs))

PIC - I agree investing in your health is never a bad thing

Ivy - good luck with the tests

SQ - hope you are feeling better today

I am exhausted, the bouncy castle was a success for our kids and they really enjoyed it but it caused bother with the neighbours kids. These are the kids who whenever we go in the front they are always there, even when DD8 had a school friend and they were playing badminton on our lawn they were both running in and out of them disrupting them.
Its driving me crazy as we cannot escape them, and they are not particularly nice to DS10, the boy keeps deliberately riding his bike to brush past him.
So with the castle I said DD could have her friends on but they had to take turns with DS so he had equal time. Except I left DD out with her friends on it but every time turned round neighbours kids were on. And when I asked DD to get off for DS she and her friends were great and got straight off no arguments, but the neighbour kids were stroppy! They even tried sitting on the edge waiting for him to leave.
So I got bolshy and told them they were to go home an audience makes DS act up.
It got worse when my friend arrived with her kids cos they actually got annoyed I had her kids on having asked them to leave!!!

All in all I am still drained today.

We had a visit from my parents again who moaned they werrent allowed to see DS16 who was asleep and then critised the living room decoration etc. I snapped and said well isnt it good you dont spend any time here any more and then said ooh look at the time I need to get on, DD19 will show you out!

Today has been more productive as I have cleared the playhouse out, laid the carpet, tied up the two bike sheds, the tool shed and the toy shed. So the kids have a nice organised den to sit in and I hopefully will be saved DD8 trailing friends through the house every ten minutes

OH has done a huge tip run too, although he still has a charity shop run and a scrap metal run to do as well. We are definitely getting somewhere though

paidinchickens

Kidcat I'm annoyed for you. Even the small things end up being a battle, not surprising your frazzled.

I'm glad the kids are older and we have a vicious dog as I don't have to put up with kids coming round any more

PiC x

kidcat

Oh PIC theres an idea train our dog to look vicious NOt sure our big dopey lab could look threatening though

I have decided next time we speak to the neighbours I am going to tell them we are fencing our property off, we can dress it nicely in that it will help me when DS10 runs and that we are fed up of the damage to our car etc. The thing is its their kids doing the car damage. But I am hopeful they will quickly fence their place off, as they seem to be in competition with us, I mentioned decking last year, they got decking a week later, we bought sofas, they had sofas delivered not long after, OH said we were getting kitchen re organised to house large fridge, a week later they had american style fridge delivered. And so much more, OH said he was going to paint the drive - she was out the following weekend painting theirs. I bought a jet wash for OH - yes they had one delivered a few days later.
Worse thing is they are never in so I end up with lots of the stuff sitting here all day.
But I am hoping this will work in our favour in that if they fence first I will only have to fence one side

savingqueen

Washing blowing on the line and smelling it when it is dry after is one of my favourite things too Margaret. Unfortunately my 2nd laundry load of towels is in the machine still and heave rain forecast early hours and all day tomorrow.
Blooming neighbours kidcat! Good idea re the fence. Afraid you have prompted a ramble from me now though .... sorry.
One side of ours is lovely, the other the opposite though we tolerate them as best we can (having the neighbours from hell prior to the current ones!) They communicate mainly in shouting, whining, swearing, door banging... though sweetness and light when one child is sent to ours to "borrow" a cup of something or the other. They are known to the housing people (according to reliable sources ) but they don't cause us many big problems just lots of everyday little ones. I used to throw their rubbish including fag ends back over their garden and it has stopped appearing in ours. Somehow we live side by side!
Didn't get my bath or do any sewing but did fall asleep for a quick nap which turned into 4 hours whilst the male contingent were out. Woke up to dinner cooked by DH AND involved using up some of the fridge odds and end so great (kitchen now not looking so great but will leave til tomorrow as wiped out still)
Boys in a much better mood, they have been cooped in too long.

kidcat

Evening ladies - are we all battened down for this end of hurricane burtha???

Having had a big sort out today I have been able to go through the garden and get everything locked away safely.
Tomorrow I am planning a house sort out to get rid of a pile of stuff from my bedroom and make space for other stuff which is currently homeless. I really would love a nice organised bedroom which is tidy - ideally we need wall to ceiling wardrobes on one wall but cannot possibly afford it.
In the meantime I need to sort stuff out.

A word of advice please ladies - I have two rather large boxes taking up valuable space, one is the inappropriate water fountain and the other the huge juicer my parents bought us as presents. I will use neither, cannot return them to the store, both are expensive (over £100 each) would it be wrong to ebay them?

elisamoose

stiltwalker wrote: »

Hi all,


Just back from a mid week break at the new Woburn Center Parcs with PIL, niece and nephew. All I can say is MIL is still alive and kicking due to huuuge amounts of self restraint on my part!!! and lots of pinot grigio - not very MSE or healthy but I got through a very difficult week.


She says she admires the way we cope (by which, I assume she means the kids' disabilities etc) and the way we are bringing up the kids but then completely undermines what we are doing and goes completely counter to what works with them - then when DH (quite gently considering DD was by this stage 15 minutes into a full autistic style meltdown which I was attempting to deal with) asks her not to do XYZ as it exacerbates the situation and not to wind the kids up in general we have full on pouting and teenage style sulking til the following lunchtime!


Ahh well - we are home now.


Hope you are all well - Hx

Glad you enjoyed it.We were there too looking after GD1 as GD2 arrived 7 weeks early last weekend putting all our holiday plans askew!

kidcat

elisa - congratulations on the new arrival - although seven weeks early is a bit inconvenient of her

stiltwalker

Kidcat - no, not at all!! - get 'em listed lass then treat yourself and the kids to something nice that you actually want with the proceeds. I used our move as an excuse to get rid of loads of tat foisted on us by MIL (some of would have been worth a bit but not loads, some was completely inappropriate presents for the kids) I just charity shopped or where it was new sent to the lovely school where we go to stay and play for raffle/tombola etc as I didn't have time (and TBH couldn't be *rsed) to ebay.


Great drying day here after a couple of morning showers so have managed to get through the mountain of washing we brought back from holiday and all line dried so it went straight in the wardrobes without going near the iron.


Going to use up the last of the nice ham I had roasted to take on hols with us for lunches for everyone - didn't all get used as MIL bought cr*appy plastic ham instead even though I'd said I had brought it for everyone. Never mind - all the more for us yum yum! So tea is home roasted ham with new pots and cauli and broccoli cheese - kids have already had theirs and are in bed asleep and will pop our cheese in the oven about 8.


Sadly will 'have' to make the sacrifice of bacon butties for brekkie in the morning as the bacon we had brought for everyone was similarly snubbed in favour of some manky stuff which oozed nasty white water!


Hugs to all where needed or wanted - X