The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

kidcat

Thanks Lyn - I think a 2 1 is perfectly fine for what she needs, it was more the wake up that her exam result was so low. BUt yes it will hopefully give her the jolt to focus

Have taken another executive decision today and have got the cleaner to blitz the bathroom as well as the usual bottom floor.

DD8 has friends coming after school and it means it will all be nice and nothing to be ashamed of. DS10 has appointment this afternoon so will be finishing early, which has cheered me tremendously and better still we got up to a house that was so untidy but the focus of the cleaner coming meant we kicked it all into tidy shape by 8.15 and I was able to sit for 15mins with a coffee before school, something unheard of previously
DS16 has (we discovered last week) been forgetting his meds, his moods have been all over the place and he has been very hard to handle, thankfully he has taken them for just over a week regularly and this morning we could see the difference. The real bonus for me was that he recognised that not taking his meds had been awful and he now understands how vital they are.

savingqueen

hello everyone

kidcat - sorry DD had a disappointing exam result but not the end of the world and maybe the reality check she needed it seems, likewise DS with his meds. Making "mistakes" and learning from them are very important for us all, so in a way, good for both children.

PIC - the forgetfulness is a definite challenge for me. I am a mix of scatty and sensible at the best of times and add in forgetfulness oh boy!! Also finding that the ADs have calmed me down loads but the other side of the coin is that my concentration is lacking.... hence the car and key incidents last week.... but I didn't stress too much about them at least :rotfl:

DH survived his 2nd exam last night and thinks he has done ok. This weekend we get DH back after 3 years of study... well apart from the world cup and his full-on job.... feeling some relief though still have 3 exam results to wait for.

DS10 had a terrible night, he just couldn't sleep at all and in the early hours screamed out in frustration. Woke DH up which is a rare thing as he sleeps through most things. I took strong painkillers before bed and unusually for me slept through. DH talking to DS10 woke up DS7.

Fortunately school is closed again today for teacher training... how lucky is that? So we are having a PJ day, first time in a long time there is nothing urgent to do (always tons to do but most can wait ) so I will gently potter. Beds desperately need changing so will do those, few sewing repairs and usual routine bits. Temps due to soar today so glad to be indoors, too much for me.

Nutty and PIC - hope your headaches are gone? Princess you poor love, take it very easy until you are fully recovered. Sorry to hear you have ben poorly too AOT and alfsmum. Get well wishes to anyone I have missed, seems a lot of us at the mo.

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savingqueen

alfsmum , trying to think of things for your gift basket, difficult for a non-runner! how about some sweat resistant suncream or one of those sticks for nose, ears etc. copy of a running mag if he doesn't have a subscription?

mardatha

I still only use very fine knitting needles, I knit shetland and mohair - thick wool makes me look like an orangutang.

fuddle

Possession you will cry and cry today. It will come out of nowhere and it will hit you. Possession your kiddies will be upset but I am so sure they will cope with it better than you. It's just awful and no matter how you know it's the right thing, it's difficult to accept and you mourn the loss as well as feel guilt. It gets better P, course it does but I still to this day am not over it. I can't look at pics or talk about Alfie much but the girls can. I think it has a lot to do with guilt where as they have gone through the grieving process and now can be positive - I can't, guilt is holding me back. I'm mentioning it so you can be aware and try to get yourself free from guilt of making the decision. It is what is best for Lottie P. You're stuck with some baggage but the children won't have that bit of baggage and will deal with it just fine I am so sure of that. Be thinking of you. x

Monna I am worried, or was worried, that the negativity of those who love you dearly would affect your ability to see that there is a lovely new and exciting change ahead for you. Stupid me. I forgot I was talking about Monna huh?

Well the ice cream pot for my crackers issue was solved. Remember I wanted a tub to put my crackers in but because we now have a smaller freezer I didn't have room for a tub of ice cream? Well DH bought a tub of ice cream and kept it at work. He brought it last night washed and empty I know have a home for me crackers. Ok, the ice cream would have cost the same as the tub to buy but at least we (or he!) got ice cream too.

So just had a couple of said crackers with Lidl brie and chutney, about to finish off with strawbs and natural yoghurt with a splidge o' honey to sweeten. Then off out again to earn a few more pennies.

Weekend rota is in and for once it is not wall to wall crammed. I have breaks we now just have to hope no one calls in sick!

Burgers and salad with boiled pots for tea.

Knitting Question: how can I knit a blanket on needles? I want to do a basic cable blanket with quite chunky wool but cannot fathom how to do it with the needles I have which are generic in length. Any clues folks?

Possession

Thankyou for your thoughts.
I've taken Lottie back and it went well, she definitely recognised her foster carer and was very pleased to see her, and went into the house and garden (which is new to her as they've moved) with no fuss. She knows the dogs already so hopefully that won't be too stressful. They live on a farm in the middle of nowhere so it should be lovely and quiet for Lottie with a big garden to potter around in. I think she'll be happy, as long as she behaves herself and doesn't bite anyone.
I feel dreadful but that's to be expected I guess. I do feel guilty Fuddle, at not being her forever home, but I'd feel guilty if we kept her and she bit DS again, so I can't win really. Our other dog misses her I think.
So I shall try to keep busy this weekend, which shouldn't be too difficult as the house is a mess and we have numerous karate and dance show activities to ferry the children to.

paidinchickens

Sorry for my type and run earlier, I got half way through and someone turned up so had to post mid stream (sounds like a wee test doesn't it lol)

Thanks for the reminder on the £5 of free fruit and veg. We got two papers so £10 of freebies, as a luxury I had two tubs of cherries..... and ate both tubs :eek:

Possession I'm glad pooch was happy to go back to their fosterer, we have had several of our foster cats come back and if it's not right it's not right and most places are just glad responsible people can see that rather than pass them on or dump them somewhere which some people do, you wouldn't believe some of the stories. Then they are the ones who seem to find the most perfect home in the end rather than one that's not the right fit

Well it will be the air show all weekend so that's me stranded in the house

PiC x

mardatha

Sorry I'm being a wee bit short lately, just not running at 100%. Normal Mard will be resumed shortly :D

savingqueen

(((((((((Possession)))))))))) so glad Lottie was happy back at her foster home, sounds idyllic. I hope your sadness will be balanced a little by knowing you have done the right thing. It will pass in time, keep busy if you need to but allow a little time to be sad too. Emotions need to come out one way or another.

Mardy - hope you get some zing back soon, chin up chuck

Its sweltering here, glad I can be indoors all day for a change. Poor Mr Poshcat with a generous fur coat has found the best shady spot in the garden. Kids not feeling like eating but will get grouchy if they don't. Instead of "lunch" at the kitchen table, I have made "snacks" to eat whilst watching TV. Little bowls of cheese, cu, grapes, crackers etc like I used to do when they were toddlers.

Quick Question: are those soft grip clothes pegs worth buying? I line dry as much as poss and iron as least as poss. The only snag is the marks the pegs leave.


ice-cream tubs - I have several, some in use, some on stand by. If I make cakes for school or friends, the tubs rarely come back so good to have a few stashed away. Also use a couple for storage things like stationary, keeping odds and ends together in a drawer. I LOVE my tubs


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juliettet

Are you still taking Kelp Mar? The reason I ask is I wonder if I am getting used to it and the energy is slowing a bit. I have been tired this week after work.