The OS Doorstep - a helpful and supportive thread in these tough times

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Attagirl PIC, keep your pecker up love!!! it will all die down and be gone before you know it pet!!! I've just had the most lovely Skype gurgle with the Zebra child who is now convinced that Oma and Opa live inside his mums laptop. Poor lad is in for a shock in two weeks time when she brings him home and he realises that we've grown and aren't 2 feet tall in real life, hope he isn't too scared!!! He's coming along in leaps and bounds that one, he is looking like a little lad now and has completely lost that new baby look. I'll try to post an up to date piccie of him while they're here, so looking forward to them coming!!! Lyn xxx.

Pyxis

I agree with Mrs. L. that there's nowt so queer as folk!

Would you say that widow has acted a bit out of character? If so, it may be that something else has upset her, or that there is some other stress in her life. If her family are as awful as they sound, it may be something to do with them.

If that is the case, she may be taking her frustration out on neighbour and you, because she cannot, or is too worried to confront the family, or whoever.

It seems to me that poor neighbour has every right to be annoyed, and she probably flipped when she arrived home, tired, for the nth time finding she couldn't get to her house.

Would she be willing to go to widow and explain that, if that were the case?

Failing that, there's always the men in the blue berets!



Forgot to ask, how long is it since she was widowed?

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I'd advise doing nothing at least until tomorrow, give it an evening and night for reflection and let the dust settle and hackles fall before thinking of doing anything at all. It's just summer lightning, loud, disconcerting and very bright but then gone and forgotten in the light of day! Tomorow, as they say, is another day altogether!!! Lyn xxx.

Pyxis

paidinchickens wrote: »

I'm stuck between ....... is she and her whole family round the twist or is she suffering due to grief. If it is grief then no one has helped her as much as us from fixing her heating, tv, hoover, lighting etc down to opening every jam jar for her.
PiC x

I apologise, I realise you have said she's a widow of 12months. 2 things, 12months is still very early days when you have lost a partner.

Secondly, is it very close to the anniversary of his death? That might be why it's raw for her, plus that may have been why family were visiting.

ivyleaf

(((HUGS))) PIC, I hope things calm down very soon Horrid situation for you to be in.

AOT -Thanks for thanking me but it was actually juliettet who mentioned the Burt's Bees. It is very good though!

SQ - I used to have to get "sturdy fit" school trousers for my son sometimes - he wasn't fat but was very stocky. I had to get them at the school outfitters, but I think at least one of the chain stores does them now - I don't think any of the supermarkets do though, but would be very pleased to be corrected

Ordinary clothes were a problem for a while too, at that awkward stage when kids' sizes are too small but the boy's not yet big enough for men's sizes. My son wore jogging bottoms outside school, until he was big enough for Burton's smallest size jeans. (ETA he's nearly 29 now so I don't know if it's still a problem for boys these days!)

Lyn -I keep meaning to ask - why are you and your husband Oma and Opa rather than Granny/Nan and Grandad? I know you lived in Europe a lot, but not sure if one of you is European in origin rather than British? Sorry, I'm nosey :D

shegar

PIC.....If I was you I wouldnt breath another word about it to any of them , just say a polite " morning " and then keep your distance , once bitten twice shy.....;)......
Very funny how people seem to " just turn on people"......Nowt as queer as folk , good advice from LYN , PXYS and SAVINGQUEEN....

Been very nica again today , we need a good rain really , ground is very dry.......MARDATHER.....You are really so behind with your weather , relating to whats budding and whats not, our daffodils died weeks back, and I have loads of blossom on the apple tree, and I have tiny little victoria plums now starting to grow, its only a small plum tree , but this year its packed with fruit...............

Ive got to go to hospital tomorrow morning as I have a appointment for diabetic eye screening , something I must do as ive had lazer surgery in the past due to leaking blood vessels ........

So its another bank holiday Monday , I expect I will do some jobs about the home and garden , as theres always too much traffic on our main route which goes to Lowestoft and Great Yarmouth , holiday makers........

Quite a few of our regular posters have not posted for a time , hope they are all well and happy .........Sheila...

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Hi IVYLEAF no we're both brits but decided to be Oma and Opa to make it easier for the baba to know which set of grandparents he's dealing with in the future. His other grandparents are Grandma and Grandad and I remember my girls getting confused when they were little about who we were having to stay next. You're right though Oma and Opa are german and we did live there when Zebras mum was 7 and for the next 3 years, love the place, love the people, love the culture and go back as often as I can, Lyn xxx.

candlelight_2013

Shergar, I have to have yearly retinal screening, mine is usually about September time.

Every good wish to your sister for when she starts her treatment. I am three and a half years down the line and I still become nervous before my 6 monthly check up and certainly when I have the dreaded yearly mammogram. I never take anything for granted now, I just keep taking the tablets and try to be positive.

Take care

Candlelightx

paidinchickens

Pyxis wrote: »

I apologise, I realise you have said she's a widow of 12months. 2 things, 12months is still very early days when you have lost a partner.

Secondly, is it very close to the anniversary of his death? That might be why it's raw for her, plus that may have been why family were visiting.

Didn't even think about the anniversary, I'm obviously having a thick moment. Good thinking Batman.

I'm going to do the morning/afternoon pleasantries (sp) and that is it.

Then if the day hadn't been bad enough.........

One of the chooks died and the kids found it

Bottle of wine tonight I think

PiC x

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PIC so sad about the chicken, but you give them a happy life and they get the best care and live well, they are contented and loved and in the fullness of time, even loved chickens have to take their rest, hope the littlies are OK and that you can have a little funeral and put flowers where she sleeps, love and hugs Lyn xxx.