Am I being unresonable?

Funky_Bold_Ribena

choir-girl wrote: »

We do have separate bank accounts and I made sure that the main credit card is in his name. I think if I cut up the card he would probably explode.

His reasoning for having a new car is that he's a nice person, he dosn't interfere with small children, dosnt' get drunk or beat people up so why shouldn't he have a nice car. It really is so difficult to make him see reason. He's one of those people that once he starts talking (usually about himself) he can talk for hours!

When I get home I'm going to check in the mirror and see if it says MUG on my forehead!!:rotfl:

Because he can't afford one!

ecgirl07

choir-girl wrote: »

What would we do with the money if not spent on the car, I have pointed out that we should be doing more things together and that at our age (58 & 64) our money should be for us to enjoy, meals out, weekends away etc.

If he is the one that is 64 how does he intend to pay £500 odds a month once he retires? What provision has he made for retirement finances?

Errata

His comments about being a nice person & etc and him thinking his current vehicle will increase in price as it ages coupled with his now inability to earn much would make me wonder if someone had hit him over the head with a shovel. He's lost the plot.

Dunroamin

Errata wrote: »

His comments about being a nice person & etc and him thinking his current vehicle will increase in price as it ages coupled with his now inability to earn much would make me wonder if someone had hit him over the head with a shovel. He's lost the plot.

I was thinking that someone ought to do exactly that!;)

meer53

OP, your husband is a selfish and shallow person. It's all about how he is seen by his mates down the golf club, nothing to do with his foot or where he puts his golf clubs. I know where i'd shove them.

If you're having to buy food and petrol on a credit card, there are lots of things you need to sort out between you. I'm a single mum on half of what you earn, (your salary OP, not included your Husbands) i have a brand new car and manage to pay all my bills and buy my food without using a credit card.

lemontart

I would be annoyed to say the least, crazy spending that amount when times are tight and likely to get a lot worse before improves,

choir-girl

Thank you all for your comments. I've written him a long letter pointing out the error of his ways! Whether I show it to him is another matter. I hope I do, it's very difficult getting him to see reason. He has a tendency to rant and not let me get a word in. But my rant is now written down.

I am already seriously considering contacting the manager at the garage to explain just how little he earns, and that there is no way he could afford this car. The last time he bought a car he did contact me and ask if I was happy with about it.

Anyway I've been summoned to the golf club for a BBQ, he's asked what I plan to wear, and I shall be wearing the denim jacket I've been asked not to wear (we don't do denim at the golf club)! I hope they sling me out! And if I see a brand new car in his parking space I shall just check if it is his and then walk out!! I can be defiant when I want to be

fluffnutter

I've just read this thread to my OH, thinking 'it's about cars, and relationships. Let's get a male perspective'. (My OH adores cars too).

His response... 'the guy's a twat'. Sorry, OP, I might have been a bit kinder

paulineb_2

choir-girl wrote: »

Thank you all for your comments. I've written him a long letter pointing out the error of his ways! Whether I show it to him is another matter. I hope I do, it's very difficult getting him to see reason. He has a tendency to rant and not let me get a word in. But my rant is now written down.

I am already seriously considering contacting the manager at the garage to explain just how little he earns, and that there is no way he could afford this car. The last time he bought a car he did contact me and ask if I was happy with about it.

Anyway I've been summoned to the golf club for a BBQ, he's asked what I plan to wear, and I shall be wearing the denim jacket I've been asked not to wear (we don't do denim at the golf club)! I hope they sling me out! And if I see a brand new car in his parking space I shall just check if it is his and then walk out!! I can be defiant when I want to be

Defiant wont help the overall issue, which is, you cant speak to the person you are with about something without him ranting at you.

I said before, I think there are far more issues here than just the car and you can either accept the way he is, try and do something to change your relationship. Or leave.

CH27

choir-girl wrote: »

Thank you all for your comments. I've written him a long letter pointing out the error of his ways! Whether I show it to him is another matter. I hope I do, it's very difficult getting him to see reason. He has a tendency to rant and not let me get a word in. But my rant is now written down.

I am already seriously considering contacting the manager at the garage to explain just how little he earns, and that there is no way he could afford this car. The last time he bought a car he did contact me and ask if I was happy with about it.

Anyway I've been summoned to the golf club for a BBQ, he's asked what I plan to wear, and I shall be wearing the denim jacket I've been asked not to wear (we don't do denim at the golf club)! I hope they sling me out! And if I see a brand new car in his parking space I shall just check if it is his and then walk out!! I can be defiant when I want to be

What are you? His slave?