Men not helping at get togethers...

ostrichnomore_2

'Because men are not that bothered and don't see the need to converse with people they don't talk to that often?'

huh? It's got nothing to do with conversation...

If you think it's because women want a chat, well, I for one would rather do that from the comfort of a sofa, not with my arms in a sinkfull of washing up :rotfl:

I agree that dog training transfers well to people. Especially kids. When my son was a toddler, without realising what I'd done at the time, I had him trained to 'sit' and 'stay' and his little bum would hit the ground and he'd stop till I got there, instantly. Very useful when they are about to grab something they shouldn't/run off/are about to get hurt.

Takeaway_Addict

ostrichnomore wrote: »

'Because men are not that bothered and don't see the need to converse with people they don't talk to that often?'

huh? It's got nothing to do with conversation...

If you think it's because women want a chat, well, I for one would rather do that from the comfort of a sofa, not with my arms in a sinkfull of washing up :rotfl:

I agree that dog training transfers well to people. Especially kids. When my son was a toddler, without realising what I'd done at the time, I had him trained to 'sit' and 'stay' and his little bum would hit the ground and he'd stop till I got there, instantly. Very useful when they are about to grab something they shouldn't/run off/are about to get hurt.

If thats how you feel then why have these occasions? Why not just say no thanks.

1886

I'm a male (34 yo) and when I go to my in laws we all help clear the table and do the washing up. I remember the first time I had sunday dinner there and the mother in law asked me to start help taking the plates out. I was quite shocked because if we ever have people over I always like to do it myself but she spends hours cooking and helping clear the table etc. is the least I can do

As for why some/most/whatever men don't help, I'm not sure. They're probably not interested and think it's the woman's job.

Why is it when you see a couple in a car, 99% of the time the man is driving? I know so many couples who both have a licence and insurance on the same car but the man always drives. There's certain things that certain sexes naturally think they should do

ostrichnomore_2

Takeaway_Addict.

It wasn't really a personal issue, just something I thought would be interesting to discuss. OP was triggered by a comment on another thread suggesting 'mothers and sisters' could do the catering for an event, and another poster asking 'why not the men?'.

So the attitude isn't dead yet. It doesn't seem to happen so much now, I'm just curious as to why it does, when it does. I thought all that would have died out by now.

Best cook I know is one of my brothers. If I needed help catering an event he'd be top of my list. But other people just automatically think 'women'. Interesting, non?

gt568

Drier than the sahara in here. Where's my brew?

j.e.j.

January20 wrote: »

As they say: I'm only responsible for what I write not for what the reader understands.

Too many people are too quick to getting offended nowadays!
(I'm not saying you j.e.j - I agree with your post!)

I love that way of thinking. Does it apply to speech too? I'm only responsible for what I say, not for what the other person understands.

j.e.j.

gt568 wrote: »

There, there sugartits....get yourself back in the kitchen and make me a brew. Chop, chop....

are you from oop north by any chance :rotfl:

Pixiechic

gt568 wrote: »

Drier than the sahara in here. Where's my brew?

:rotfl: :rotfl:

FatVonD

My DH does more than his fair share of clearing up at gatherings and he'll be the one that sweeps the patio and scrubs the BBQ afterwards too. My DS is going to catering college so is always up for cooking (not so good at the clearing up though!)

As for driving, DH drives all day for a living so he's always keen for me to be the one that drives when we're out together. That's his excuse anyway, it could be something to do with him then always being the one that can drink :cool:

Newly_retired

Well my son is brilliant.
He always does the cooking when he's home, especially when there are guests at the weekend. He does an amazing Sunday roast, including the biggest Yorkshire puds you have ever seen. He does all the prepping, and the drinks, but draws the line at deserts.
And he clears up too.
I am really proud of him.