teens and drugs

picklekin

Bazey wrote: »

Are you sure it's not oregano?

You could be getting worked up over nothing.

This amused me, why would a 19 year old have a bag of oregano in their bags? hehe! :rotfl:

I would involve the father and get him to calmly talk to her about it, there is no need to act hastily, its only a bit of weed. I understand you want to protect the other children and don't want it in your house but I'd tred softly with this one

System

I don't know what weed smells like

NAR

Judi wrote: »

I don't know what weed smells like

I'll give you some on our next date! :rolleyes:

glitter_fairy

kaya wrote: »

Your worried she will make the same mistakes as you did? I'm making an assumption that you are a well balanced person with a reasonable standard of living and a few kids now, so you took drugs when you were younger , had a good time and didn't turn into a smack addicted prostitute , what mistakes exactly did you make then? I agree its your house and people should respect your wishes entirely but this is just another phase of growing up and unlike most of the posters on here you have had first hand experience of how weed doesn't live up to the propoganda you see on Jeremy Kyle and destroy lives ( assuming once again you aren't a destroyed life type of person), talk to her and discuss it like a grown up, be honest and give her the benefit of your experiences and she may respect your wishes rather than alienating her by going on the offensive

I have a criminal record, I suffer from mental health problems which has been linked back to my drug use. I have 2 friends who eneded up in mental health facilities and are still there from their drug use. I had to change careaers due to my convictions, i got beaten up so badly I had a miscarriage after I had stopped taking drugs by my ex dealer because i wouldnt take the any more.

Thats the sort of thing I dont want happening to her

Mojisola

Does this change whether you go away on holiday and leave her at home alone?

glitter_fairy

Mojisola wrote: »

Does this change whether you go away on holiday and leave her at home alone?

I dont know, I will deal with that closer to the time

peachyprice

glitter_fairy wrote: »

I have a criminal record, I suffer from mental health problems which has been linked back to my drug use. I have 2 friends who eneded up in mental health facilities and are still there from their drug use. I had to change careaers due to my convictions, i got beaten up so badly I had a miscarriage after I had stopped taking drugs by my ex dealer because i wouldnt take the any more.

Thats the sort of thing I dont want happening to her

And it won't if you talk to her frankly like an adult.

Damage to mental health is something I worry about with smoking weed/dope being considered the norm nowdays. Very few youngsters realise the risks involved.

I lost a dear friend at the age of 17 due to mental health problems exacerbated by dope, I can't touch the stuff because it makes me psychotic, I've tried it twice both times I had the worst trips of my life. So I do appreciate the effects more than some do.

I told both my sons about the effect is has on me, one has never tried it, one has and he admitted that it made him paranoid, I talked to him about finding the strength to admit that it doesn't suit and not being afraid to admit that he doesn't like it, it's a difficult thing to admit to when you're 18 and all your friend are doing it, but he did and his friends respect him for it. If I hadn't had a calm sensible discussion and told him of my own experience in a non-alarmist way he'd be at risk of damaging his mental health. You and your OH have to talk to her adult to adult.

One small consolation to bear in mind, this girl is not genetically linked to you and is less likely to be effected in the same way.

System

NAR wrote: »

I'll give you some on our next date! :rolleyes:

Next? You mean theres been a first?:eek:

I must have missed it.:rotfl:

Bazey

I would check her phone, make sure Tulisa is not one of her contacts.

Robin_TBW

Smoke it all while she's out.

or

Lie to her and tell her one of the younger kids found it and ate it. Get her feeling guilty.