Partners Cat is Mental

gettingready

FYI - I do not drink. At all.

I have a GS dog and 4 cats with 2 more arriving in about 10 days time.

So again, re your keyboard heroes comments to other people - have YOU been so brave and asked your partner to look at this thread ?

Horizon81

My post #81 may be sprinkled with a little humour but the issue still remains and you can tell I'm still taking it seriously. I've not said anything on here I haven't already said to her, including the dreaded new acronym I've learned of PTS. It's looking like either keep it or PTS are the only solutions.

calicocat

Horizon81 wrote: »

Good evening cat lovers!!! Nice to be called all the names under the sun but its like water off a ducks back to me (or should that be cat's back if you get the water sprayer out).

Yes I'm a despicable man for not wanting my partner to be covered in holes and bruises and goodness knows what sort of disease from a cats mouth. Thanks to the former vet on page 3 for reminding everyone how disgusting places cats mouths can be.

Well well well it turns out nobody wants the poor moggy. Cats homes don't want to know as soon as you say it bites, which leaves us with a bit of a conundrum. We've heard conflicting things on letting it outside after all this time. Some people say it will be ok, others say it's been a house cat for too long and letting it out wont help. But somethings gotta give.

I wonder if any of the cat lovers on here would take him in, hypothetically speaking of course. Or are you keyboard warriors happier just pouring vitriol on my idylic life (apart from the cat of course). I'm sure if this thing lived in your house you may think otherwise.

Thanks again for the constructive posts. Toys, water spray, diffusers have all been tried but with no effect. Cats homes don't want him. I'm *almost* starting to feel sorry for the poor mite.

Well on a rescue you from YOUR problem, my ninja-job won't tolerate any other cat within sight. However I do wonder why you are ringing rescues when i'm not sure your g/f has decided she wants rid of said psycho (the furry one). If she hasn't instigated this then it just isn't your place quite frankly.

You were bound to get cat lovers posting on here, and bound to get some comments you didn't like. It doesn't really sound like you want to try with the cat to be honest, also that you are bullying your g/f and already saying it's my way or the highway......good luck with that......that is what has peeved people on here as well as the attitude to the cat from what I can see..(which i'm sure you are more than capable of seeing for yourself).

Let's hope you have a better attitude if you do have kids, as you will need to establish some insight to something other than yourself
Don't feel sorry for the cat, try getting to know it, when you live with any animal you are sharing living space with that being, both parties have needs.

Here endeth the lesson.

Horizon81

There's no correlation between a cat and a child. One is expendable, one isn't. I know that sounds harsh but it's the way of the world. It's just an animal, and anyone on here who thinks otherwise and who isn't a vegetarian is nothing but a hippocrite.

What you're failing to understand is my partner is fed up with it too. It's not like it's all my doing. Long before I came on the scene she'd consulted vets on the issue and tried those diffuser thingies to try and calm it. All to no avail. It was her who first mentioned the fact it would be unsafe around children. Seriously, I can understand you're all cat lovers but try putting yourself in someone else's shoes. We haven't all got the time to nurture and rehabilitate pets. I fully believe you shouldnt get a pet unless you are fully committed to it and in my humble opinion this cat has been failed on 2 counts:

1. Kept indoors so unable to live out its natural instincts.
2. Not given enough attention in lieu of lack of stimulus from outside.

End result - one unhappy cat.

calicocat

Horizon81 wrote: »

There's no correlation between a cat and a child. One is expendable, one isn't. I know that sounds harsh but it's the way of the world. It's just an animal, and anyone on here who thinks otherwise and who isn't a vegetarian is nothing but a hippocrite.

What you're failing to understand is my partner is fed up with it too. It's not like it's all my doing. Long before I came on the scene she'd consulted vets on the issue and tried those diffuser thingies to try and calm it. All to no avail. It was her who first mentioned the fact it would be unsafe around children. Seriously, I can understand you're all cat lovers but try putting yourself in someone else's shoes. We haven't all got the time to nurture and rehabilitate pets. I fully believe you shouldnt get a pet unless you are fully committed to it and in my humble opinion this cat has been failed on 2 counts:

1. Kept indoors so unable to live out its natural instincts.
2. Not given enough attention in lieu of lack of stimulus from outside.

End result - one unhappy cat.

Fine, to be honest have been skin reading as haven't had tine to read all posts, but you had mentioned kids and I think that you had talked about it...and there is a correlation....its putting in time with a difficult 'child/kid', I think you have come across as someone who is a control freak and 'wants his own way'. So, you say g/f wants rid too, but she has been living this life with said mad cat for 4 years quite happily trolling along until you two have got together.

I live with a really psycho cat too, they take getting used to, but you need to try more, to be honest with a psycho one toys aren't the cure, it's about interaction and playing games, sometimes crazy games.....find your inner cat..it is in there somewhere (all cats are control freaks so there's a clue).

It IS possible you can and will get on......if you want to.

edit.....who is going to put a healthy cat down, if you really want rid you need to contact further rescues, there will be one that will accept her cat for sure.

mountainofdebt

Lets just hope that any children from this relationship doesn't have ADHD or some other similar condition........neither parent sounds as if they could cope with anything other than the 'perfect' child

Rev

I have a mentalist cat. She will bite anyone and everyone whenever she feels like. We've tried behaviourists. Felway. Spray bottles. Letting her out. Keeping her in etc.

Vet thinks she had a stroke as a kitten (she did have a 'fit' around 6 months). Was the sweetest thing before that.

She's 13 now. I'd not even consider getting her pts. Never have considered it. If my OH decided it was them or the cat they'd be gone ten seconds later.

But then I'd also never be with anyone who thinks pets ate expendable.

Horizon81

Rev wrote: »

She's 13 now. I'd not even consider getting her pts. Never have considered it. If my OH decided it was them or the cat they'd be gone ten seconds later.

You value your cat more than your partner? Nice relationship dynamic. Doesn't the fact it bites 'anyone and everyone whenever it feels like' make it difficult for you to have visitors to your house?

Thanks for your post though - it just proves some cats are beyond help.

Jojo_the_Tightfisted

Horizon81 wrote: »

Good evening cat lovers!!! Nice to be called all the names under the sun but its like water off a ducks back to me (or should that be cat's back if you get the water sprayer out).

Yes I'm a despicable man for not wanting my partner to be covered in holes and bruises and goodness knows what sort of disease from a cats mouth. Thanks to the former vet on page 3 for reminding everyone how disgusting places cats mouths can be.

Well well well it turns out nobody wants the poor moggy. Cats homes don't want to know as soon as you say it bites, which leaves us with a bit of a conundrum. We've heard conflicting things on letting it outside after all this time. Some people say it will be ok, others say it's been a house cat for too long and letting it out wont help. But somethings gotta give.

I wonder if any of the cat lovers on here would take him in, hypothetically speaking of course. Or are you keyboard warriors happier just pouring vitriol on my idylic life (apart from the cat of course). I'm sure if this thing lived in your house you may think otherwise.

Thanks again for the constructive posts. Toys, water spray, diffusers have all been tried but with no effect. Cats homes don't want him. I'm *almost* starting to feel sorry for the poor mite.

Alright then, I might have him. I'll need to speak to your Missus first, though, what with it being her cat and not yours.

Pollycat

Horizon81 wrote: »

What you're failing to understand is my partner is fed up with it too. It's not like it's all my doing. Long before I came on the scene she'd consulted vets on the issue and tried those diffuser thingies to try and calm it. All to no avail. It was her who first mentioned the fact it would be unsafe around children. Seriously, I can understand you're all cat lovers but try putting yourself in someone else's shoes. We haven't all got the time to nurture and rehabilitate pets. I fully believe you shouldnt get a pet unless you are fully committed to it and in my humble opinion this cat has been failed on 2 counts:

1. Kept indoors so unable to live out its natural instincts.
2. Not given enough attention in lieu of lack of stimulus from outside.

End result - one unhappy cat.

So the cat has been failed on 2 counts.

Where do you put the blame for that?

Er, I guess it will be your new partner then.

Why didn't your new partner let the cat go out when she first had it 4 years ago to provide stimulus?
Why didn't/doesn't your new partner give the cat enough attention to make up for that lack of stimulus?

Sounds to me that if you're using that 'dreaded new acronyn PTS' it would be better directed at your new partner rather than the neglected cat, as according to you your partner wasn't fit to have a pet as she obviously wasn't fully commited to its welfare.

And you're both blaming this poor cat for its behaviour!
Jeez, what a pair!

I already feel sorry for any kids that are unfortunate enough to come out of this relationship.