Partners Cat is Mental

zzzLazyDaisy

Jojo_the_Tightfisted wrote: »

Alright then, I might have him. I'll need to speak to your Missus first, though, what with it being her cat and not yours.

AWWWW Jojo, you are such a sweetie coming to their rescue like that. I am sure that Horizon and his gf will be delighted that you are able to step in and save their relationship. Piccies please when you get your new furbaby

Georgiegirl256

Call yourself an animal lover? Yeah right! All I'm getting from this thread is that youre a childish immature a***hole! One who can't even be bothered to try and work with the cat and try to resolve the situation.

Do you or your GF even play with the cat at all? Do you give it any attention at all? If not, therein lies the source of the problem.

You or the cat? Hmmm, not a difficult choice IMO, I'd have the cat any day over a control freak like you....

Horizon81

Pollycat wrote: »

So the cat has been failed on 2 counts.

Where do you put the blame for that?

Er, I guess it will be your new partner then.

Why didn't your new partner let the cat go out when she first had it 4 years ago to provide stimulus?
Why didn't/doesn't your new partner give the cat enough attention to make up for that lack of stimulus?


I already feel sorry for any kids that are unfortunate enough to come out of this relationship.

It's a bit low to keep saying we'd be shocking parents when we're talking about a cat not a child. Any chance you could try and be a bit less mean to my future kids?!

Anyway, coming back to your point above. Yes, I agree with you. I don't agree with 'house cats' - I think it's cruel, just like people who keep birds in averies. Not right at all! So maybe my partner's to blame for the cat's behaviour. I think she did used to give the cat a lot of attention but with a job that requires taking work home and having a man in her life, it's not like the olden days where she could sit giving it undivided attention all evening. Nevertherless, she reports that it has always occasionally bitten her, regardless of how she treat it.

valk_scot

Horizon81 wrote: »

There's no correlation between a cat and a child. One is expendable, one isn't. I know that sounds harsh but it's the way of the world. It's just an animal, and anyone on here who thinks otherwise and who isn't a vegetarian is nothing but a hippocrite.

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Hypocrite. Hippos are animals. Mostly vegetarian animals. Or was that a joke that I missed?


I think there's a great deal of correlation between children and animals, at least when it comes to looking after them. They're both totally dependant on you for all their basic needs and rely on you the parents/owners to bring them up in a socially acceptable fashion. If a frustrated, bored and angry two year old hits you would you chase it up the stairs and threaten it? I do hope not but you do seem to be a very all or nothing person, while your GF seems to have done the lazy parent thing of not actually paying much attention to the cat's behavioural problems till someone else objected.

Anyone who knows my oft repeated comments on these forums about childrearing know that I liken the way I brought my kids up to the way you rear pups...with a lot of love and attention, firm discipline and plenty of positive feedback when they got it right. "Wrong" behaviour like biting (many kids do bite, yes) got a very firm no. It works on pups, it works on kids, it works on cats too. I find myself saying "No!" to the cats in exactly the same tone as I did to the kids and it works just as well on both.


But you have to start young and you have to be consistent. A four year old cat is a full adult and you wouldn't let your child get to twenty-five before saying "Oops, he bites, better start trying to train him out of that bad habit." If your GF didn't make the effort to train out the natural pounce, bite and kill response from her house cat when he was young then it's mostly her fault that the cat is like this now tbh. Bit unfair on the cat to then decide to kill it for a natural behavioural trait. If you both decided to put a bit of long term sensible effort into training it then you might get some results even now, but you don't seem at all willing to do this. Poor cat.

Just don't ever get another pet, cat or dog. It's not fair on an animal to be brought into a house and treated like a disposable toy if it turns out to behave in what for it is a natural and normal way.

podperson

Horizon81 wrote: »

You value your cat more than your partner? Nice relationship dynamic. Doesn't the fact it bites 'anyone and everyone whenever it feels like' make it difficult for you to have visitors to your house?

Thanks for your post though - it just proves some cats are beyond help.

For me it would be more the fact that if my partner considered my cat 'expendable' and a problem to be got rid of rather than my much loved and extremely important to me pet then we obviously have different core values and attitudes to life so are probably not meant to be together. If you love someone and want to be with them then you accept the things that are important to them - whether you may agree with them or not.

Oh and my cat doesn't like other people, she has occasionally scratched and bit visitors - it does tend to be only when they 'annoy' her though. If they leave her alone she leaves them alone. If there's a large group or I think she might get stressed I put her in another room. It's a not a big deal and no one has ever refused to come to my house for fear of the 'psycho cat'.

gettingready

Horizon81 wrote: »

but with a job that requires taking work home and having a man in her life, it's not like the olden days where she could sit giving it undivided attention all evening.

You Tarzan her Jane?

:rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl::rotfl:

mcja

Having read this thread through it seems you have already made your mind up Horizon to get rid of the cat. Shame but please do it properly so it can have a happy home, maybe on a farm, maybe with a family.

My cats bite. My 14yo has always bitten hard if you touch her tail, paws head, back or tummy. She was abused as a kitten and those are all her tender areas. We know that and just let her sit on our laps, sleep on our bed and she comes to us. My sons 2yo Tomcat bits and scratches cos he is bored or !!!!ed off. Neither of them do it for no reason, but they both HATE being chased, hissed at or anything else you have tried on this cat.

I think the concern with children is that they can be little sods. (I have 2). They are actually very similar personalities to cats and if you are unable to cope with a bored, temperamental young cat how would you cope with a crying 12 month old who was bored of shopping, wants to walk but physically can't and is teething so you will not sleep at all for at least a week.

Please don't get this cat 'PTS', take JoJo up on the offer and let this cat be a devil cat somewhere it s happy and wanted. Not somewhere where it is scared every time you look at it.

Georgiegirl256

Horizon81 wrote: »

. I think she did used to give the cat a lot of attention but with a job that requires taking work home and having a man in her life.

Instead of 'man in her life', shouldn't that say BOY or BULLY? Delete as appropriate....

mcja

valk_scot wrote: »

Anyone who knows my oft repeated comments on these forums about childrearing know that I liken the way I brought my kids up to the way you rear pups...with a lot of love and attention, firm discipline and plenty of positive feedback when they got it right. "Wrong" behaviour like biting (many kids do bite, yes) got a very firm no. It works on pups, it works on kids, it works on cats too. I find myself saying "No!" to the cats in exactly the same tone as I did to the kids and it works just as well on both.

I regularly give my cats the glare, accompanied by what do you think you are doing....just like I do with the kids!! But then I call all their names when I am shouting the kids anyway!!

Pollycat

Horizon81 wrote: »

It's a bit low to keep saying we'd be shocking parents when we're talking about a cat not a child. Any chance you could try and be a bit less mean to my future kids?!

It's a bit low to consider having a cat PTS when it hasn't been treated very well, so, "no, there's no chance I could try (or even want to try) to be a bit less mean to your future kids".

Horizon81 wrote: »

Anyway, coming back to your point above. Yes, I agree with you. I don't agree with 'house cats' - I think it's cruel, just like people who keep birds in averies. Not right at all!

So you don't agree with house cats - but what about your new partner?
Does she agree with house cats?

You've not answered my question:

Pollycat wrote: »

Why didn't your new partner let the cat go out when she first had it 4 years ago to provide stimulus?

Horizon81 wrote: »

So maybe my partner's to blame for the cat's behaviour.

I think that your new partner definitely has to shoulder a lot of blame for this cat's behaviour.

Horizon81 wrote: »

I think she did used to give the cat a lot of attention but with a job that requires taking work home and having a man in her life, it's not like the olden days where she could sit giving it undivided attention all evening. Nevertherless, she reports that it has always occasionally bitten her, regardless of how she treat it.

Are you seriously saying that with her doing work at home and attending to you, she has no time at all for this cat?