Partners Cat is Mental

melli_2

Horizon81 wrote: »

You're 100% right. I am for real! Trolling isn't my scene. I had to google WUM - assumed it was some mumsnet style abbreviation.

And by the way, YABU !

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Horizon81

thistledome wrote: »

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If the choice is between my pet of 4 years who occasionally bites and a new partner who's already planning our future kids and plotting to get rid of said pet.....AINEC :eek:.

Two years from now there'll be a thread on here by a miserable woman who's married to a moody control freak who's insanely jealous of their new baby getting all the attention. She'll end the post with "....I should have known what he was like right from the start; he made me get rid of my lovely cat because he said it was evil...."

Just kidding. I hope

The point you're missing is she's always had issues with the cat - never been happy with it biting her and always thought about whether to keep it or not. I'm merely trying to accelerate some progress in the matter. It's not as if I've stomped into her life demanding she get rid of it. She's already half way there. You could say I'm a CATalyst for change!? I'm just too good at these jokes.

thistledome

Horizon81 wrote: »

Yes she has a strong bond with the cat and she may keep it if she wants but she has the blinkers on. Me or any other fella wouldn't want to put up with it.

Horizon81 wrote: »

I think she did used to give the cat a lot of attention but with a job that requires taking work home and having a man in her life, it's not like the olden days where she could sit giving it undivided attention all evening.

Horizon81 wrote: »

This cat has had a lot of love and attention from my partner historically, but it's obviously not made a blind bit of difference. My appearance has not made things any different.

Sorry OP, I'm not buying it. You sound resentful and jealous of this cat and it's important place in your new partner's life and affections and you've done the classic male thing of making it a personal battle between you and the cat: and you MUST WIN.

Poor puss

stir_crazy

I feel sorry for the poor cat.

As for your lovely comment about animals being expendable, it just shows your true colours - you're an animal lover but its fine to get rid of the cat because you don't like it? God help your kids if they turn out to have behavioural problems.

Georgiegirl256

They say cats are a good judge of character....I think this one has weighed you up fairly accurately! :rotfl:

Celli

Odd that the OP hasn't said a dicky about the two offers of a home for the cat , if it were me, Id have bitten their hand off at the offer.

jungle_jane

Celli wrote: »

if it were me, Id have bitten their hand off

You'd be in competition with the cat:rotfl:

Rev

Horizon81 wrote: »

You value your cat more than your partner? Nice relationship dynamic. Doesn't the fact it bites 'anyone and everyone whenever it feels like' make it difficult for you to have visitors to your house?

Thanks for your post though - it just proves some cats are beyond help.

She's the type that will leave people alone if they leave her alone. Don't and she'll scratch/bite.

She doesn't go out of her way to do it. And she does it because she's scared. She's never bitten a visitor. She's hissed at many then I've chased her off.

She's been here 13/14 years. Any partner moving in would have to accept that she was here to stay. Simple. Any relationship I have comes with the stipulation of 'love me love my pets'. Not love me, put up with them until you get your feet under the table then try and pressure me into getting rid of them. I don't value the cat more than a partner. I value a partner that respects me and doesn't try and pressure me into doing something I'm not happy to do.

redskyatnight_2

Feel a bit sorry for you OP. Hope this manages to get sorted

Rev

Horizon81 wrote: »

I pity your poor cuckolded partner, having to play second fiddle to a cat. Some of us men actually have a pair.

This cat has had a lot of love and attention from my partner historically, but it's obviously not made a blind bit of difference. My appearance has not made things any different.

Sorry. I have been confused all my life. For a man to 'have a pair' it means he likes to pressure his OH into doing things she doesn't want to do and sees living things as 'expendable'.

Ps. I can say that apparently because I'm vegetarian.