My moody 10 year old son.

jaxjax123

herand wrote: »

How would you feel being forced into going to activities on your day off, with no consideration for your interests and opinions ?

Well done for eventually seeing some sense on something so obvious.
Ask your son what he wants to do.

It's not as if he was at all forced, I asked him if he wanted to go. I planned it with him i mind, chips and arcade.

Then this morning he started to have a change of heart.

floss2

OP, when is his birthday, is he just 10 or almost 11?

jaxjax123

floss2 wrote: »

OP, when is his birthday, is he just 10 or almost 11?

11 in a month

HeadAboveWater

jaxjax123 wrote: »

See that was my plan today we were cycling for chips and a couple of pound in the arcade but things he does like. But he couldn't muster the energy. He just wanted to drive. :cool:

Yeah the girls like that bit too! We usually stick Justin Timberlake Sexy Back on at full blast and let them sing away in the back seat

jaxjax123

My lad loves Bruno Mars. We know the CD order by heart. I must use the shuffle button, mix it up a bit.

paulineb_2

jaxjax123 wrote: »

See that was my plan today we were cycling for chips and a couple of pound in the arcade but things he does like. But he couldn't muster the energy. He just wanted to drive. :cool:
I remember as a kid being fitter than my parents, now I'm fitter than my son. Hopefully not for too long

Get him involved in a kids exercise class. I teach fitness classes and Ive just finished a kids teaching qualification and I did a 30 minute session as part of my qualification with a group of 8 year old kids. They enjoyed it.

I think part of the problem will be, if you have a car and he gets driven most places, he'll be used to that.

Or if he doesnt want to go to a structured class surely there are some fitness games on the x box that he can do at home.

Or even get some videos from youtube (there are fitness instructors who upload 20 min videos which could easily be adapted to suit kids) and do them in the home.

Or simply a walk, if you do a 20 min walk, you get so many minutes on the xbox.

jaxjax123

paulineb wrote: »

Get him involved in a kids exercise class. I teach fitness classes and Ive just finished a kids teaching qualification and I did a 30 minute session as part of my qualification with a group of 8 year old kids. They enjoyed it.

I think part of the problem will be, if you have a car and he gets driven most places, he'll be used to that.

Or if he doesnt want to go to a structured class surely there are some fitness games on the x box that he can do at home.

Or even get some videos from youtube (there are fitness instructors who upload 20 min videos which could easily be adapted to suit kids) and do them in the home.

Or simply a walk, if you do a 20 min walk, you get so many minutes on the xbox.

When we play the xbox with him he always chooses the ones which involve being more active which is surprising.

It is a shame we now live so far from his school but we moved at the start of year 5 and I thought it would be too disruptive. Before that we walked 25 minutes each way to school everyday (except in the rain). We used to love it just that 18 months has made such a difference. When he starts secondary he will be able to walk again will only take 15 minutes or so.

Sometimes if I am exercising he joins in for a laugh which is good fun.

peachyprice

red_devil wrote: »

take it away i agree its bad for kids to sit on those things all day long?

And what exactly do you think that will achieve? You think taking it away and ostracising him from his friend will make him more compliant?

Hi x-box is probably bis way of keeping in touch with friends from school that he doesn't live near.

WhichWayNow

I'm not a parent, but I know abit about the children gaming aspect.

The Xbox really shouldn't be in his bedroom. It should be in the living room. This way, he isn't sitting in a secluded room. Having other people moving/being around him while he plays will break his focus every now and then. Watch him, interact, play even...just give him something else to focus on while playing.

Secondly, there is a timer feature on the Xbox. Limit his playing to 4/5(?) hours a day. Remind him that his gaming time should be controlled by himself...if he uses it all up in the morning, instead of maybe 2 hours in the morning and the rest later in the day, that's up to him.

z.n

peachyprice wrote: »

And what exactly do you think that will achieve? You think taking it away and ostracising him from his friend will make him more compliant?

Hi x-box is probably bis way of keeping in touch with friends from school that he doesn't live near.

This is our situation- we live a long way from school and friends so the online gaming is their way of socialising after school. I think you have to be flexible about it- but that does not mean there should be no limits or that other outdoor activities are neglected.