My moody 10 year old son.

jaxjax123

I just don't know what to do with my 10 year old son. I am haing so much trouble trying to connect with him these days. All he wants to do is sit in his room and play xbox.

As he had a day off of school I thought I'd say "Hey how about a bike ride?"
This was meant with comments such as "Don't you think it's too hot?" and "I don't have a bike license!"

I was determined to take him, so I strapped the bikes to the back of the car and off we went. We set off and we cycled 300 metres and he stopped for 7 breaks because his legs hurt :mad:

After me getting cross and another 2 breaks we decided to call it a day he didn't even ride his bike back to the car because it was 'embarrassing'.

I'm so disappointed I am quite outgoing and like to spend time outside and he is completely opposite. I've tried to get him to learn to swim, ride his bike, geocaching (which I love, he hates). He just has no get up and go.

I have tried to ask him what gets him excited and we will do that and can you guess....... being on the xbox. He is like a moody teenager way too early. I just don't know what to do with him.

floss2

TBH, it just sounds like he's turning into a teenager. Don't forget that kids allegedly mature earlier than when we were kids...I know my own sons started with the typical teenage traits at around 12, and they are both in their late twenties now.

glitter_fairy

you cant make him like what you like

what about joining in things he likes?

jaxjax123

He does seem to be 'teenage' already. He grunts instead of talks, wants to stay I bed all day and when he does talk to us it's to say he is upset or embarrassed.
If he is going to be like this early perhaps he will come out the other side early too.

Hudson1984

be firm but fair take the damned xbox off him for a portion of the week - please bare in mind I have no children so pretty easy to suggest "simple" solutions but!! I will say this, my parents were quite strict with me as a child and I was expected to play out which I loved once I got out there but resented them for it - they are now my best friends and I couldn't thank them enough for the lessons they taught me growing up.

But then this does seem like the world we're living in - people would prefer to play a game on screan than play it in real life.

valk_scot

Puberty strikes again! It starts well ahead of the actual teenage years, remember.

jaxjax123

glitter_fairy wrote: »

you cant make him like what you like

what about joining in things he likes?

I have tried that, I asked him what he wants to do and he just wants to do xbox and in fairness we do have a games day with him a couple of times a month. I just want him to see some daylight apart from school.

red_devil

take it away i agree its bad for kids to sit on those things all day long?

glitter_fairy

jaxjax123 wrote: »

I have tried that, I asked him what he wants to do and he just wants to do xbox and in fairness we do have a games day with him a couple of times a month. I just want him to see some daylight apart from school.

does he have friends over? does that perk him up at all?

Melaniep101

My 11 year old stepson is the same, we can't get him to do anything! He is obsessed with the Xbox and more recently his Ipad to the point where that's the only thing he will talk about. Weirdly, the only other thing he does enjoy, is baking (his mum won't let him near the oven at home, so it's a treat for him to be trusted at our house).

I really think kids get so absorbed in gaming, but to the point where it's unhealthy. We have to limit the time spent doing it while he's staying with us.

Maybe you could both try some new things together, to see if anything floats his boat? E.g. Fishing, baking, playing an instrument, climbing (those wall things), try a dry ski slope?

jaxjax123

valk_scot wrote: »

Puberty strikes again! It starts well ahead of the actual teenage years, remember.

Yes I think thats what I'm facing isn't it. It's hard I look at him and he is still very much a child but his mind is much more adult than I give him credit for.