So confused right now :(

tayforth

sparkles22 wrote: »

Fox I know how incredibly lucky I have been; some people are lucky to be offered one property in their lifetime.
think I know what I have to do. Doesn't make it any less terrifying though

Do you have any accommodation options other than moving in with your boyfriend?

What's the 'terrifying' thing that you have to do?

Foxn86

sparkles22 wrote: »

Fox I know how incredibly lucky I have been; some people are lucky to be offered one property in their lifetime.
think I know what I have to do. Doesn't make it any less terrifying though

You will be fine i got my first house at 19 with my hubby and baby. Had nothing nt even cuttlery. But you build up now 8 years down the line i have everything and my house just the way i want it.
Go for it you only live once ! and like i say you can walk away from a council flat if the situation changes.

And gumtree is fabby for washing machines etc until your on your feet !

sparkles22

Lazy Daisy, I know how I appear. I'm not usually as ridiculous as this, I swear!

Im 23, have a degree, an alright job, and am in control of all other areas of my life. I admit that I am really close to my mum; she brought me up on her own with no help from my biological dad; and her opinion is of the utmost importance to me.

You're right about one thing though, when I'm with my parents I do feel like a little girl.

paulineb_2

sparkles22 wrote: »

I'm just so angry right now. For years I've plodded along, as have my parents, in the assumption that they would be able to transfer the house to me one day. Obviously it may happen, but equally it may not. I just feel really frustrated, like the rug has been pulled from under my feet or something

You know, I took a house in one of the worst schemes in my area because I wasnt priority for a council house as I didnt have kids and wasnt deemed vulnerable. There are days where I have thought to myself, what the hell am I doing here. But I have a roof over my head, I didnt have much money when I moved in but I managed to furnish my flat, from top to bottom complete with second hand stuff and cheapish furniture for about £800 and most of the stuff I bought then I still have and use.

My mum has bought her council house which she will eventually pass onto me and my brother, hes just bought a house with his partner and hes happy for me to live in it, but that could be 20 or 30 years away, because I hope my mum is around for a long time yet. And if I never got that house or get that house, it wouldnt matter to me, its bricks and mortar, people are important.

There are points in this life when you have to make your own way in the world and deal with the kicks in the teeth life gives you.

Im not sure you are sure yourself why you are turning this down, because you are scared to move in with your bf, because it would be yours and not his, because its been promised to you. Or because your parents will kick up a fuss if you take the council house offer?

The point is, if you take this council house, all you are going to be doing is buying furniture, no more and no less. You dont need to spend a fortune and if and when this other flat becomes available, you can give it away or sell it on, ebay it for example.

Im sorry that you are disappointed but this isnt the end of the world as you know it. And if you really really do not want to take this offer of a house, as I said before, let your bf take it, he can furnish it, you could spend weekends with him or how much you want to and when and if you do get the other property you can make a decision on whether he moves in with you or not.

Living your life on what ifs and maybes really isnt the best way to go. Or to please other people either.

sparkles22

Tayforth, the terrifying thing is' I'm going to give it a go.
I can't let me past keep on ruling my future.

mountainofdebt

A bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.


Enough said

sparkles22

Oh I should also say that we currently live with our respective parents

System

Personally i think half the fun of setting up home with the one you love is that you set up home bit by bit. That would be taken off me if i took over someone elses home, furniture and all.

shelley_crow

The council will have a list of people longer than your arm that are after housing. I think I'd be inclined to accept the flat they have offered you instead of waiting for one your parents are in. Playing devil's advocate but:

What if your parents move into the house your step dad bought and the council refuse to reassign the tenancy to you? Could happen, if you've turned down the offers you have to date, you go to the bottom of the housing list, that's what happens here anyway.

The wait for social housing only ever seems to increase, I think you'd be doing yourself a disservice if you hang on for something that might not happen for a long while. If you move and don't like it, you can apply to exchange with other tenants.

lolavix

I'm going against the grain here...but you've been offered council housing and are thinking of turning it down? Think yourself damn lucky, I have no choice at the moment but to live with friends as. Cannot get council housing.

Don't look a gift horse in the mouth.

Sorry if I've read this thread wrong but you are coming across as a 'princess'.