Being too generous and how to stop?

gettingbackontrack

Tixy wrote: »

Last para of #69

Anyway can people try not to get sidetracked from the OP's original question. Everyone can we leave this thread to either get back on topic or fade please.

That comment on post number 69 wasn't mine.

Not that I don't agree though.

OP, I'm not sure I can offer any constructive advice on how not to be too generous as I think your other half sounds like a parasite. It's not easy to understand from your post why you would give him the time of day, but we only see part of the story.

You are paying off your debt, bringing up two children and working, which is an amazing thing and I hope you don't allow internet bullies to bother you.

I'm DELIGHTED you're claiming what you're entitled to regarding benefits. Good luck to you.:)

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel

Sorry for delay in replying, ive been busy with kids.

There aren't inconsistances in my posts, nor are there contradictions. There are however, a lot of assumptions which has got tangled up with what I've put which has caused confusion.

I think - rather than this going round in circles I shall let it fade - I'm gonna go down the 'can't afford it' route and hide bank cards. Thank you all (even those who havent been the most helpful) for your replies.

Mimi x

gettingbackontrack

Mimi_Arc_en_ciel wrote: »

Sorry for delay in replying, ive been busy with kids.

There aren't inconsistances in my posts, nor are there contradictions. There are however, a lot of assumptions which has got tangled up with what I've put which has caused confusion.

I think - rather than this going round in circles I shall let it fade - I'm gonna go down the 'can't afford it' route and hide bank cards. Thank you all (even those who havent been the most helpful) for your replies.

Mimi x

Good luck. I really hope things work out because you've made some amazing progress on your debts during tough times. Best wishes to you and your little ones.

The_Boss

Deary deary me :rotfl:

Mimi, I don't think there's much I can really add to what I've said before but just remember...if things don't change and in a few years time you are still in the same position with him (back to arguing lots when he moves back in, still sponging off you etc) then you will have less of your life to live in a happier manner and with someone who doesn't see you as a means to subsidise their lifestyle. Plus, no doubt you will have less money too.

Don't see the kids as a reason to stay with him if he is using you and refuses to change his financial habits. And don't just assume you will always be together - there are too many alarm bells with this guy.

MEM62

Give him an ultimatum but don't be surprised if he takes a hike because you are no longer prepared to be a meal ticket.

On second thoughts, just dump him.

gettingbackontrack

The_Boss wrote: »

Deary deary me :rotfl:

I'm not sure what this poster means by his "deary me" and the use of the graphic. Very odd.

He may want to explore his spelling of "deary me" because he may find himself embarrassed by its inaccuracy.... But no matter.

Good luck to the OP with her relationship and with her family.

angelpye

Good luck