Wedding Help for Indecisive Couple Please!

Mojisola

jlp100 wrote: »

The deal is me and my chap are getting married in Vegas next year - sorted. We will have about 6 friends with us there. Great.

The other part of it is that my partner's son (who will be 14) will be missing out on the wedding with Vegas being no place for a kid with a group of adults (no other kids are coming).

jlp100 wrote: »

He has never been left out... he has always at the forefront of our minds. I should have been clear but nothing has been set in stone and this is why I posted on the forum.

I'm glad you've been able to work out something that suits you but readers can only judge from what you say!

jlp100

Mojisola wrote: »

I'm glad you've been able to work out something that suits you but readers can only judge from what you say!

I understand I haven't been too clear, it was quite late when I did my OP. Apologies.

lostinrates

jlp100 wrote: »

We are looking at a budget of around £1200, but this is for a party of around 50 people. May I ask how many yours was for... how you went about it etc... thanks x :beer:

Two! Well, four.....we had two friends as witnesses, chosen from many dear friends because they were couple we both love and that meant they could share transport more easily than if we chose two single friends we both loved.

We are a totally different kettle of fish, no children you see, and our immediate family are not in one or even two countries, so arranging the large weeding our parents were putting on was getting more complicated and what we want was being lost along the way. Getting married just the two of us actually turned out to be more romantic than I imagine our big plans would have been and set a beautiful president,..it's him and me together, we prize our relationship above everything else tbh.

lewisD70

jlp100 wrote: »

I don't want him to feel like he is missing out on such a big part of his dad's life so I thought we could married in 'secret' here where his son, his sisters and my mum & dad can attend (none of these can make Vegas so to have the most important people be there would be quite nice & intimate and they are getting the last laugh being at THE marriage). However, its how you go about it on a small intimate business I don't want it to blow up but I'm thinking ahead and not sure what to do after we have the ceremony and not wanting to get the cost getting out of hand. Also if people find out they could have attended here do people get a cob on cos they didn't get invited to this... (my head's gonna pop!).:

This is YOUR day. If you have an intimate gathering for close family only that is your decision. You've chosen those people to go to Vegas with you for a reason, just like how you want to opt for a private family only gathering for those that cannot make it.

Don't stress yourself into pleasing everyone. This is meant to be about you and your fiance.

pigpen

At 14 I don't suppose his son will be that fussed about missing a wedding, I know mine probably couldn't care less, it wouldn't change things for him.

I can't see the point in getting married here then a fake wedding there, it seems a waste of time and money.. why not get married before with the people who mean the most in your life.. parents, children, etc and use the holiday as a kind of honeymoon and have a large everyone invited party when you get back.

Person_one

lewisD70 wrote: »

This is YOUR day. If you have an intimate gathering for close family only that is your decision. You've chosen those people to go to Vegas with you for a reason, just like how you want to opt for a private family only gathering for those that cannot make it.

Don't stress yourself into pleasing everyone. This is meant to be about you and your fiance.

OP, I'm really glad you decided to consider other people and not be swayed by the 'wedding craziness' mentality that its ok to be completely selfish just because you're getting married!

I was actually going to suggest having a small wedding here with everybody who matters to you and making the Vegas trip the honeymoon, so I think you've got it right now.

jlp100

lostinrates wrote: »

Two! Well, four.....we had two friends as witnesses, chosen from many dear friends because they were couple we both love and that meant they could share transport more easily than if we chose two single friends we both loved.

We are a totally different kettle of fish, no children you see, and our immediate family are not in one or even two countries, so arranging the large weeding our parents were putting on was getting more complicated and what we want was being lost along the way. Getting married just the two of us actually turned out to be more romantic than I imagine our big plans would have been and set a beautiful president,..it's him and me together, we prize our relationship above everything else tbh.

that's lovely. Thanks for responding.... i'm just a bit afraid its going to escalate the costs... oh we'll just do this and just do that but it all adds up and we still have Vegas to save for...

Thanks again x:)

lostinrates

jlp100 wrote: »

that's lovely. Thanks for responding.... i'm just a bit afraid its going to escalate the costs... oh we'll just do this and just do that but it all adds up and we still have Vegas to save for...

Thanks again x:)

If it's just your very nearest and dearest you could have a morning appt at the registry office in time to get back to a family lunch at home...so, no more than Christmas, Easter or a birthday ...:)