Wedding Help for Indecisive Couple Please!

Moggins_2

If I wasn't already married I couldn't imagine not having my son there. I'd rather get married in the uk and have all my friends and family there than go to Vegas if the key family members couldn't afford to go. Couldn't you leave the Vegas trip as a birthday celebration? I'd also be a big annoyed if someone trampled all over my birthday by having a wedding at the same time

PasturesNew

jlp100 wrote: »

I may not have been completely clear. Me & friends were actually going on holiday to Vegas anyway we have added the wedding while we are there.

Oh, in that case I'd be pleased you weren't getting married there any more as that'd have involved logistics of another outfit, a day out of the "holiday" and how to smuggle your present in my case.

duchy

So why not take son with you -maybe with another family member -have him there for the wedding then he and family member can fly to LA-do Disney for a couple of days before either rejoining you or flying home ? Although Vegas isn't "child friendly" there is more than enough to keep a 14 year old occupied for several days (or do you think he'd cramp your style ?) My son enjoyed it at fourteen.

Must admit I don't see the point of the Vegas ceremony if you're already married. I could understand you wanting a Vegas wedding if you didn't want family there for whatever reasons but it seems you are just doing it twice and might as well just call Vegas your honeymoon and enjoy it holidaying with friends. It does sound a bit like you are trying to "top" their special birthdays by getting married-and if they don't know in advance might not be as thrilled as you expect !

I suspect your family would be thrilled they can attend your wedding after all -rather than you choosing to do it thousands of miles away without them there !

CharlieRabbit01

Could you have a blessing in the UK after your vegas wedding instead?

Toto

We originally decided to get married in Florida, just us and the kids. Make it a holiday/honeymoon, sorted. So, I booked just that. The problem was that my family here said that we needed to do something for our friends and family in the UK so we didn't upset anyone. Then his family in Canada said, you must come over here and have a ceremony so all of his friends and family can be involved. It was turning into 3 weddings. In the end, we decided to scale it all down. We picked a weekend 3 weeks away and told everyone this is when we're getting married, if you can come great, if not, we understand.

You need to weigh up what's more important to you, having the wedding you want or not upsetting people. Some people will always be upset no matter what but you need to do what you're most comfortable with. I really can't see the point in getting married here and then getting married again in Vegas. I can see the point more of having the wedding in Vegas and a blessing here afterwards.

duchy

Is your OH not keen on a traditional wedding here so Vegas was a way of "persuading" them by any chance ?

Errata

Sounds to me there'll be far less hassle, upsets and people having a whine/winge/huff if the 14 year old goes to Vegas as well.

lostinrates

PasturesNew wrote: »

Me too - they're probably on another forum asking for help for saving, cancelling their own holiday plans, scrimping/saving/stressing and wishing they didn't have to go....

Usually I would agree, but the OP says it was a group holiday covering two (?) big birthdays as well as the wedding and they all wanted to go to Vegas.

A good example of birds of a feather flock together? Because I cannot imagine anything worse! But if it suits them and they make arrangements to ensure the son is shown his importance then....well, they wouldn't do loads I do either I guess!

TeamLowe

tbh if the current plan is causing you so much stress and consternation, and regret it seems about who will see you get married is it really the plan for you?

if you're having a ceremony here with your nearest and dearest and then a big party when you get back, how is that different to a 'traditional' wedding, apart from the time lapse?

you could get married late afternoon, a meal at a restaurant with your 'important' people, then go have your big party with everyone. or just the party.

personally if it was me i'd go back to basics and write a list of who i want to be at my wedding, actually witness the exchanging of vows. then plan around that. after all the ceremony is the most important part

when i got married, i originally wanted a small intimate wedding. then i thought of everyone i wanted to be at the wedding and it came to about 40 people, with DH wanting another 20-30.
so i had to accept that it wouldn't be a small intimate wedding. it would be a great celebration of our love with everyone who was important to me and a massive party.
it was the best day of my life and i don't regret a thing x

jlp100

pasturesnew wrote: »

me too - they're probably on another forum asking for help for saving, cancelling their own holiday plans, scrimping/saving/stressing and wishing they didn't have to go....

helpful... Thanks...

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