Not entitled to ANY benefit .... SKINT!

shegirl

nannytone wrote: »

i dont say the benefit system is inadequate.
i have said that the reduction in houysing benefit is unfair because the smaller properties are not available for people to move into.
that is a mayyer of social housing, and not benefit rates.
i have also said that i will manage, but many other people won;t be able to.

if a friend comes round, i dont charge them for the teabag/milk/sugar either.
i have also said that it cosys no more to feed my grandson than it does to feed myself, as he eats fresh veg/fruit/pasta and not processed foods.
in fact of anything, it is cheaper when he is here because i can buy the larger, more cost efgfective sizes.

and no ... he doesnt stay in the spare room as there is no bed in there ... in fact all that is in there is carpet and curtains. he sleeps with me in my bed

Nanny,no offence meant but,he sleeps in your bed with you?And during summer he stays for 4 weeks?How old is he?

Don't you think you should make use of the spare room for him?

Dunroamin

princessdon wrote: »

I just think it's a sad world when grandparents say £10 to keep X overnight. Not my idea of society at all!

There's a difference between grandparents demanding keep for visiting grandchildren and parents (who receive money from public funds for the keep) not insisting on passing it on, particularly when they are working and the grandparents are struggling on benefits.

nannytone_2

shegirl wrote: »

Nanny,no offence meant but,he sleeps in your bed with you?And during summer he stays for 4 weeks?How old is he?

Don't you think you should make use of the spare room for him?

i never said 4 weeks ... i said for weeks at a time ... meaning around 2.
yes he sleeps in my bed with me. he will be 9 in july. i dont see that is inappropriate.
i used to get the fold up bed from my friends for him, but he chose to sleep in my bed instead. im not buying a bed just for him cos within the next year or 2 he wont want to stay anymore! and there is always the sofa if he does.

nannytone_2

Dunroamin wrote: »

There's a difference between grandparents demanding keep for visiting grandchildren and parents (who receive money from public funds for the keep) not insisting on passing it on, particularly when they are working and the grandparents are struggling on benefits.

i said he comes down with money. he pays for any trips i take him on. my daughter wouldnt complain if i spent it on food instead.
and they only receive child benefit, so it isnt like theyre raking in child related benefits and spending it on themselves

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Please for the love of all things holy stop posting everything in bold nannytone, it's disruptive when trying to read your posts Thankyou.

MamaMoo_2

citricsquid wrote: »

Please for the love of all things holy stop posting everything in bold nannytone, it's disruptive when trying to read your posts Thankyou.

Nannytone posts in bold as she is registered blind, and it helps her to read what she's writing. Personally I don't find it disruptive, it's just bold. Better than some posts with a deadly layout and an overuse of the formatting tools. (There was a grumpy git on the PV&W board the other day who abused smileys and full stops...)

Also, @Shegirl, there's nothing wrong with a grandson of such a young age sharing a bed with a grandparent. Especially as the spare room has no bed. If it was a problem I'm sure nannytone's daughter could buy a cheap second hand bed or inflatable mattress
I remember sharing a bed with my nan for a two week holiday when I was 10. Wasn't an issue at all.

CKhalvashi

MamaMoo wrote: »

Also, @Shegirl, there's nothing wrong with a grandson of such a young age sharing a bed with a grandparent. Especially as the spare room has no bed. If it was a problem I'm sure nannytone's daughter could buy a cheap second hand bed or inflatable mattress
I remember sharing a bed with my nan for a two week holiday when I was 10. Wasn't an issue at all.

I agree with this wholeheartedly.

I grew up in a country where it was common for entire families to share a house (there were 9 of us, living in a 5 room (3 bedroom) apartment, across 3 generations.

Although this may sound cramped, we were from a diplomatic/medical family, so we were one of the lucky ones.

In the USSR, when I was small, you did as the government said and didn't argue, although I will vouch that we were well catered for when my father was re-jobbed (3 years before the union broke up).

CK

dodger1

dktreesea wrote: »

I thought this section of the forum was about helping people to get their entitlement, or to at least organise their affairs so that they can do just that, not slamming them for asking.....

I completely agree as long as person doesn't leave out important information as appears to be the case here. OP said she is skint but appears to have £50,000 at the moment and a working partner. OP has not come back to argue her position.

dktreesea

princessdon wrote: »

i do have a gold up bed

a gold bed - no wonder you manage

(joke)

Actually I do think it's totally wrong for grandparents or relatives to expect parents to pay. It seems against my morals for that, if you offer, you offer unconditionally.

Gran is less well off financially and too ill to leave all the children (but I do leave my eldest, but they both think they know who is babysitting who) for an hour or so. If I gave money to gran to feed her I'd have a flea in my backside.

My parents would see it as an insult too


But ... I'd make it up it other ways and I always offer, it's rejected but I offer and will send the kids with cash to "pop in granddad's coffee jar", it makes it way back, but I tried.

I want to give it as they have less income, they see it as an insult so it is a hard line to draw.

I'd be heartedly insulted if someone paid me to look after a relative but if I was on the bones of my backside I'm sure they'd offer anyway.

At least you offer.

Some grandparents do feel taken for granted on the childcare front. I've known a couple parents who take the tack that DS or DD is their parents' grandchild, and that the GPs should be delighted, grateful even, that the parents choose to give them some time with their DS /DD. And those same parents get offended if they are asked to contribute to the cost of providing childcare for the grandchild.

One of those parents in now upset with me , because I encouraged her mum and dad to spend their whole summers up here at their holiday home at the beach rather than just a couple of weeks a year, "seriously disrupting" (her words, not mine) her childcare arrangements.