My partner is always in a bad mood with me so sad

FBaby

BugglyB wrote: »

As I said I understand worry. Just not anger. Not 'how dare you stay out so late'. Not, 'I'd be furious if my partner stayed out that late'.

I would get very worried if my partner wasn't home by 3am and I couldn't get a hold of him. That worry would turn into anger if he acted as if I had been silly to be worry or apologised but clearly didn't consider he had done anything wrong. That would be denying how I have been feeling and that would make me angry.

As a matter of fact, in my case, knowing that this is something that would make me very worried, I would just be angry that they'd 'just' forgotten to contact me to reassure me.

BugglyB

FBaby wrote: »

I would get very worried if my partner wasn't home by 3am and I couldn't get a hold of him. That worry would turn into anger if he acted as if I had been silly to be worry or apologised but clearly didn't consider he had done anything wrong. That would be denying how I have been feeling and that would make me angry.

As a matter of fact, in my case, knowing that this is something that would make me very worried, I would just be angry that they'd 'just' forgotten to contact me to reassure me.

Well its a good job we're not married then isn't it FBaby :rotfl::o

sassyblue

minnie123 wrote: »

Well he has still been moody on and off every day I just feel down and cant deal with it tbh I dont know what to do.

I am finding things hard to deal with at the moment even thinking about it is a stuggle.

What about asking him what he expects from you and why he is upset?

And see how acceptable his response is.

justme111

people, she said already - SHE CAN NOT TALK TO HIM. She finds it difficult even walk past him by what she describes.
why you suggesting again and again and again for them "to talk"

j.e.j.

justme111 wrote: »

people, she said already - SHE CAN NOT TALK TO HIM. She finds it difficult even walk past him by what she describes.
why you suggesting again and again and again for them "to talk"

What is the alternative?
Even if she ups and leaves, she's still got to talk to him, as there's a child involved.

duckeggblue

As regards restricting your use of the car- to go back to that point
Under abuse-domestic violence and abuse-signs
https://www.helpguide.org
Lists restricting use of the car as part of controlling behaviour.. Because it is.

gazzak_2

Hi Minnie,

Read this recent thread by Tayforth. From my perspective there is little difference. You shouldn't have to go through life with losers like your BF.

https://forums.moneysavingexpert.com/discussion/4538789

Just read a few pages of the thread.

sassyblue

justme111 wrote: »

people, she said already - SHE CAN NOT TALK TO HIM. She finds it difficult even walk past him by what she describes.
why you suggesting again and again and again for them "to talk"

Hence my suggestion that she asks him what he expects which would hopefully lead to a discussion.

The OP has to talk to him, they are in a relationship and have a child together.

paulineb_2

justme111 wrote: »

people, she said already - SHE CAN NOT TALK TO HIM. She finds it difficult even walk past him by what she describes.
why you suggesting again and again and again for them "to talk"

Well if someone doesnt talk then they are going to spend years going on like this.

Unless she leaves. Or he does. Doing nothing isnt going to make matters any better.

FBaby

BugglyB wrote: »

Well its a good job we're not married then isn't it FBaby :rotfl::o

:rotfl:
Who knows, it's all about compromises and people change! I know for a fact that if my partner and I had met in our 20s, we would have hated each other!!!